Throw yourself a Pity Party

I want you to think of your 3 most prominent negative beliefs or stories about WHY you are not already with your soulmate.

Is it because someone has betrayed you and you have a belief that all Men (or women) lie or cheat or something like that?

Is one of your beliefs or stories that there is something wrong with you and that is the cause of your aloneness?

Or do you believe that you are too old or too fat or too broke or too damaged?

Lets take just a few minutes and think about your 3 most predominant beliefs or stories….then, if you are willing to finally overcome these stories, do this exercise.

Write down the entire story and make a strong argument for why it is absolutely your TRUTH.

Give every ugly detail and feel free to exaggerate it and make it even worse than you remember.

Read through this a few times and then burn the pages as you say this prayer:

Dear God, Goddess and All That Is,    

I am now willing to release this story about why I cannot have Big Love in my life.

I am now willing to forgive and let go of this completely.

In this moment I give thanks that my heart and mind are now being healed from these past beliefs, stories and wounds.

I am grateful for this healing and I am now open, willing and available to have deep love in my life.

And so it is.  

Then sit down and write a new story, in which your former beliefs existed to prepare you for Big Love.

For instance, I once had a boyfriend, Joe, who was extremely controlling, constantly lied to me, and cheated on me.

For years after the relationship ended I felt the pain of this experience….until I did the pity party process.

When I did this process my new story became this:

Because of my experience with the lying, cheating, controlling Joe, I have now learned that I deserve to be loved, cherished and adored by a man who is honest, trustworthy and faithful.

Being with Joe was an important piece of my personal growth so I can now forgive him, forgive myself and I am grateful for the experience.

I then wrote out how wonderful my next relationship would be, how satisfied and content and loved I felt in this new relationship.

Are you ready to let go of your old story?

Are you ready to write your new story….the story that will magnetize to you the love of your life?

This process is just one of the many things we will be doing in my upcoming Soulmate Secret 7 Week Online Course.

To discover more about this I will be hosting a free preview call on May 16th, register here.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Creating A Sacred Soulmte Altar

As you know, where intention goes, energy flows.

Because of how energy functions, we are each engaged in co-creation with the Life Force. If you want to manifest your soulmate, you need to set the intention for it to be so. Setting an intention is like speaking to the Divine through a megaphone: it gets the message across more clearly. This is the true magic behind creating an altar or shrine, which are incredible spiritual tools because they anchor our feelings and thoughts so we become very clear and specific about what we want.

The bedroom is an important sacred space, as it is usually where you spend the most time in your home. This sacred space and how it is decorated and arranged is especially important to manifesting your soul mate. Intentions made here resonate strongly through your personal energy field. In terms of manifesting your soulmate, what intention do you have for this sacred space?

If you want to manifest a more active love life or initiate a romantic relationship, energy enhancements and specifically designed altars can assist you in anchoring these intentions.

This room is an excellent place for an altar or shrine because you will see it first, when rising in the morning, and last, when going to bed at night. To your psyche these are significant moments when the body makes an organic and natural internal shift. In the morning we “start our engines” so to speak. In the evening, we slow down, rest and relax from the day’s activities.

Whether your bedroom is located in the Marriage and Relationship quadrant of the Feng Shui Bagua (see p.70 of the Soulmate Secret), or not, it is the preferred location for an altar or shrine dedicated to manifesting your soul mate.

Tips for a simple shrine or altar in your bedroom:

Whether you decide to create a vision board, or want to establish a small altar, it is important to cleanse and sanctify the ambient energy of the surrounding space.

Energy and space clearing techniques include: first de-cluttering the space; cleansing yourself; and then utilizing any of the following practices: smudging, bells (and/or drums), holy water, and if you are trained – a pendulum for clearing energies.

Next, gather pictures and items that resonate deeply with your vision of romance and your potential partner I always like to include a statue of the Hindu lovers Krishna & Radha). They can be inspirational, practical, decorative, symbolic or all four. You may want to utilize and balance the aspects of the 5 elements of feng shui – water; metal; earth; fire and wood.

Balance the qualities of yin and yang (feminine and masculine attributes) with color, sound, and scents.

Other ideas are: talismans, gem stones, totems, inspirational quotes, cards and poems, favorite and natural objects, and sacred-mystical symbols and artifacts that resonate love, partnership and romance to you.

Keep in mind visual reminders of couples and pairs.

Once you have gathered your soulmate manifesting ingredients, assemble and bless them. Chose a piece of material to serve as an altar cloth and drape the fabric over a flat surface to create a consecrated space. Pick colors, patterns and textures that resonate with your intention. Place your objects ‘intentionally’. When you are finished, close your eyes and tune-in to your intention. Do a feelingization exercise to anchor your soulmate intention.

Remember that this process does not have to be done in one day. It can be a living altar that you tend to on a daily basis or weekly basis – adding to or removing objects as you like.

You can learn more about the art of shrine and altar crafting in the book by Shawne Mitchell: “Creating Home Sanctuaries with Feng Shui, Sacred Spaces, Altars and Shrines.” This book will easily guide you through a seven-stage process for building personal retreats, altar and shrines within your home.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Is Your Pet One of Your Soulmates?

My definition of a soulmate is: someone you can completely be yourself with. Someone with whom you share unconditional love and when you look into their eyes you have the experience of being “home.”

If you accept this definition, you can begin to acknowledge ALL the soulmates already in your life. It may be your kids, parents, siblings, friends, and co-workers AND it can also be your pets.

Not every pet is a soulmate, just as not every friend or relative feels like a soulmate, but when you have one, you know it. There is a special heart connection that is undeniable.

One of my feline soulmates, our beautiful heart chakra on paws, Sheba, left us this morning from stomach cancer. Sheba arrived in our back yard 9 years ago and adopted us. She was a BIG SPIRIT, a sweet indoor/outdoor explorer who lived in my office. She was my brilliant muse and companion. She had a passion for cashmere sweaters to sleep on and Brian spoiled her every day by providing a buffet of different tasty delights for her to eat. For a skinny cat she had a huge appetite. We are so grateful she chose us as her family and we knew she loved us as much as we loved her.

Take some time today to make a list of all the soulmates you already have in your life and think about ways to let them know how important they are to you.

One of the fastest ways to become magnetic to a romantic soulmate is to begin to appreciate all the love you already have in your life. Start sharing your love.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

The 3 steps to getting ANY guy to commit to you (+ a present for you!)

This year something big is happening. 

My friend Matthew Hussey, the star of NBC’s new show Ready For Love is quickly becoming famous in America.

If you haven’t heard of him yet, you soon will.

Eva Longoria read his brand new book and called him “a genius who has cracked the code on men and relationships.”

He’s blowing up.

Luckily for us, I knew him BEFORE he got big ; )

He created a system to get women a date with the guy they want within 30 days, and then keep him! It gives you the behind the scenes secrets to how men think, and how to have your ideal guy chasing you for a relationship.

It’s a fool-proof guide for transforming the state of your love life.

The great news for us is that he’s put his famous advice in his brand new book ‘Get The Guy’, available on Amazon now.

EXCITING NEWS FOR YOU…

As a present for my followers, I have a free chapter from his book for you to read.

In this free chapter, you’ll learn:

– Why he thinks he’s not ready to commit
– Why men say they can’t commit and then marry the next woman they meet
– The 3 tips to get ANY man to commit (even if right now he’s unsure)

This free chapter is a genuine MUST read.

There’s no catch, just enjoy this chapter from the book. If you want the rest, feel free to grab a copy of your own!

Why Cupid Is Depressed

I ran into Cupid the other day and he was depressed and blue

Why?

Because his quiver is overflowing with arrows that he hasn’t been able to deliver.
You see, many of you have carefully followed the steps in The Soulmate Secret, and Cupid is ready to deliver your soulmate to you……..but you are making it impossible for him.

Here’s a story he shared with me that totally represents what he is up against:

“About ten months ago Sheryl wrote out her soulmate wish-list, created a beautiful wish-list release ceremony for herself on the night of a new moon, and then she cleared out the clutter in her heart and her home and made lot of space for her soon-to-come beloved. 

Sheryl also made time to do a lovely daily feelingization where she reconnected with deep feelings of love, appreciation and gratitude. She practiced “living as if” and “savoring the waiting” and she even did some online dating.  

I was so impressed with her dedication that I decided to help her.

So….I went out and found a man that I am 100% certain is the “one” for her…his name is Jake. He’s amazing….everything she is asking for!

First, I arranged for them to meet in the park. Sheryl likes to speed walk several mornings each week in the same park where Jake likes to run. One morning as they were about to pass each other, Jake slowed down to give Sheryl a big welcoming smile and say hello….only Sheryl didn’t see or hear him because she was so busy talking on her cell phone. A few days later I tried again. Same result. 

Who is she talking to so early in the morning???

I noticed that after her run, Sheryl went to a local organic coffee cafe just outside the park for her decaf soy latte with extra foam. 

Hmmm, I thought. Tom loves coffee, lets give him an intense craving and send him over there as well.

Tom ended up standing behind Sheryl in the line at the counter. He immediately recognized her as the cute woman he had seen in the park. He wanted to talk to her but she had her ear-buds in and she was super busy reading and responding to email on her iPhone. She never looked up or around she was just totally focused on her email. Tom couldn’t think of a way to break into her world so he began to look around to see who else was in the cafe…..”

With tears in his eyes, Cupid final words to me were, “they would have been so happy together.”

As I listened to Cupid’s massive frustration, I just knew I had to share this story with you.

Your soulmate is out there.

They want you as much as you want them.

They are not going to randomly come knocking on your door.

You are going to meet them outside in the real world, and you can’t do that if you are focused on talking, texting, emailing or playing a game on your smart-phone.

Please… you have to pay attention!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. What if you could “find love” simply by helping others find the love of their lives? There’s an interesting dynamic in life where you can get more of what you want by helping others get what they want.

 

For example: if you wanted to lose weight, imagine how much easier and motivated you would be if you were coaching and inspiring others to lose weight. You would naturally become more fit yourself and in fact, you would become an expert at losing weight.

 

Well, what if you wanted to find the love of your life? Imagine how much easier it would be if you were coaching others on how to find the love of their lives. So, how do you learn how to coach and influence others? Well, I’ve got 5 free videos from my friend Christy Whitman (who is happily married to the soulmate she manifested with the Law of Attraction) who will show you exactly how to do this.

Go here to watch all of them for free.

 

Seasons of Love

On Saturday we honored my sister Debbie with a Celebration of Life event for 400 of her family, friends, coaches and community. It was beautiful, moving tribute to her life and legacy. I had the honor of emceeing the event and sharing stories…and we had several speakers including Brian, my brother Mike, a few friends and Marianne Williamson and Deepak Chopra. Plus, per her request, we had the rooftop raising Eddie Baltrip Fulfillment Gospel Choir.

One of Debbie’s favorite songs is from the Broadway show, RENT, and the Choir sang it yesterday. As I listened to the lyrics, I realized I wanted to share them with all of you because they really speak to what is most important in life.

Seasons Of Love

Five hundred twenty-five thousand
Six hundred minutes,
Five hundred twenty-five thousand
Moments so dear.
Five hundred twenty-five thousand
Six hundred minutes
How do you measure, measure a year?

In daylights, in sunsets, in midnights
In cups of coffee
In inches, in miles, in laughter, in strife.

In five hundred twenty-five thousand
Six hundred minutes
How do you measure
A year in the life?

How about love?
How about love?
How about love? Measure in love

Seasons of love. Seasons of love

Five hundred twenty-five thousand
Six hundred minutes!
Five hundred twenty-five thousand
Journeys to plan.

Five hundred twenty-five thousand
Six hundred minutes
How do you measure the life
Of a woman or a man?

In truths that she learned,
Or in times that he cried.
In bridges he burned,
Or the way that she died.

It’s time now to sing out,
Tho’ the story never ends
Let’s celebrate
Remember a year in the life of friends
Remember the love!
Remember the love!
Seasons of love!
Oh you got to got to
Remember the love!
You know that love is a gift from up above
Share love, give love spread love
Measure measure your life in love.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Givers, Takers and Emotional Vampires

Over the years I have observed that most people fall into one of three categories that I have named Givers, Takers, and Emotional Vampires. It’s pretty easy to figure out that Givers are heart -entered lovers who’s first consideration is the other person. They provide love, comfort, support, care, compassion and empathy. Givers make any room they walk into, and the world, a better place. Takers walk into most situations thinking, “what’s in this for me?” They are not necessarily bad people, they are just me-centric. Takers are also very capable of giving, it’s just not their starting place. (I confess that I fall into this category, my beloved Brian is a Giver to the max!)

There are a lot of takers who believe they are primarily givers….they want to see themselves as these great, compassionate folks but they operate out of unconscious needs and self interest hoping we won’t see what they are really up to. Generally their requests come with a super sweet tone of voice and they preface things by telling you how much they love you, care for you and “oh by the way can you do X,Y, Z for me?” And, some part of you ends of feeling slimed but you don’t know why.

And then, there are the emotional vampires. These folks are predatory, parasitic, and bad for your health. They want to feed off your energy by demanding your attention. They are quite often Drama Kings and Drama Queens and while it can be interesting or amusing to listen to their tales of woe (and maybe even have you feeling like your life is pretty good compared to theirs) this is a one-sided relationship and there are no goodies in it for you.

I am bringing this to your attention because it is now officially Spring and it’s a great time of year to clear out the clutter in your home and in your life.

Spend a little time looking to see if you are inadvertently feeding any emotional vampires and if you are, are you willing to banish them from your life???

And then, look and see who the Givers are in your life, and is there any thing special you would like to do for them to show your love, gratitude and appreciation?

And finally, look and see how you are showing up in your world? Where and with whom are you a Giver?

A Taker?

Maybe even an emotional vampire?

For me, I am committing to be more like Brian….I want to stretch myself and find new ways to be more of a Giver and less of a Taker. And for sure there are a few emotional vampires I plan to banish instantly!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle