Living As If: A Reminder

The period of time when you are waiting for your soulmate to make his or her presence known to you gives you an important opportunity for self-reflection.

Consider this: If your soulmate had the ability to see your life right now, would you (and they) be happy with what they were observing?

Begin to live your life today as if they are already here. This is the secret to activating the Law of Attraction!

Chances are, if you really knew your soulmate was on his or her way to you, you would hold yourself to a higher standard than you do now ­ so why wait for them to arrive to put these things in place?

Think not only about what you do on a given day but also the way that you represent yourself to others. Remember, you will attract someone who energetically “matches” the degree of esteem that you hold towards yourself.

If there are behaviors you’re engaged in that you wouldn’t want your future lover to see, stop them. This might mean giving up obsessing over your ex-lover or having casual sex with your neighbor.

“Living As If” can be fun, easy and simple. Before I met Brian I was buying him birthday cards, and anniversary cards and “just because I love you” cards. (I really like the cards at www.soulebrate.com) I also bought some tickets to concerts and plays that I wanted to attend.

Get creative! One woman I know just finished a “boudoir photo session” and is making an album of sensual photos to hand over to her soulmate when he walks through the door.

Remember, the process of attracting your soulmate is one of magnetism. When you make the choice to live as if your soulmate is already a part of your life, you send out an irresistible signal to the Universe that you are ready now. Not a signal that you’ll be ready someday ­ when you work less and your house is clean and you’ve lost five pounds!

Remember the famous line in the 1989 movie, Field of Dreams starring Kevin Costner? “If you build it, they will come.” Living as if is like flipping on a light switch inside your heart. This is the light your beloved will use to navigate his or her way to your door.

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Arielle Recommends: Why He Disappeared

Even though I’m proud of the work I do, I’m the first to recognize that there are a bunch of other relationship experts with unique and powerful messages.

Today, I want to introduce you to one of my favorites. His name is Evan Marc Katz.

If you haven’t already heard of him, he’s the author of two books about dating, and has appeared on the Today Show, the Early Show, the Tyra Banks, Rachael Ray, and so on. But that’s not why I’m telling you about him.

The reason I want you to get to know Evan Marc Katz is this: He is the only male dating coach I know who works exclusively with smart, strong, successful women.

His entire job is spent helping women just like you – the creme de la creme ­ understand and connect with men. His new book, “Why He Disappeared: the Smart, Strong, Successful Woman’s Guide to Understanding Men and Keeping the Right One Hooked Forever” is phenomenal. Really.

Here’s something he wrote which blew me away. I trust you’ll agree:

You Don’t Attract the Wrong Men. You ACCEPT The Wrong Men. What happens when you find yourself incredibly attracted to a man? Well, there’s the feeling of chemistry and everything that comes along with it – the obsessive highs that come with wanting to be with him, the joy of feeling incredibly connected, and, what you may forget, the willful blindness that allows you to overlook his flaws.

That’s one of the most miraculous things about chemistry: it allows you to focus only on the good and ignore all the bad. Which is why you can have incredible chemistry and end up in a TERRIBLE relationship, where he doesn’t call you, doesn’t sleep with you, doesn’t compliment you, doesn’t make you feel safe, and doesn’t commit to you.

But you stick around because of how strong your rare FEELINGS are. You’ve now discovered the real secret to why you’re in dead end relationships:

You don’t attract the wrong men, you accept the wrong men.

If you consistently find yourself in relationships with liars, cheaters, addicts, leeches, or commitment-phobes, your job isn’t to get them to stop lying, cheating, drinking, mooching or flaking. Your job is to leave.

You’ll never stop attracting the wrong men, but starting now, you can stop ACCEPTING their bad behavior… and save yourself years of heartbreak and pain.

Amen.

Evan is offering a ton of high-quality bonuses to go with his fascinating take on the male mind. Along with his eBook and a 2 hr audio version of the same material, Evan is going to give you this:

Why He Disappeared Online – 30 page eBook and 36-minute audio, helping you understand the 3 main reasons that men don’t follow through with you.

Audio Interview on the difference between chemistry and compatibility, the difference between loving someone and being “in love”, and which flaws you should and should not overlook in men:

Audio Interview on what men really think of women who ask them out, the 2 things that cause men to end relationships every time, and how to find a partner who is more compatible.

Video Interview with Carol Allen – emotional I.Q., having realistic expectations, the false clarity of passion, being a “yes” woman, choosing character over charisma, and what men truly want in a partner.

And best of all, Evan offers a one-year money back guarantee if you don¹t love his book, he’ll refund your money. Definitely worth checking out!

www.evanmarckatz.com

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The Beauty of Your Cracks

This Chinese proverb speaks to the power of loving all of yourself, even the parts you perceive as damaged or broken:

An elderly Chinese woman had two large pots, each hung on the ends of a pole which she carried across her neck. One of the pots had a crack in it while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water.

At the end of the long walks from the stream to the house, the cracked pot arrived only half full. For a full two years this went on daily, with the woman bringing home only one and a half pots of water.

Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments. But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it could only do half of what it had been made to do. After two years of what it perceived to be bitter failure, it spoke to the woman one day by the stream.

‘I am ashamed of myself because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your house.’

The old woman smiled, ‘Did you notice that there are flowers on your side of the path, but not on the other pot’s side?’

‘That’s because I have always known about your flaw, so I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back, you water them.’ ‘For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate the table. Without you being just the way you are, there would not be this beauty to grace the house.’

What parts of you having you been finding fault with? Take some time today to love 100% of you, exactly as you are, because YOU bring love, beauty and value to the world.

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Secrets to Manifesting Love At Any Age

Lynn Fletcher had led a typical baby boomer life. She raised two wonderful children and has two marriages which both ended in divorce. Lynn, ready for new romance, was feeling frustrated and impatient in the domain of love. One thing she knew for sure, she did not want her future soulmate to be Irish.

Both ex-husbands were of Irish descent and she was certain she needed to change this pattern.

During a reading with “an angel lady Jane” she was assured that “Matchmaker angels are at work in your life.”

Several months later, most likely guided by Angels, she read The Soulmate Secret.

“This became my bible. I kept it on my nightstand table and did the processes and rituals in the book including, making my wish list, feng shui’d the bedroom, made space in the closet and dresser, bought him a birthday card, did the feelingizations, and followed everything to a T. There were times when I could really FEEL my soulmate searching for me and I could even feel him spooning behind me on the bed!

Lynn also made a daily practice of “Living As If” as well as working on healing her heart from past relationships.

To help her with this she very smartly she hired relationship coach, Dawn Allen InspiredHeartCoaching.com, who in the very first session showed her that she was afraid of getting hurt again and helped her work through her issues.

Last October, at age 52, Lynn was feeling optimistic that love was on the way to her. An ex-boyfriend invited her to a party, and even though she didn’t want to go, she knew it would be a good opportunity to meet lots of new people. She was right. It was there that she met Mike.

“On our first date I realized he possessed many of the qualities I was looking for and I was totally able to be myself with him. We both wanted the same things in life and we had both experienced two divorces, plus family is super important to him.”

On Lynn’s Soulmate Wish List was “he must be a Harley owner.”

Surprisingly, on their second date Mike took her for an afternoon ride… on his Harley! Just prior to their third date, Lynn realized she didn’t know Mike’s last name and asked him about it while they were on the phone. He responded, “Clougherty.”

“Is that Irish,” Lynn asked?

“Yes, 100%, why is that a problem?”

Lynn then confessed that both her ex-husbands and last relationship were partly Irish.

He explained that the problem was she needed a man that was 100% Irish… which made her laugh.

By the end of the third date, Lynn was certain that Mike was her 100% Irish soulmate.

Today are happily co-habiting and in a committed relationship that may or may not lead to marriage because as they say they have, “been there, done that.”

Curious about your own soulmate search?  Check out The Soulmate Secret for yourself!  Just click right here:  The Soulmate Secret

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Steps to Installing Love on the Human Computer

I am thrilled to share with you this very insightful piece on: Instructions for Installing Love on the Human Computer.

Tech Support: Yes, how can I help you?

Customer: Well, after much consideration, I’ve decided to install Love. Can you guide me through the process?

Tech Support: Yes. I can help you. Are you ready to proceed?

Customer: Well, I’m not very technical, but I think I’m ready. What do I do first?

Tech Support: The first step is to open your Heart. Have you located your Heart?

Customer: Yes, but there are several other programs running now. Is it okay to install Love while they are running?

Tech Support: What programs are running?

Customer: Let’s see, I have Past Hurt, Low Self-Esteem, Grudge and Resentment running right now.

Tech Support: No problem, Love will gradually erase Past Hurt from your current operating system. It may remain in your permanent memory but it will no longer disrupt other programs. Love will eventually override Low Self-Esteem with a module of its own called High Self-Esteem. However, you have to completely turn off Grudge and Resentment. Those programs prevent Love from being properly installed. Can you turn those off?

Customer: I don’t know how to. Can you tell me how?

Tech Support: With pleasure. Go to your start menu and invoke Forgiveness. Do this as many times as necessary until Grudge and Resentment have been completely erased.

Customer: Okay, done! Love has started installing itself. Is that normal?

Tech Support: Yes, but remember that you have only the base program. You need to begin connecting to other Hearts in order to get the upgrades.

Customer: Oops! I have an error message already. It says, “Error – Program not run on external components.” What should I do?

Tech Support: Don’t worry. It means that the Love program is set up to run on Internal Hearts, but has not yet been run on your Heart. In non-technical terms, it simply means you have to Love yourself before you can Love others.

Customer: So, what should I do?

Tech Support: Pull down Self-Acceptance; then click on the following files: Forgive-Self; Realize Your Worth; and Acknowledge your Limitations.

Customer: Okay, done.

Tech Support: Now, copy them to the “My Heart” directory. The system will overwrite any conflicting files and begin patching faulty programming. Also, you need to delete Verbose Self-Criticism from all directories and empty your Recycle Bin to make sure it is completely gone and never comes back.

Customer: Got it. Hey! My heart is filling up with new files. Smile is playing on my monitor and Peace and Contentment are copying themselves all over My Heart. Is this normal?

Tech Support: Sometimes. For others it takes awhile, but eventually everything gets it at the proper time. So Love is installed and running.

One more thing before we hang up.

Love is Freeware.

Be sure to give it and its various modules to everyone you meet. They will in turn share it with others and return some cool modules back to you.

Customer: Thank you, God.

CREATOR, aka, Tech Support: You’re Welcome, Anytime.

Special thanks to the unknown author who wrote this and to Monte and Amy, authors of The Soulmate Path for sending this beautiful piece of wisdom to me. Visit them at TheEnchantedWorld.com.

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Soulmate Success! Meet Robin Rice Who Dared to Dream of Love!

Here’s a letter I just had to share with you from my friend, the amazing Robin Rice, who shares how she manifested her soulmate five years ago.


Dear Arielle,

As you know, I just love your book, The Soulmate Secret, and the story of how you found your beloved Brian. Since I have a Brian of my own, I wanted to share how I manifested him, using the very techniques you speak of… imagining, feeling, knowing, and living as if it is already done.

Let me first say that after seven years of being single, I was more than a little discouraged and frustrated. I knew I was clear on what I wanted, and I felt he was out there—somewhere. But it was getting hard to have faith. So I got really, really serious. I took action.

First, I decided that luxury and sensuality were big parts of what I wanted in my relationship. So I went out and got 600-count sheets for my bed, a few extra fluffy new pillows, and a dozen votive candles to surround my bed with. I also got fresh flowers to put with the candles.

Every three days—yes, without fail for seven months—I put out fresh flowers, and took the wilted flowers and put them out in a nearby river, asking Mother Nature to carry my wish to the great Mother Ocean.

Every night, crawling into bed, and every morning waking up, I felt the luxury and sensuality I imagined my beloved would bring to me. I smiled to myself, feeling what it would feel like even before he arrived. I sent prayers for him, knowing he was already somewhere in the world, and maybe even wishing for me.

The seven months more than paid off. My Brian is the easiest, most sensual, most luxurious relationship I’ve ever had times ten! I could not have imagined the ease with which we partner in our lives. It’s five years now, and we’ve had a private wedding in every country we have traveled to!

As you say… dream it, feel it, know it and then see it.

Much appreciation for all you offer us!

Robin Rice

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The Love You Seek is Already Yours…

Manifesting becomes effortless when you have a clear intention that resonates in every cell of your body. This week allow yourself to remember why it is that you desire a soulmate.

Consider how you, and your life, will be more enriched when you are sharing your daily life with your beloved.

What is that you have to offer your soulmate?

What is it that you most want to share with them?

What is it that you most seek from the relationship?

As you ponder these questions allow yourself to have an experience of present moment awareness and really imagine yourself with these questions answered.  Use this moment to feel what it feels like to be sharing your life, right now, with your soulmate.

Make this a daily practice. I can’t emphasize how important it is to make your soulmate attraction plan a DAILY PRACTICE.  As you continue to focus your intention and attention on your heart’s desire, knowing that what you’ve asked for is ALREADY yours, you magnetize it to you.

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The Coca-Cola & Brownie Solution

I have invited my sister, Debbie Ford, to be a guest columnist today to share with you a powerful story that led her to her work around “the shadow” and the release of her new book THE SHADOW EFFECT which is co-authored with Deepak Chopra and Marianne Williamson. Please enjoy her wisdom:

People are always asking me, “Why are you so passionate about the shadow? Why do you continue to write, train, teach and encourage people to deal with their darkness?”

More than once, I’ve been urged to write about the light, to call in the angels, to eat some raw food, to talk to the dead, or to say my affirmations. “The light, the light is the answer!” they say. But I constantly keep going back, returning to what gave me access to the luminous light that shines in my life right now.

I recall the time in my own life when Coca Cola and brownies were my solution, my moment of light and holiness. The mixture felt so so fine. For a moment, I felt deeply loved, at peace and blissfully calm. The internal voice in my mind stopped screaming negative messages, taunting me to do more, get more and be more.

But one day when the Coca Cola and brownie solution stopped working no matter how many liters I inhaled or how many pans of brownies I stuffed into my body, I embarked on a quest to find out how I could feel happy, whole, loved and blessed.

In a moment of enlightened thought I was given a deep understanding and an unwavering knowing that until we shine the light not just on our good self but also on our hungry, stuck, frustrated, depressed, empty, scared, insecure and unworthy self, we will continue to be caught in the chase of more, better and different and controlled by our bad and addictive behaviors that rob us of loving who we are and living the

So I am here today to tell you that there are no shadows when we are one with the great illuminator, the love of all loves, the divine and rich parts of ourselves, that hold the power to illuminate our truest, most authentic self.

That is why now I urge you too admit to what “empty solution” is no longer working in your own life and mark today as a new beginning, driven by an unwillingness to tolerate any form of fear that no longer serves you and instead go deeper into the great hunt for the light within that cast out the darkness that you often think of as YOU.

Now for the first time in history Deepak Chopra, myself and Marianne Williamson have joined forces to bring you and in depth, practical guide through the darkness and into the light of your highest most deserved life.

Claim it today along with many amazing gifts and I promise from the deepest place in my heart that you will be lite up, excited and passionate by when you discover the brilliance of your true self.

Please visit Debbie’s website to see the amazing bonuses she, Deepak & Marianne are offering: theshadoweffect.com

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Spring Cleaning for Love

Clutter is usually defined as a disorderly heap or assemblage or a state or condition of confusion.

Did you know that clutter can be a block to manifesting love? Feng Shui experts believe that clutter blocks the flow of energy and creates stagnation. Do you have things piled up around the house that need tending to?

Take the time now to imagine what your home will look like to your soulmate when he or she walks through the door. Will they see a disorganized mess or will they find a comfortable, inviting home?

We are now in the heart of Spring so lets get ready to clear out the clutter in our closets, underneath the bed and anywhere else in your home clutter has accumulated.

Then, lets clear the clutter in our hearts, the unresolved issues of past heartache. Remember to practice forgiveness and do the feelingizations so that you are ready to invite new love into your life. (you can download the feelingizations for free at The Soulmate Secret).

Finally, lets purge your home of any negative energy (left by old lovers) using the Native American technique of smudging. Or, you can always simply open your doors and windows on a sunny day and take a broom and imagine you are sweeping out any old or negative energy.

Once the clutter and the negative energy is cleared out bring in items and symbols of new love that will remind you to practice living as if – new plants, fresh cut flowers, candles, fresh linens, etc.

Spring is a time of renewal, rebirth and a great time to re-commit to manifesting your soulmate. What will you do this week to remove clutter?

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Finding Love When & Where You Least Expect It

People often ask me if Brian was working on manifesting his soulmate when he met me and the simple answer is no. Meeting someone new was the last thing on his mind, in fact, when we met he was in the midst of ending a relationship.

As I have said many, many times, Intention, Attention and Divine Timing all go hand-in-hand when it comes to manifesting your soulmate. Here’s a perfect case in point:

Krista, a divorcee, bought The Soulmate Secret in January 2009, just days after it was published. Soon after she contacted me via Facebook when she told me she actually met someone while standing in line at the bookstore to pay for the book.

It turned out that the man she met was not her future soulmate but I remember thinking at the time that this is a woman who is absolutely going to manifest her soulmate. I told her to be sure to stay in touch and keep me posted.

The other day Krista reconnected to tell me that eight months after doing all the exercises, working through the forgiveness processes, journaling about her ideal soulmate, she has found the ONE and they are now planning a life together.

I asked her if I could speak to her soulmate, Don, to find out what, if anything he had done to manifest Krista. Here’s what he had to say:

“The day Krista and I met, I had just ended a 21 year marriage. After a long drawn out process to save the marriage, it was finally clear we couldn’t make it work. I was out looking for a new place to live when I stopped into a local Anthropologie store (www.anthropologie.com).

Walking around dazed, as if underwater, and feeling fairly numb, my heart was in a deep freeze. I remember I was admiring a table in the store. As a writer I knew that I would need to create a workspace for my new place, and this particular table appealed to me.

As I stood there with a notebook under my arm, this woman asked me if I was a designer. I turned around and saw this pretty woman and we began what became an animated conversation. I shared with her that I was looking for a new place to live and she readily offered me some local real estate information.

It quickly became clear that we had a lot in common but neither of us was thinking that it would turn into anything more than a friendship. I will say that I felt an instant bond with her.

I followed up and sent her a thank you email and one thing led to another and soon we were spending a lot of time getting to know each other. The more time we spent together the more apparent it became that we had something special… we really relate to each other on a deep level. I soon realized I had never met anyone that touches me the way she does.

I feel as if I have met my soulmate. As a journalist there is a part of me that is skeptical, questioning can this really happen like this? But I know this is the love match I’ve been dreaming about my whole life. When she walked into my life something big changed.”

As for Krista, she couldn’t be happier. During that random visit to the Anthropologie store she found more than a few new books, she found her soulmate. “Don is everything on my soulmate wish list. We just clicked!”

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love