World’s Best Hug

Is love definable? For some, love is a sentiment. For many, love is a behavior. For others love is a bartering tool. For me, love is the most delicious thing in the world. On Friday night Brian and I went to Los Angeles to experience the purest form of unconditional love that we know about, being in the presence of Amma, the hugging saint from India.

A dozen years ago I went to receive a hug from Amma and asked her to heal my heart of anything “that might stop me from finding my soulmate.” A year later (June 22, 1998) she married Brian and I in a Hindu ceremony.

Amma has blessed more than 28 million people around the world by hugging them. That alone is an amazing feat. She often sits for 12 hours or more hugging people, wiping away their tears, laughing with them, feeding them chocolates. But that is only part of her mission. Amma is one of the greatest humanitarians of our time. She builds hospitals, schools, orphanages, old age homes and so much more. After the Tsunami in 2004 she donated millions and helped rebuild entire villages.

Her mission is all about seva – selfless service.

One of the things I enjoy most about being in Amma’s presence is watching how her face lights up each time someone new is sitting before her. She smiles broadly and her eyes twinkle with delight as if to say “you are the most precious, wonderful being I have ever set eyes on.” It is simply amazing to witness, experience and most importantly, feel her unconditional love.

Between now and the end of July, Amma will be visiting New Mexico, Boston Toronto, Dallas, Chicago, Iowa, New York and Washington, DC. The hugs are free. For details, please visit www.amma.org

Wishing you love, laughter and Amma’s hugs,

Arielle

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Doing It All But No Results?

Everyday I am blessed to hear from readers of The Soulmate Secret Most of the time they share happy news about new love beginning to blossom. Sometimes I hear from those of you who are “doing everything but without results.” If that sounds like you, hear are some gentle suggestions:

1) Stop trying. This isn’t about trying, doing, wishing or hoping. It’s about being and sometimes it’s hard to BE when you are caught up in wanting.

2) Take some time off. Give yourself a break. Decide that for the next week, or month, or three months you are going to take your attentionoff of your love life completely and focus on having as much fun as possible. I recently decided to take off the entire summer from worrying. I even wrote a vow for myself:
This summer I will take time everyday to really enjoy my favorite season. I will consciously take more time to appreciate the sun, the views, the warm breezes, the freshest produce, everything. Most importantly, I am giving up WORRYING until after Labor Day. My heart is open, loving, carefree and I am SMILING 🙂

3) Engage a short-term therapist, counselor or coach to explore the possibility that you have some emotional blocks left to clear. Maybe you do, maybe you don’t, either way the support can’t hurt.

4) Stop judging yourself and the process and give yourself the love and attention you deserve.

5) Surrender to Divine Timing.

6) Spend some time in meditation, silence, nature or ideally all three.

7) Create a summer project. Choose one person in your life that could benefit from your attention and shower them with love, appreciation, gratitude.

Remember to breathe and nourish your soul this summer. Often the key to manifesting is to completely surrender and trust and know that love is already yours.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

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EXPECT LOVE

The newest addition to our family is a rescue kitty that we brought home three years ago.  Back then, he was a tiny little thing with giant ears, a roaring purr and an other-worldly look about him that inspired his name – Yoda.  Our first night together was torture.  He meowed all night long, which was deeply upsetting to our two other cats, Rumi and Felix.  I had hoped they would embrace young Yoda like a long-lost little brother who needed their comfort and nurturing – but, unfortunately, that was not yet to be.  Thankfully, within a few days Yoda adapted to his new digs, but Rumi and Felix still went out of their way to avoid him.

We don’t know anything about Yoda’s earliest days except that he had been abandoned.  In spite of these inauspicious beginnings, Yoda boldly approached his two feline brothers with an attitude of eager expectation, as if he were absolutely convinced of his innate lovability and it was only a matter of time before the rest of us recognized it as well.  We quickly nicknamed Yoda our “pleasure pig” because the little guy has an amazing ability to elicit love from everyone around him. When Brian or I are not cuddling and stroking him, he is nuzzled up to the older cats to be licked and groomed.

This morning, as I watched Yoda enthusiastically park himself next to Felix, I realized that even though Felix still occasionally swats at or ignores Yoda, most of the time he just automatically begins to groom his little brother.  In his funny feline way, Yoda is the perfect example of the art of “living as if,” which I explain in detail in The Soulmate Secret.   Unlike many of us humans, Yoda knows that there is plenty of love in the world and that he is worthy of giving and receiving that love.  Unburdened by the pain of the past, he joyfully anticipates that the love he feels toward his new feline brothers will be returned.  And the vast majority of the time, it is!

If you choose, you can take a lesson from wise Yoda:  Be the loving person that you are; live in the knowingness that you deserve to have a loving, committed relationship; and take every opportunity to let love in – even if it comes to you in the form of a cat.

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Is this your season of LOVE?

Dear Soulmate Manifesters,

Carol Allen & soulmate Bill

If you’ve read my book, “The Soulmate Secret” you may remember that right after I met Brian I had my Vedic astrologer look at both of our charts. He said that our relationship is “the most fated he’d ever seen,” and he predicted we would get married. Eventually he even selected our wedding dates. (We had three weddings!)

In case you were wondering, what the heck is Vedic astrology? It’s the ancient system of astrology from India and it’s AMAZING for looking at relationships and compatibility. In fact, it’s still used by the majority of the Hindu population to arrange marriages. They do what I did, call their astrologer to see if a marriage candidate is a good “match” or not. For years I’ve been consulting a friend of mine, Carol Allen. She’s both a Vedic astrologer and a relationship coach. She combines the best “out of this world” advice with the most cutting-edge “real world” advice in a great newsletter you can sign up for at the attached link.

If you’re thinking to yourself, “astrology is silly…” you haven’t seen Vedic astrology. Her newsletter is 90% relationship advice (because even Carol will tell you, it’s more important what you DO in love, than what the stars are doing), and I highly recommend it.

Carol offers an amazing compatibility report called, “The Right Man Report” that will to tell you if your relationships are “fated” and a good match, and what to do if they’re not…the report is only $19.97 (and it’s 100% money-back guaranteed). You deserve all the support and help you can get on your journey to find and keep lasting love, and Carol can help.

Check it out by visiting CAROL ALLEN

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

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AND BABY MAKES THREE

Dear Soulmate Manifesters,

My friend Christy Whitman, 38, manifested her soulmate, Frederic, three years ago. This weekend they sent me this photo of their gorgeous newborn boy, Alex. A long-time Law of Attraction practitioner and coach, Christy created her own brand of manifestation tools to bring Frederic and Alex into her life.

She used a series of very creative meditations where you meet and play with possible soul mates, and then choose the one you want to bring in. Christy also created a very extensive soulmate wish list and read it upon waking and before going to sleep each day so she could feel him there with her. She would also connect with her soulmate throughout the day knowing that he was “out there” and it was just a matter of time until they met. (I also found this to be a powerful practice when I was manifesting Brian. Everyday at sunset I would do a feelingization and deeply connect with my soulmate, trusting he was also connecting with me).

Christy was living in the “as if” her soulmate was already in her life. She was happy, satisfied and fulfilled and certain he was on his way to her. Here’s how they met: She went to personal growth workshop in New Jersey. As she was standing in a line to do the first exercise of the week, the man in front of her became her partner for the exercise. His name was Frederic. Her first thought when she saw him was OMG you’re so gorgeous! She knew instantly he was the ONE. With 48 hours Frederic knew that Christy was the ONE for him as well. They have now been married for two years and are thrilled to be new parents.

As you can see in their family photo, Christy has manifested BIG LOVE. Well-known for her coaching skills, Christy has put together an invaluable program for manifesting love. She shares all of her secrets in her program. Check it out at: ATTRACTING YOUR IDEAL PARTNER

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

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Love GPS – The Law of Attraction Meets Modern Technology!

Cosmic reminders often arrive at the most unexpected times. On Sunday afternoon Brian and I were with our friends David and Leize Perlmutter, speeding through the sea green waters of the Gulf of Mexico on their boat. In order to take in more of the magnificent scenery, Leize decided to put the boat on automatic pilot by setting the GPS. As she turned her back on the steering wheel, she explained to me that a satellite floating somewhere in outer space was now in control of the boat and would guide us effortlessly back to their waterfront home in Naples. Once Leize clearly defined our destination and entered that information into the computer, we were all able to relax and enjoy the ride, confident that we were on the right track.

As I thought about the cosmic implications of this simple act, I began to wonder why it’s so much easier to “trust” an unseen satellite to get us to our destination than it is to trust the infinite intelligence of the Universe to fulfill our dreams. Is it because we have seen GPS work in our car, so we trust it will work in the boat? Is it because satellites are a three dimensional “things” that we can see with our eyes and touch with our hands?

The fact is, the GPS that Leize used to guide our boat back to Naples operates under the same principles as the universal Law of Attraction. Like a GPS that has been programmed with the proper coordinates, the Universe has the ability to calculate the best route to deliver you to your destination – whether that destination is to fall madly in love, land a great new job, or achieve anything else that your heart desires. The Soulmate Secret will show you exactly how to set your intention, plot your course, and activate your inner GPS. Then, like Brian and I did this past weekend, you can sit back, relax, and enjoy the ride.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle Ford

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The Healing Power of Love

This week my friend, Caroline Sutherland, a brilliant medical intuitive, shares her story with us on how she met her soulmate. When she was 40 a famous astrologer told her that her life” would begin at 60.” Not what she wanted to hear but at the age of 60 she found and married her soulmate, Gary. Her inspiring story speaks to the incredible healing power of love, and divine timing. Please enjoy Caroline’s story!

I met my future husband when I was teaching a workshop in Medical Intuition in Seattle. Gary was part of a group that had come to learn about this exciting branch of alternative medicine. I had been single for 18 years and I figured that the universe had given up on me. But in 2003, all of this was about to change.

As I sat down to do his “reading” I had a sense that Gary’s “will to live” was very faint showing the potential for a serious illness. He told me that he was an oncology nurse, surrounded by death and dying on a daily basis.

We said goodbye at the end of the weekend and I never thought I would see him again. However (I heard later) when he first saw me, a little voice inside his head said, “That’s her!”

The universe was obviously orchestrating things on a higher level and about a month later, I met him again at a dinner for a mutual friend.

I couldn’t believe the difference in this man. Gary had lost weight (25 pounds on the Sutherland program) he looked energetic and vital – very attractive. What a difference from the man I had met a month earlier in Seattle.

Exactly a month later, we met again by “accident” at a meditation retreat and we sat next to each other in several meditation cycles. As I tuned in to him I could sense that he was a sweet, dear man who exuded a wonderful calm presence. He was also a spiritual giant – an expert in Tibetan Buddhism.

Every day after the retreat, he called or emailed me and several weeks later he came to visit.

He stepped off the plane and presented me with a gift, a beautiful white porcelain statue of the Buddhist goddess of compassion Quan Yin. Within an hour he proposed to me, we had a long lingering kiss by the kitchen sink and things progressed rapidly from there. We both “knew.”

We share many interests in common and we are on the same spiritual path. We are extremely well suited.

Gary is a very nurturing, thoughtful person and treats me like a queen. Gary is also a wonderful cook – he cleans up the kitchen right away and brings the tea. Plus he puts the toilet seat down!

Marriage has added a new and wonderful dimension to my life. Looking back on my single life, there is really no comparison. This is a love that covers my heart and my soul. Our love continues to grow and blossom. And in observing Gary, he helps me to become a better person.

If you are looking for love, the next step is preparation. The more you love yourself, the more confidence you have in yourself and the more you accept yourself inside and out, the more attractive you become to that significant other. You become a magnet for attraction. Don’t give up. To find the right person is worth the wait.

Caroline Sutherland has been a medical intuitive for over twenty-five years, she is the author of The Body Knows – How to Tune into Your Body and Improve Your Health, The Body Knows Diet – Cracking the Weight Loss Code, The Body Knows About Hormones and her latest release, The Body Knows … How To Stay Young. Listen to Caroline on www.hayhouseradio.com or one of her free Monday Night teleconferences or visit online at: www.carolinesutherland.com

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Big Love: Secrets from Soulmates Arielle & Brian

Dear Arielle and Brian,

My name is Maria and I’ve been raising my two daughters on my own, for 15 years, working very hard to provide the best that I could for them. Now that they are now both in college and I am 57 years old, I have decided to think a bit about myself, and who knows maybe find my soulmate.

I have read your book, made the treasure map, listened to the feelingizations every night before going to sleep, and I have even signed myself up on a dating website here in Melbourne, Australia. Nothing has happened to me at all, am I too old?  Do soulmate success stories only happen to rich people and CEOs or does it happen to ordinary people like me too?

Thank you,
Maria

Dearest Maria,

Before we get started with your question about you finding love in your future, please know that the two of us are giving you a standing ovation in our office right this minute as well as dancing on top of our desks to celebrate YOU! Please follow our lead and do a quick celebration dance (I’m serious) in your house to honor your contribution to the planet for raising two beautiful independent young adults and sharing your deepest love and wisdom to young souls who needed your guidance.

Cheers Maria!!!

Now..if you did your celebration dance I’m sure it brought a smile to your face (maybe even some belly laughter) and a warmth to your heart—please try that out daily because that will be the quickest way to connect with your lovely spirit, Maria. I think you just need to kick start your love engine and the key to that begins with as much love, laughter and tons of fun that you can muster!!!

So please give yourself some time each day to dance, laugh, sing, or just go for a walk to reconnect with your spirit and then go back to all those wonderful practices you outlined in your e-mail and do them with passion and fun. And finally please remember to nurture and care for yourself in this process and please be patient and accepting of what unfolds with no real strong attachment to any expectations or results that you might place on yourself. Maria, hopefully these simple suggestions will help you align yourself with a soulmate. We know that ASKING for love is one of the most difficult things for anyone to risk but by risking it from your deepest heart, you open a door that will never close again.  This holds true for all walks of life.  So yes, Maria, soulmate success stories can manifest for the rich, the poor, all colors, all religions. The entire global family.

We are sending you our love and prayers and we’ll continue to dance on the tabletops in your honor and to wish you all the best in finding your soulmate.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle & Brian

Arielle Ford, author of The Soulmate Secret: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction and her husband Brian Hilliard, a business consultant, answer your questions about life, love and relationships. They believe that whether you are eighteen or eighty years old finding Big Love is always possible. Email your questions to:  soulmatesecret@nullyahoo.com

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LOVE NOW, one banana at a time

My dear friend, Kute Blackson, sent out a newsletter the other day that touched me deeply and he has given me permission to share this story with you.

Kute’s teaching is all about expressing your deepest love RIGHT NOW.  Several times each year he takes one client to India for what he calls a Liberation Experience. Once they arrive India, Kute takes away his clients passport and money, leaving them with a backpack and one change of clothes. They then spend the next 14 days with him, 24/7, for a non-stop transformational journey/process designed to strip away all the layers that are in the way of their full self expression. www.kuteblackson.net

On one of these journeys, Kute and his client were sitting at a train station in some remote part of India. It was filled with the handicapped, beggars, and homeless children. In a state of disbelief his client said “Kute, this is so overwhelming to see all this suffering. What can one do to help. I guess when I have billions in resources then I can really help and make a difference”.

“You don’t need to wait. Neither do you need to save the entire world.  All you need to do is to do the little that you can, with what you have”. Kute replied.

Later that day Kute proceeded to take him out to the bridge over looking the train station, where a small group of homeless families lived, sprawled across the pavement. It was a heart shocking sight. He carried a bag filled with large bunches of bananas. As they walked up to the bridge Kute told his client that he was to go up to each man, woman and child on the bridge, and give them 2 bananas each. That he was to do this with as much love and compassion in his heart that he could muster. That each banana was to represent a part of his love.

Within seconds the client was swarmed by a dozen or so children looking at him with a deep hunger of hope in their eyes, asking him for bananas. One by one he gave them all bananas. When they had passed out the last banana, Kute took his client to the opposite side of the road and they sat on the pavement and watched the homeless folk as they ate their bananas.

The sight was truly amazing. The children were jumping for joy. Singing, shouting and dancing, as they ate the bananas. It was as though they had won the lottery! Tears began to stream down the clients face and he began to sob uncontrollably, as he witnessed the profound impact his simple gift had on these people, even if only for a brief moment. The impact of one banana on a child. The impact of one banana to give hope, and bring joy. It may have only been only one banana and yet it was powerful to see how it impacted each of these people. The client sobbed, as he imagined the impact he could have with the resources already in his life to make a difference.

Each of you has the gift of your love to share with the world.  As you go through your personal process of manifesting a soulmate, don’t forget to share your love each day with everyone you come in contact with.  Do as Kute says, LOVE NOW.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

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Are you the “ONE” he is looking for?

My friend Brian Burt, 41, is seriously working on manifesting his soulmate and he is inviting all of us to help him reach “the One.” Brian recently posted his very detailed open letter (see below) on Face Book. Not only do I applaud Brian’s creativity and vulnerability, I am thinking that maybe someone reading this newsletter will recognize that she just might be his soulmate. Can’t wait to see where this goes!

Brian’s Partner Manifestation Letter

Dear World,

I’m writing with all the clarity and passion I can to bring about the relationship I desire and am making space for.

This is part of my growth in openness, in revealing who I am. It’s also rooted in the belief that declared clarity can be an important step towards living one’s deepest purpose.

At present, I am a man with a tremendous community, a rich life, and a history of loving and supportive intimate relationships– with many learning opportunities amongst. In the past year, I’m noticing some major shifts in my relationship with solitude (much more peaceful), in my dance with uncomfortable emotions, and in the clarity I feel about relationship.

Indeed, I am totally clear about the relationship I am making space for, and am ready for.

Looking forward, and to that purpose, I am declaring my vision:

* I am in a relationship with a woman who exudes calm, happiness and depth. She is clear in her yes’s and her no’s, communicating her truth with firmness and ease. Her body energy is particularly “chill” and she smiles easily.

[Friends: this first one may be worth re-reading, as it is the one that makes the clearest distinction compared to some characteristics below which describe the shared “social cloth” that my friends and I are (mostly) part of. Likewise, it’s more uniquely personal than some of the less-surprising items below (who doesn’t want a great sex life?) -B]

* We are each spiritual “seekers”, who value community, personal growth, and giving of ourselves for a better world. We get along well with academics, with ravers, with far-out hippies and buttoned-up corporate types. (I have lifelong aspects of each and have good friends who are wholly in each of those camps.)

*We each see life as something to be created, and an adventure to be lived, and a gift to be given and received. We value health, and nurture our bodies and souls with exercise, sleep, nutritious food, and a healthy sex life.

* We value experiences more than material possessions. We are responsible with money and our use of money reflects our deeper values. We can live simply, even when we have the means to have luxury. And, at times we choose luxury, with joy and gratitude.

* We will raise children together. We will continue to enjoy our community and our individual interests while doing so. I provide materially for the family, and she contributes as well.

* We are both known for brilliant minds and compassionate hearts, and as nuanced communicators. We enjoy cuddling, yoga, reading or engaging (with little or no TV), and love to dance and enjoy the arts. We laugh together frequently. We find ways to play. We enjoy the outdoors.

* We are mutually supportive of each other’s life goals. I have a very successful business, and appreciate a grounded nurturing energy at home. I envision she’ll be up to something she cares about with her work as well.

* We began dating in the East Bay, although she may have lived in SF, Marin, or otherwise nearby. If we leave the bay area, it will be for fantastic adventures, or perhaps someplace with community and more nature.

* She might be short or tall, thin or curvy, or of any hair or eye color. While it feels vulnerable to say so, I’m certain she’s very beautiful, and appears as young or younger than I do (or at least, as I flatter myself that I do 🙂 I’m a “face man” and especially dig puffy, sensual lips, and smooth skin. I’m imagining (but not certain) that she was born between 1970 and 1982. (I in ’67.)

* She is open, sensual, and open to exploration in bed (or out of bed :-). We have an electric, soul-quenching sex-life. Our chemistries are complimentary (I’d say I’m a medium-core dominant, exploratory, and relatively non-jealous).

* We identify neither as polyamorous, nor as a ideologically-monogomous. It is about what works and what’s a Yes rather than building in “No”s. The relationship comes first. I envision that particularly deep romantic/sexual bonds would only happen within our relationship.

* We love to sit around a meal table with a group of friends. We travel, we go to Harbin, we camp, we fall in love, we dance, we raise a family, and we die with a legacy of love.

Universe, hear me. I am happy, and grateful, and full, and rich in many ways, and I also have space for this. I am creating space for this. I can feel this relationship in my bones.

And you, my dear, if you are reading this, come hither. I promise to be present and courageous and passionate and truthful, always.

And you, who is simply curious about me, say hi, and let’s start with tea.

And you, friends, if you have someone in mind, I welcome a call, or an email introduction.

Thanks for reading,

Brian

Do you think you might be a match for Brian? Email him at email@nullbrian-burt.com

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