My favorite birthday gifts of all time (I now gift to you)

Dear Soulmate Manifesters,

I thought I would share with you the best gifts I have ever received.

1) The gift of self-care and self-love. It took many years of therapy, self-help workshops, prayer, meditation and WILLINGNESS, but learning to love myself enough to take care of all of me – physically, emotionally and spiritually is the best gift ever. Receiving this gift, that I gave myself, is what allowed me to be ready to manifest Brian.

2) The gift of not taking anything personally. Big thanks to don Miguel Ruiz for writing The Four Agreements, which taught me to never take anything personally. Miguel says that “nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.” Amen.

3) Learning to be quiet. I have learned that just because I have something to say (an opinion, judgment, point of view) doesn’t necessarily mean I need to share it. Sometimes by just staying quiet and letting others speak up is more “right” for me than trying to “be right” about something.

4) Choosing love over fear.When I think back to earlier years (especially in my 20’s and 30’s) when I would obsess about things and spin into a black hole of worry, I wish I knew then what I know now: that I and I alone control my thoughts and behaviors and that I always have a choice of choosing love over fear. Whew. Glad I finally got that gift.

I have two birthday wishes for this year: (1) that I continue to have even bigger and better opportunities to share my truth with all who wish to hear it: Big love is possible for everyone, at every age, if you are willing to put in a little time, attention and intention into your desires. (2) a trip to India in the Fall.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

p.s. if you go to a gas station that has TV screens by the pump, look for me during the month of January as a guest expert on Pump Top TV.

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Solo for the Holidays?

Dear Soulmate Manifesters,

If you are single this holiday season, I’d like to offer you my three-step guide for making it a super-special time of year. First, for those of you who are sad, depressed, angry, or resigned to the thought you will always be alone, let me offer you a very short exercise.

1) Get out the egg timer and set it for 5 minutes.

2) For 5 minutes close your eyes and dive deep into the feelings you are feeling…don’t resist on any level, just allow yourself too embrace the full (possibly unpleasant) experience of your sadness, anger, doubt, etc. Look and see where in your body the feelings reside, feel them and then see if you can feel them even more intensely.

3) Breathe deeply during this process and with each exhale, breathe out the emotion while silently saying to yourself thank you and goodbye. Chances are before the 5 minutes are up, all or most of these feelings will have dissipated. This is because you have stopped “resisting” feeling those feelings and you allowed yourself to be fully present with what was true for you in that moment.

Second: Now, get out your journal and make a list of three things you can accomplish between now and the end of the year that will make someone else’s life better. This can be anything from taking an elderly neighbor shopping, to serving food at a shelter, to a variety of random acts of kindness.

My favorite line from A Course In Miracles is this: “The only thing that can be lacking in any situation is that which you are not giving.” Want more love? Give love. You get the idea.

Finally, decide to create a memento of this holiday season that you will GIVE to your soulmate someday. It can be a special letter, photographs, a scrap-book or, my favorite, get out your video camera and make a short film that shows where you went and what you did for Holiday 2009 that you will want to share with him or her. This is an excellent way to “live as-if.”

Please email me at soulmatesecret@nullyahoo.com and let me know what you decided to do to make this a joyous holiday.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Tiger Woods – The Opportunity

Over the weekend we attended a holiday party and the big topic of conversation was the Tiger Woods fiasco. I noticed that the happily married men were very sympathetic towards Elin Woods and thought Tiger deserves whatever nightmare he has created for himself. A few of the guys (two who were over 45 and never married and one married guy who is a player) expressed a lot of sympathy for Tiger and thought that he shouldn’t be held responsible because “everyone knows that women always throw themselves at famous athletes and of course they can’t be expected to resist the temptation.” Without intending to, these men revealed their personal position on fidelity. If you are dating someone, discussing the Tiger situation provides a relevant opportunity to find out your partner’s beliefs on this very important topic and opens the door to ask questions that might generally be uncomfortable to broach. (Better to find out sooner than later if your thoughts about fidelity are aligned!)

My brilliant sister, Debbie Ford, wrote a powerful blog for the Huffington Post. I thought you would find it fascinating so I have included here for you:


The Mask of Tiger Woods

Well, here we are in another media frenzy about our latest fallen angel – the one and only Tiger Woods. As yet another legend bites the dust by exposing his bad behavior, many of us are shocked and appalled while others are falling deeper into resignation about the imaginary faithful husband. And then for some others, there is a bit of glee. There are those who are just plain grateful that Tiger Woods isn’t the superhuman that he has been made out to be. For some, Tiger’s imperfections become a gigantic exhale of relief. Those who seek to find their happiness in the fantasy that one day they will become the perfect person can now see they are finally off the proverbial hook. As the women continue to come forward for their few minutes of fame and glory in this tabloid-frenzied society that would rather focus on the another person’s flaws rather than do anything about their own, we are once again trapped in a conversation that judges another’s behavior rather than working diligently to clean up our own. And even though we’re in an era when most people don’t have the time to focus on what’s important to them, they do somehow find the time to focus on what will be meaningless in just a few days or months.

I could go on and on about why Tiger’s behavior was predictable. If you take the time to read Why Good People Do Bad Things: How to Stop Being Your Own Worst Enemy and study the masks of the human being, you will indeed understand why Tiger could not maintain his “I’m the proverbial Nice Guy Overachiever” act for his entire life. How could he or anyone continually push down all of his unmet needs and ordinary human impulses that are built into our everyday human wiring? Can you imagine being that good? Can you imagine having to win at everything, to perform perfectly every day for the rest of your life? How stressful it would be for a mere mortal to carry this burden.

So now Tiger joins the ranks of Bill Clinton, David Letterman and other infamous cheaters. Tiger will never be the same. Tiger’s life as we have all known it before that fateful car crash is dead, something for the archives. And now a new life can emerge — hopefully a life where he can live a more authentic expression, where he can experience more intimacy with his family, friends, and peers so that he doesn’t have to seek false connections with women he hardly knows and surely can’t trust. As most cheaters will admit, it’s a quick fix, a temporary high, that they could have just as easily gotten from a shot of heroin or a couple of martinis mixed with the newest edition of Playboy. Hopefully, as Tiger gets over the shock of being exposed, he will find a safe guide to support him in going inside himself to find out who he really is and what he really wants now that he no longer has the right to don the mask of the Nice Guy Overachiever.

And it’s not just Tiger’s life that has changed. So has ours. Tiger has now shown all those who still believe in the prince on the white horse that the prince is flawed, imperfect, and human and that when the mask of our human persona gets too tight, when there is no more room to grow or breathe, it blows itself up so that it can recreate itself anew. We can no longer look at Tiger with the same awe of his divine perfection. Our jealousy can melt away. For all of us who are caught up in the Tiger drama, my hope is that we will take back all that we have projected on to him all these years. It is useful to remember the old Buddhist trick. Imagine Tiger standing in front of you and now point your finger out at him and say aloud “You are stupid” or “careless” or “an idiot” or “__________” — whatever quality you are seeing in him, fill in the blank. Now look down at your hand. One finger is pointing out at him. Where are the other three fingers pointing? That’s right. Back at you. And as we were continually reminded by our friends growing up, “You spot it, you got it!


For more information on the masks and Why Good People Do Bad Things, go to www.debbieford.com

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Let God Bring Your Soulmate To You!

My book, Hot Chocolate for The Mystical Lover: 101 True Stories of Soulmates Brought Together By Divine Intervention, was published in 2001. Yesterday I received a message on Facebook from a reader in Norway who shared his “soulmate success” story as a result of having read this book. His name is Andiran, and he said:

“I was more than 40 and had given up hope about true love. I read your book, did the “Letter to God” exercise and put the letter under my pillow. Just a few months later my Pearl arrived. Now we are happily married with children, and we have traveled the world for 4 years, and have been married for 8 years. We have lived in India and found a past incarnation in Spain. Or son Leopold is “made in England.” Thanks a lot for the gift you gave me – a happy life!! We now live on a small organic farm in the mountains in Norway, with pristine nature, clean water and many animals. Our specialty is conscious parenting. We are philosophers, metaphysicians and vegetarians.”

Andiran’s letter is a perfect reminder about just how EASY the manifestation process can be. He simply did one easy prayer and then put it under his pillow. Are you willing for your process to be easy as well? The prayer can be found on page 167 of The Soulmate Secret: Manifest the Love of Your Life with the Law of Attraction and for those of you who don’t have the book, you can read it below.


Dear One,
Everyone longs to give themselves completely to someone, to have a deep soul relationship with another, to be loved thoroughly and exclusively, but I say “No.” Not until you are satisfied, fulfilled and content with being alone, with giving yourself totally and unreservedly to Me, will you be ready to have the intensely personal and unique relationship that I have planned for you. You will never be united with anyone or anything else until you are united with Me. I want you to stop planning, stop wishing, and start allowing Me to give you the most thrilling plan in existence – one that you cannot even imagine. I want you to have the best. Please, allow Me to bring it to you.

You must keep watching Me expecting the greatest of things. Keep experiencing the satisfaction that I AM. Keep listening and learning the things that I will tell you. Just wait. That’s all. Don’t be anxious. Don’t worry. Don’t look around at the things others have or that I have given them. Don’t look at the things you think you want. Just keep looking up to Me or you will miss what I want to show you. And then, when you are ready, I will surprise you with a love far more wonderful than any you have dreamed of.

You see, until you are ready and until the one I have for you is ready (I am working even at this moment to have you both ready at the same time), until you are both satisfied exclusively with Me and the life I have prepared for you, you won’t be able to experience the love that exemplifies your relationship with Me. This is Perfect Love.

And Dear One, I want you to have this most wonderful love. I want to see in the flesh a picture of your relationship with Me, and to enjoy materially and concretely the everlasting union of beauty, perfection, and love that I offer. Know that I love you utterly. Believe it and be satisfied.
Love,
God


What one thing are you willing to do today towards manifesting your soulmate?

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Love Advice About Mr. Right

I recently interviewed Lisa Steadman about her upcoming book If He’s Not The One, Who Is?: What Went Wrong – and What It Takes to Find Mr. Right (January 18, 2010) and her transformative 8 week teleclass based on the book. Lisa’s message is one of hope, inspiration, and empowerment for singles who are done with past dating drama, disaster, and disappointment, and ready to create happier and healthier dating futures.

We talked about how we both met our husbands when we started making different choices, shifted our beliefs, and started acting “as if” to get a better result. Lisa’s book is all about how women can celebrate being single so that they can fall in love with their lives and magnetically attract men who are interesting, available, and ready for a committed relationship.

AF: What do you think keeps single women stuck and unable to meet great men?
LS: Because our beliefs create our reality, when you believe there are no good men out there, you won’t find any. If you think the love of your life got away, and that you will never meet anybody as interesting and amazing as your ex, you’re right. You won’t. See, our subconscious is so committed to being right, it’s going to show us how right it is – by delivering those disappointing results we believe to be true. However, when you shift your thinking, you realize that it’s better to be happy than right. And in order to be happy, it’s time to let go of the idea that your happily ever after is in your past, and celebrate the fact that it’s in your future with someone new.

AF: How can single women learn from past relationships without feeling like failures or losers at love?
LS: For any woman out there who’s feeling bad about herself because she’s had her fair share of relationships and breakups, it’s once again time to shift your thinking. We’re not relationship failures. Our love lives have been karmically eventful. Thank God! If we never got our heart broken, if we never risked big and lost big, if we stayed in the first relationship we ever got into regardless of compatibility and shared values, would we learn anything? Life is messy, and the sooner we celebrate that – and the lessons that go along with it – the sooner we’ll fall madly in love with ourselves and our lives and that’s the key to attracting great men and eventually the love of our lives.

AF: In your book, you make the important distinction between dating disappointment and actual heartbreak. Can you elaborate?
LS: I work with so many smart, successful, savvy women who often mistake disappointment on the dating scene for heartbreak. The problem is that they end up wasting valuable time and energy nursing what they think is a broken heart, but is actually just a bruised ego. When you embrace the idea that dating disappointment isn’t heartbreak and instead is just a natural reaction to unmet expectations, you can create more realistic expectations, cut down on wasted time and energy, and meet Mr. Next more quickly, eventually calling in Mr. Right.

AF: What are some tell tale signs women can look out for to differentiate between Mr. Next and Mr. Right?
LS: On the road to happily ever after, you’ll meet and date lots of Mr. Nexts. Your job is to get to know these guys for who they are, and clearly see how they match up with your relationship requirements. Mr. Next can be fun, funny, and fabulous, but as soon as he reveals himself to be someone who doesn’t match up with your long term goals and requirements, you must let go and move on. Now, Mr. Right can also be fun, funny, and fabulous, AND he also takes an interest in you, celebrates who you are, and shares your common values. When you meet him, you’ll know. And that’s fabulous!

AF: Where can people go to find out more about you, your upcoming book and your teleclass?
LS: Because my book isn’t out until January, and my teleclass doesn’t start until February, I wanted to offer your subscribers something special for the holidays. Right now, when your subscribers visit ifhesnottheonewhois.com, they’ll get three exciting FREE bonuses:

1. A FREE quiz to help you decide if you know the difference between Mr. Next and Mr. Right

2. A FREE 60 minute audio introduction to my book and program If He’s Not The One, Who Is?: What Went Wrong – and What It Takes to Find Mr. Right

3. A FREE preview chapter from If He’s Not The One, Who Is?: What Went Wrong – and What It Takes to Find Mr. Right entitled Fairytales Do Come True (And Other Lies Your Mother Told You)

Please visit: www.ifhesnottheonewhois.com

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Words: Love, Life, and Magic!

I’ve been thinking about words a lot this week. The words I want to say, the words I wish I had said, the words I want to hear, the words I say to myself, the words I want to write….I have been obsessed by words. There is so much beauty and power in words, especially song lyrics, so I thought I would share with you one of my favorite songs by Sting:

“The Book Of My Life”
by Sting

Let me watch by the fire and remember my days
And it may be a trick of the firelight
But the flickering pages that trouble my sight
Is a book I’m afraid to write

It’s the book of my days, it’s the book of my life
And it’s cut like a fruit on the blade of a knife
And it’s all there to see as the section reveals
There’s some sorrow in every life

If it reads like a puzzle, a wandering maze
Then I won’t understand ’til the end of my days
I’m still forced to remember,
Remember the words of my life

There are promises broken and promises kept
Angry words that were spoken, when I should have wept
There’s a chapter of secrets, and words to confess
If I lose everything that I possess
There’s a chapter on loss and a ghost who won’t die
There’s a chapter on love where the ink’s never dry
There are sentences served in a prison I built out of lies.

Though the pages are numbered
I can’t see where they lead
For the end is a mystery no-one can read
In the book of my life

There’s a chapter on fathers a chapter on sons
There are pages of conflicts that nobody won
And the battles you lost and your bitter defeat,
There’s a page where we fail to meet

There are tales of good fortune that couldn’t be planned
There’s a chapter on god that I don’t understand
There’s a promise of Heaven and Hell but I’m damned if I see

Though the pages are numbered
I can’t see where they lead
For the end is a mystery no-one can read
In the book of my life

Now the daylight’s returning
And if one sentence is true
All these pages are burning
And all that’s left is you

Though the pages are numbered
I can’t see where they lead
For the end is a mystery no-one can read
In the book of my life

I find these lyrics so haunting and beautiful… so, I leave you with this question: are you writing your chapter on love? What does it say and too whom?

Your thoughts, intentions and words have power and magic in them. Choose them wisely.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Two Soulmates Share Their Secrets

I recently connected with a very special soulmate couple, Dr. Lara Fernandez & Johnny, who I’ve been hearing about for quite some time. Johnny and I were on a radio show together and I just loved hearing his approach to love and life and the love of his life, Lara. Johnny and Dr. Lara are dedicated to helping conscious, spiritual women prepare themselves in mind, body, spirit, and heart for the soulmate of their dreams. They are co-founders of LifeLaunch Training, home of the LoveLaunch Weekend Intensive. Last week I did a little mini-interview with them and here’s what I learned about them:

Q: I heard that you two have said that the Law of Attraction will NOT help you manifest your soulmate….what do you mean?

J& L: We totally believe in the Law of Attraction but it’s not the only answer. We have found that a lot of people need to do more of the inner work. It’s what we call “raising your vibration to being a soulmate.” This is how we believe you magnetize yours soulmate to you. You become more of who you really ARE rather than who you have been conditioned to be by society, our family and traditional media.

Q:How did you two meet?

Johnny’s story: Lara magnetized me from New York to San Francisco area 11 years ago. When I moved it was because I had a strong feeling that I need to be here in California. I came with no job, no friends just a knowing. Once I committed to moving, a job fell in my lap. I am a recovering smart guy (and a lawyer) and I began looking at what would be different for me in relationship since I had just come through a messy divorce. I found some mentors who taught me about spirituality and energy and who showed me how grow into the emotionally mature man I am today. One year after moving to California Lara and I met through www.match.com . A few months after that we moved into together and Lara shared with me how she magnetized me to her.

Lara’s story: I had been married and divorced at a young age. For years I had several six-month relationships. After the last excruciating breakup I decided to take a break from dating and began reading a lot of books on loving myself. I met an amazing coach who helped me do a lot of “inner work.” She was always there to remind me, who I really am. I was a chiropractor but not making much money and often complained that my soulmate wouldn’t love me because I wasn’t making a big salary.

She taught me that my soulmate would love me no matter what – that was a completely new concept for me!

I was sick and tired of being lonely and hanging out with other unhappy single women. I realized that I needed to commit to either finding my soulmate or becoming the cat lady. I chose to be commited to manifesting Big Love. I began writing letters to my soulmate. I began to feel like he was nearby. For the next two years I was focused on manifesting Big Love. During this time I created a soulmate wish list, a love altar, a vision board, and spent a lot of time meditating and connecting with nature.

Then within one week five people suggested I join www.match.com. I took that as a sign and even though I didn’t own a computer at the time, I went to a friend’s house and got online. I put up a profile (without a photo!) and two weeks later met Johnny! The rest is history.

Today, Lara & Johnny share their love and relationship magic through newsletters and a great workshop called the Life Launch Weekend. If you are ready to take the next step to removing the blocks in your love life, you can check them out at: www.launchyourlifenow.com

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

The Power of Touch!

You won’t believe what I told my dear friend Allana… She interviewed me, we covered a LOT and it was Divinely delicious!! I have a pretty wonderful life yet I revealed things I may have never even told myself how does she do that with such grace?! That’s why she’s interviewed my sister Debbie, Whoopi Goldberg, Delta Burke, Lisa Nichols and more. At one point in the interview I actually SANG to her. Talking to Allana was a lot of fun and at the end of this message is a link so you can hear the interview (for free) if you wish.

Allana believes we are in such a high tech, low touch society, that we need to Slow Down and Touch. Here’s her sage advice:

1. Touch The Ones We LOVE! With those we trust and love, Allana encourages us to make conscious contact with someone, heart to heart. Then BE with them by holding hands, giving longer hugs (try it for 6 seconds!), and snuggling more with our kids. (I couldn’t agree more!)

2. Touch The Parts Inside We Neglect: She wants us to embrace, love, validate and be tender with our inner child who may feel scared, ashamed, angry, afraid or judged. Literally cuddle a pillow and imagine you’re being tender with a part of you who’s normally ignored. Make time to journal with the part of you that feels avoided, let her know you hear her, that you’ll take care of her, that all is well.

3. Touch Your Self: She actually does mean self pleasure! And not for the goal of orgasm, instead to expand our capacity for pleasure and help us teach our partners what really turns us on. She also recommends slowing down and say kind words to our thighs when putting on body lotion and even hugging ourselves to remind us how far we’ve come, and how brilliant this very moment is.

4. p.s. Touch NOT Those Vampires! She’s big on boundaries and insists we say NO to energy vampires. Even if they ask for a hug, stick out your hand and say, “I’d prefer a handshake. Thank you.” It takes the courage of risking they reject you, yet with practice, you can do it.

She’s doing something extraordinary this October 29th. Instead of explaining everything to you myself, here’s a complimentary copy of the interview so you don’t miss out…

www.sexysoulfulandrich.com

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses!

Arielle

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

What I Know For Sure About Love

Here’s what I know for sure: finding true love is possible for any one at any age if you’re willing to prepare your self, on all levels, to become a magnet for love.

This wonderful Universe of ours is set up to deliver the people and things we draw to us that our consistent with our personal belief system. If you don’t believe you will ever find the ONE, then, guess what? You get to be right …you probably won’t.

If, however, you learn to believe that the ONE is not only out there but is ALSO LOOKING FOR YOU, then true love can be yours.

The basic Law of Attraction states that you will attract to you those things that match your state of belief.

Believing that your soul mate is out there is critical to the preparation of manifestation.

I believe that the Universe is always mirroring back to us our beliefs about our selves and the world. If we believe the world is a loving and friendly place, then most of the time that will be our experience. But, if we believe the world is a chaotic, stressful and fearful place, then that becomes our reality. So, believing and knowing that your soul mate is out there is the most important part of the formula.

What if I told you that it’s not your job to know HOW your soul mate is going to appear? What if I told you it’s only your job to be ready, willing and open to love. Think about it this way: you really don’t know where air comes from but you do believe that it’s always there for you, right?

The same is true for love. It’s there for you. It’s always been there for you. You just need to remember the love that you are and once you do, the Universe will deliver to you the perfect soul mate.

Here is what worked for me and I know it can work for you: When I was in my early forties I decided to manifest my soulmate using everything I had ever learned about manifestation, psychology, spirituality, and the Law of Attraction. My intentions became crystal clear while I simultaneously cleared out the clutter in my house AND in my heart. I learned and invented techniques, rituals, visualizations and prayers that helped me prepare my body, mind, spirit and home for an amazing relationship. And they worked. I met my husband, Brian, who has exceeded all of my desires and expectations. He was and is everything I ever wished for.

Big love is possible for any one of any age if you are willing to become a magnet for love. Continue to live each day in the knowingness that you are in a loving, committed relationship as you savor the waiting for your beloved to arrive.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Big Love: Secrets from Soulmates Arielle & Brian

Dear Arielle & Brian,

I totally resonated with The Soulmate Secret and did 100%, of all the processes, working authentically on loving myself in a way I had never done before. I was happily savoring my time while waiting for my true love to walk into my life until I irrationally and aggressively and in an angry way contacted an ex-love interest. I now feel like I sabotaged everything I was trying to create and I am now having a really hard time forgiving myself. What I did was very ineffective and just made me feel like a fool. What kind of healing or books would you suggest for me? Thank you so much for any words of advice.
Lots of Love & Appreciation,
Leslie


Hi Leslie:

Before we get started please know we have lots of “love and appreciation” for YOU! Your honesty, courage and vulnerability needs to be acknowledged and if we were with you right now we’d shower you with infinite amounts of comfort hugs and hopefully provide you a “soft place” to land. So please reach out to your friends and family for that infusion of love and support—we all deserve that Leslie!! And then begin to REMEMBER that YOU will get through this but you will want to invest all the time you need to nurture yourself and really “feel” the full range of your feelings you’re experiencing which might be; fear, guilt, anger, sadness, anxiety, whatever might show up but please be patient with that process.

When your love and light begins to dissolve some of those darker moments and you’re beginning to feel a sense of joy and gratitude again please go back to your processes of building on that unconditional love for yourself. Then once again you will start to celebrate your life and your opportunities for a loving relationship—you will be “in the flow.” Leslie, YOU WILL get to that beautiful place you mentioned where you were “happily savoring” your own authenticity and knowing that a man would be very fortunate if he were to meet you at this time and place in your life. What a delicious and deserving intention and one we know you will manifest!!

Leslie, our response to your questions are just a reminder of how beautiful you are and that you were so successful with your earlier work and preparation you did to prepare for your soulmate. That time spent was not lost and in fact it serves as a wonderful foundation to build on and your spirit is even stronger for what you just went through. So with continued heart intention, a daily celebration of how beautiful you are (inside and out) and a open heart and mind to your infinite possibilities you will manifest the love you desire and absolutely deserve!!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle & Brian
P.S. We would recommend you consider reading The Conscious Heart by Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks. They are the Masters of creating conscious loving relationships. We’d also suggest The Dark Side of the Light Chasers by Debbie Ford and any books from the Institute of HeartMath.


Arielle Ford has spent the past 25 years living and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is one of the founding partners of the Spiritual Cinema Circle, a DVD club dedicated to providing movies about love and compassion. She is the author of seven books including the HOT CHOCOLATE FOR THE MYSTICAL SOUL series and her newest book THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction. Her husband and soulmate Brian Hilliard is a business consultant with a life-long interest in spirituality and the practice of compassion. They live in La Jolla, CA www.soulmatesecret.com

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