Big Love: Secrets from Soulmates Arielle & Brian

Dear Arielle and Brian,

My name is Maria and I’ve been raising my two daughters on my own, for 15 years, working very hard to provide the best that I could for them. Now that they are now both in college and I am 57 years old, I have decided to think a bit about myself, and who knows maybe find my soulmate.

I have read your book, made the treasure map, listened to the feelingizations every night before going to sleep, and I have even signed myself up on a dating website here in Melbourne, Australia. Nothing has happened to me at all, am I too old?  Do soulmate success stories only happen to rich people and CEOs or does it happen to ordinary people like me too?

Thank you,
Maria

Dearest Maria,

Before we get started with your question about you finding love in your future, please know that the two of us are giving you a standing ovation in our office right this minute as well as dancing on top of our desks to celebrate YOU! Please follow our lead and do a quick celebration dance (I’m serious) in your house to honor your contribution to the planet for raising two beautiful independent young adults and sharing your deepest love and wisdom to young souls who needed your guidance.

Cheers Maria!!!

Now..if you did your celebration dance I’m sure it brought a smile to your face (maybe even some belly laughter) and a warmth to your heart—please try that out daily because that will be the quickest way to connect with your lovely spirit, Maria. I think you just need to kick start your love engine and the key to that begins with as much love, laughter and tons of fun that you can muster!!!

So please give yourself some time each day to dance, laugh, sing, or just go for a walk to reconnect with your spirit and then go back to all those wonderful practices you outlined in your e-mail and do them with passion and fun. And finally please remember to nurture and care for yourself in this process and please be patient and accepting of what unfolds with no real strong attachment to any expectations or results that you might place on yourself. Maria, hopefully these simple suggestions will help you align yourself with a soulmate. We know that ASKING for love is one of the most difficult things for anyone to risk but by risking it from your deepest heart, you open a door that will never close again.  This holds true for all walks of life.  So yes, Maria, soulmate success stories can manifest for the rich, the poor, all colors, all religions. The entire global family.

We are sending you our love and prayers and we’ll continue to dance on the tabletops in your honor and to wish you all the best in finding your soulmate.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle & Brian

Arielle Ford, author of The Soulmate Secret: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction and her husband Brian Hilliard, a business consultant, answer your questions about life, love and relationships. They believe that whether you are eighteen or eighty years old finding Big Love is always possible. Email your questions to:  soulmatesecret@nullyahoo.com

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

LOVE NOW, one banana at a time

My dear friend, Kute Blackson, sent out a newsletter the other day that touched me deeply and he has given me permission to share this story with you.

Kute’s teaching is all about expressing your deepest love RIGHT NOW.  Several times each year he takes one client to India for what he calls a Liberation Experience. Once they arrive India, Kute takes away his clients passport and money, leaving them with a backpack and one change of clothes. They then spend the next 14 days with him, 24/7, for a non-stop transformational journey/process designed to strip away all the layers that are in the way of their full self expression. www.kuteblackson.net

On one of these journeys, Kute and his client were sitting at a train station in some remote part of India. It was filled with the handicapped, beggars, and homeless children. In a state of disbelief his client said “Kute, this is so overwhelming to see all this suffering. What can one do to help. I guess when I have billions in resources then I can really help and make a difference”.

“You don’t need to wait. Neither do you need to save the entire world.  All you need to do is to do the little that you can, with what you have”. Kute replied.

Later that day Kute proceeded to take him out to the bridge over looking the train station, where a small group of homeless families lived, sprawled across the pavement. It was a heart shocking sight. He carried a bag filled with large bunches of bananas. As they walked up to the bridge Kute told his client that he was to go up to each man, woman and child on the bridge, and give them 2 bananas each. That he was to do this with as much love and compassion in his heart that he could muster. That each banana was to represent a part of his love.

Within seconds the client was swarmed by a dozen or so children looking at him with a deep hunger of hope in their eyes, asking him for bananas. One by one he gave them all bananas. When they had passed out the last banana, Kute took his client to the opposite side of the road and they sat on the pavement and watched the homeless folk as they ate their bananas.

The sight was truly amazing. The children were jumping for joy. Singing, shouting and dancing, as they ate the bananas. It was as though they had won the lottery! Tears began to stream down the clients face and he began to sob uncontrollably, as he witnessed the profound impact his simple gift had on these people, even if only for a brief moment. The impact of one banana on a child. The impact of one banana to give hope, and bring joy. It may have only been only one banana and yet it was powerful to see how it impacted each of these people. The client sobbed, as he imagined the impact he could have with the resources already in his life to make a difference.

Each of you has the gift of your love to share with the world.  As you go through your personal process of manifesting a soulmate, don’t forget to share your love each day with everyone you come in contact with.  Do as Kute says, LOVE NOW.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Are you the “ONE” he is looking for?

My friend Brian Burt, 41, is seriously working on manifesting his soulmate and he is inviting all of us to help him reach “the One.” Brian recently posted his very detailed open letter (see below) on Face Book. Not only do I applaud Brian’s creativity and vulnerability, I am thinking that maybe someone reading this newsletter will recognize that she just might be his soulmate. Can’t wait to see where this goes!

Brian’s Partner Manifestation Letter

Dear World,

I’m writing with all the clarity and passion I can to bring about the relationship I desire and am making space for.

This is part of my growth in openness, in revealing who I am. It’s also rooted in the belief that declared clarity can be an important step towards living one’s deepest purpose.

At present, I am a man with a tremendous community, a rich life, and a history of loving and supportive intimate relationships– with many learning opportunities amongst. In the past year, I’m noticing some major shifts in my relationship with solitude (much more peaceful), in my dance with uncomfortable emotions, and in the clarity I feel about relationship.

Indeed, I am totally clear about the relationship I am making space for, and am ready for.

Looking forward, and to that purpose, I am declaring my vision:

* I am in a relationship with a woman who exudes calm, happiness and depth. She is clear in her yes’s and her no’s, communicating her truth with firmness and ease. Her body energy is particularly “chill” and she smiles easily.

[Friends: this first one may be worth re-reading, as it is the one that makes the clearest distinction compared to some characteristics below which describe the shared “social cloth” that my friends and I are (mostly) part of. Likewise, it’s more uniquely personal than some of the less-surprising items below (who doesn’t want a great sex life?) -B]

* We are each spiritual “seekers”, who value community, personal growth, and giving of ourselves for a better world. We get along well with academics, with ravers, with far-out hippies and buttoned-up corporate types. (I have lifelong aspects of each and have good friends who are wholly in each of those camps.)

*We each see life as something to be created, and an adventure to be lived, and a gift to be given and received. We value health, and nurture our bodies and souls with exercise, sleep, nutritious food, and a healthy sex life.

* We value experiences more than material possessions. We are responsible with money and our use of money reflects our deeper values. We can live simply, even when we have the means to have luxury. And, at times we choose luxury, with joy and gratitude.

* We will raise children together. We will continue to enjoy our community and our individual interests while doing so. I provide materially for the family, and she contributes as well.

* We are both known for brilliant minds and compassionate hearts, and as nuanced communicators. We enjoy cuddling, yoga, reading or engaging (with little or no TV), and love to dance and enjoy the arts. We laugh together frequently. We find ways to play. We enjoy the outdoors.

* We are mutually supportive of each other’s life goals. I have a very successful business, and appreciate a grounded nurturing energy at home. I envision she’ll be up to something she cares about with her work as well.

* We began dating in the East Bay, although she may have lived in SF, Marin, or otherwise nearby. If we leave the bay area, it will be for fantastic adventures, or perhaps someplace with community and more nature.

* She might be short or tall, thin or curvy, or of any hair or eye color. While it feels vulnerable to say so, I’m certain she’s very beautiful, and appears as young or younger than I do (or at least, as I flatter myself that I do 🙂 I’m a “face man” and especially dig puffy, sensual lips, and smooth skin. I’m imagining (but not certain) that she was born between 1970 and 1982. (I in ’67.)

* She is open, sensual, and open to exploration in bed (or out of bed :-). We have an electric, soul-quenching sex-life. Our chemistries are complimentary (I’d say I’m a medium-core dominant, exploratory, and relatively non-jealous).

* We identify neither as polyamorous, nor as a ideologically-monogomous. It is about what works and what’s a Yes rather than building in “No”s. The relationship comes first. I envision that particularly deep romantic/sexual bonds would only happen within our relationship.

* We love to sit around a meal table with a group of friends. We travel, we go to Harbin, we camp, we fall in love, we dance, we raise a family, and we die with a legacy of love.

Universe, hear me. I am happy, and grateful, and full, and rich in many ways, and I also have space for this. I am creating space for this. I can feel this relationship in my bones.

And you, my dear, if you are reading this, come hither. I promise to be present and courageous and passionate and truthful, always.

And you, who is simply curious about me, say hi, and let’s start with tea.

And you, friends, if you have someone in mind, I welcome a call, or an email introduction.

Thanks for reading,

Brian

Do you think you might be a match for Brian? Email him at email@nullbrian-burt.com

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Prayer, Gratitude & Acting as If

In his book, Secrets of the Lost Mode of Prayer, Gregg Braden shares one of my favorite stories about accompanying a tribal shaman on a rain dance. He expected a big production of music, costumes and dance. However, he was quite surprised by what he saw.

The Shaman walked alone to an area marked with stones. He quietly walked around the perimeter for a moment, stopped and closed his eyes in a quiet, meditative state. After a short time in silence the Shaman said he was finished and he was ready to go to lunch with Gregg.

Gregg was surprised at the brevity of the ritual and said to the Shaman “I thought you were going to pray for rain”. The Shaman said “Not pray FOR rain, but PRAY RAIN”. He explained that he “prayed rain” by imagining and feeling the rain landing on his skin, sensing the moisture as it collected on the dirt beneath his feet, smelling the sweet and fresh fragrance, hearing the pitter patter of the drops as they fell, seeing the dewy wetness upon the foliage and watching it fall from the sky. He felt it. He saw it. He lived the experience with every minute detail all within his own mind and heart.
About an hour later, while Gregg and the Shaman were having lunch, the sky opened up and the much-needed rain fell to the ground.

I love this story because it so clearly demonstrates the importance of “acting as if.”  The Shaman felt the rain, gave thanks for the rain and then it rained.
In the chapter on “Living as If” in The Soulmate Secret, this is the same technique I discuss.  Feel what it feels like to be living your life with your soulmate.  Experience the love, the joy, and the fun you will have together. Then give thanks and gratitude to the Universe/God/Goddess/All that Is for delivering to you your perfect right partner.

If you need a little help getting into the right state of open-heartedness, please do this 5 minute  “Heartlight” feelingization.  You can download it here: www.soulmatesecret.com/audio

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Big Love: Secrets from Soulmates Arielle & Brian

Dear Arielle and Brian:

When you meet your soulmate, do you know it pretty much right away, and if things go wrong, is he then not your soulmate? How do you know, if things seem great and then fall apart?
I have a situation that is pretty unique, and i’m not sure what to make of it. I am getting mixed signals and even though i am in my 40’s, i don’t know how to navigate this. Does the path of true love always run smooth if the person is your soulmate. I don’t know whether to give up or wait it out.
Thanks,

Lynn


Dear Lynn,
Thank you so much for your very important question—you certainly are not alone with these thoughts and feelings regarding your loved one. I would lovingly suggest you navigate this from an open heart and trust the answers will be provided for you. Your concern and doubt might originate from your ego which naturally tries to protect you— So please enlist you’re amazing intuition to help you gain some clarity on these “mixed signals.” Your intuition is truly the best “tool” in your “toolbox” to expand your awareness, receive deeper insights and discern (from the heart) so as to hopefully grow the relationship, heal the relationship or at the least understand from a place of love and not resentment, despair or anger that the relationship isn’t serving the two of you. Lynn, lets give it a try—close your eyes and focus on your heart for a few minutes and actually “feel” love been showered upon you from your beloved, a pet, source, God whatever and whoever will give immediate “goosebumps” and then answer these questions. Are you inspired when your with your beloved? Do you feel healed? Do you feel safe and secure? Do you feel renewed? Are your fears dissolving? If your “feeling” good about what comes up for you then you’re truly on the right path to a healthy authentic sacred relationship. If things are clouded and you haven’t raised the expectation bar to high for your man then be honest with yourself and your beloved and take the steps to go your separate ways.
Lynn, all relationships (Soulmates included) are never smooth all the time but if you live from the heart I promise that you will feel filled up more often and the turbulence will be minimized. I think with the help of your intuition you’ll never have to ask yourself whether you have to “give up” on the relationship or “wait it out.” The answer will be clear and come from within—you’ll just want to “dive in” for more BIG LOVE!!!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle & Brian


Arielle Ford, author of The Soulmate Secret: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction and her husband Brian Hilliard, a business consultant, answer your questions about life, love and relationships. They believe that whether you are eighteen or eighty years old finding Big Love is always possible. Email your questions to: soulmatesecret@nullyahoo.com

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Big Love: Secrets from Soulmates Arielle & Brian

Dear Arielle and Brian:
I have been divorced for nearly ten years from someone I really loved me but constantly cheated on me. I have been on a spiritual path for many years now, I have done affirmations and made vision boards but in spite of my best efforts to “get out there” and meet someone new nothing ever seems to happen. What do you suggest?
Thank you,

Evelyn



Brian and I went to see the movie LAST CHANCE HARVEY recently. What moved me most about this tender film (which tells the story of two people at mid-life discovering the possibility of love and happiness) was the moment towards the end of the film when Harvey (Dustin Hoffman) makes it very clear to Kate (played by Emma Thompson) that he wants to have a relationship with her. Kate, a middle-aged single woman, who has been hurt too many times in the past, says to Harvey:

“I’m not going to do it because it will hurt. Not right now, maybe, but soon – there will be a ‘it’s not quite working is it’ or a ‘I need some space’ or whatever it is and it’ll end and it’ll hurt and I won’t do it, I won’t and…I… I don’t want this… I think it’s actually easier for me to be disappointed.”

As I sat in the dark theater, waiting for Kate to snap out of her misery and say YES to this man who was taking a stand for her, I realized that Kate had just said out loud the thoughts so many singles have said to themselves. That love is just too hard and at some level accepting disappointment is EASIER than taking a risk for love.

Evelyn, right now you get to make a choice. You can choose to give up on love or you can decide that you deserve to find your soulmate and create the life of your dreams with him or her. If you think it’s too late consider this: I did it at age 44. My mother-in-law Peggy did it at age 80.

The first step is to make the choice to put your “intention” and “attention” on your love life. The next step is to become humble enough to forgive yourself for the mistakes you have made and to forgive those who have hurt you in the past. Having purified your heart of bitterness and regrets, you’ll have renewed clarity to create your soulmate wish list, your Treasure Map, and to set about doing all of the fun, energizing projects, prayers, rituals and feelingizations that are outlined in The Soulmate Secret. www.soulmatesecret.com

Come on, what are you waiting for? Start manifesting your soulmate today and add more love to the world.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle & Brian


Arielle Ford, author of The Soulmate Secret: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction and her husband Brian Hilliard, a business consultant, answer your questions about life, love and relationships. They believe that whether you are eighteen or eighty years old finding Big Love is always possible. Email your questions to: soulmatesecret@nullyahoo.com

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Big Love: Secrets from Soulmates Arielle & Brian

Dear Arielle and Brian:
Three years ago I met someone who I strongly believe in my heart is my soulmate. We are engaged and have lived together for the past three years. I discovered he cheated on me and I told him to leave the house. He has grovelled, begged for me to take him back and acknowledged that it was a terrible mistake.

My question is how can a soulmate cause so much pain? How can someone I love so dearly do this? Part of me wants him to come back, but the hurting part of me wants to let go. I have been honest with my thoughts and let him know where he stands. He asked me today what can he do to regain my trust and have me back?
Hope you can clear my mind a bit. Totally confused here.
Betsy


Dear Betsy,

Thank you for sharing your feelings regarding your love relationship. It takes a tremendous amount of courage and heart vulnerability to ask the difficult questions and process these important issues. If we may, we would love to ask you a few more questions in hopes of you gaining more insight instead of assuming we have the answers.
You said that in your heart and intuitive guidance he is your soulmate, but do you feel a soulmate would cause you so much pain? Do you feel a soulmate would have to expend so much energy defending his or her actions? Do you feel like he has provided you a “soft place” to land? Has the relationship been healing and nurturing for you? Were you inspired by his devotion and unconditional love for you? Has he helped to remove your fears or support your aspirations?
These are important questions for you to answer from your heart. Your answers will help you determine if he has served you and your relationship at the “Soul” level. We have always honored and respected loving relationships that can work through these very difficult issues with integrity, forgiveness and the most important ingredient– trust.
Every one of us deserves a healthy and vibrant relationship with the one we love but you specifically asked us to reflect on your questions from a soulmate perspective. Hopefully our response will help you with your confusion We will be sending lots of love and prayers to you and your partner no matter what road you take for the two of you.
Betsy, just know you have most likely helped many people who are in a similar situation you currently find yourself in and maybe this can assist them in gaining some clarity and insight into their own loving relationship.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle & Brian


Arielle Ford, author of The Soulmate Secret: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction and her husband Brian Hilliard, a business consultant, answer your questions about life, love and relationships. They believe that whether you are eighteen or eighty years old finding Big Love is always possible. Email your questions to: soulmatesecret@nullyahoo.com

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Big Love: Secrets from Soulmates Arielle & Brian

Arielle Ford, author of The Soulmate Secret:  Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction and her husband Brian Hilliard, a business consultant, answer your questions about life, love and relationships. They believe that whether you are eighteen or eighty years old finding Big Love is always possible. Email your questions to:  soulmatesecret@nullyahoo.com

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Dear Arielle and Brian:
I have been in a relationship for nearly five years. I feel very safe, comfortable and care deeply for this person. He loves me unconditionally and he is there for me more than anyone I have ever been with. The problem is that I don’t feel like he is my “soul mate”. How do I know if he is the ONE?

Thanks,
Virginia

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First of all Virginia, we would like to take this moment to really honor what you’ve manifested in your relationship over the last five years with your partner. Those wonderful attributes of safety and comfort are extremely nourishing and extremely rewarding. And for you to care for somebody as much as you do and to have somebody LOVE you unconditionally are a blessing and certainly a solid foundation for a LOVING relationship.

To assist you with your question, “How do I know if he is the ONE?“, we would ask you to please shift your attention and feelings to your heart regarding yourself and your partner. If it helps focus your breath and the experience of something or someone you feel infinite love for into your heart for 10 seconds or so and then send that love, care and appreciation to yourself and your partner (The Institute Of HeartMath refers to this effective technique as Heart Lock-ins). This will add buoyancy and regenerative energy to your entire system as well as to allow you to get in touch with a perspective of greater clarity and expanded awareness. Now, if you’re comfortable, please look and “feel into” your partner as “Soul” or as some might refer to as “essence.” With this deeper recognition we have a unique opportunity to realize (and feel) that our relationship can potentially be unconditional and limitless. Connecting with each other’s Soul or essence gives us the sacred opportunity to reveal our deeper selves and therefore communicate our deepest fears and insecurities to each other. Communicating those vulnerabilities from our hearts feeds us, supports us and nurtures our ability to love our partners and ourselves more than we ever imagined. It will also help you (with honesty and courage) to look at the possibility that you have projected your own fears, judgments and unfair demands and expectations onto the relationship. If you have found this to be true please be easy and gentle with yourself but use that reservoir of love you have been building up through your Heart Lock-ins and direct that frequency of love to dissolve those energies around your fears and anxieties as well as “take out” some of the significance of those judgments and any feelings of anger and despair if that might be weighing you down. You might begin to see the issues and dynamics impacting your relationship in a different light and therefore respond quite differently to each interaction or potential conflict. There is a good chance you could even see your partner in an entirely different light as well—-maybe even as THE ONE!!!!

Virginia, Romantic Soul Love is the doorway through which we can become bigger-our lives, our laughter, and most definitely the LOVE the two of you will share. But wherever this sacred journey takes you we only wish for you Big, Big Love. Every once in a while take your wonderful guy by the hand and let loose with some big FUN—-you might even consider “Dancing Under The Stars” or “Taking a Walk in the Rain”–however daring you want to be just hold onto each other’s hands and dive into the infinite “Ocean of Love and Mercy” with this beautiful guy and commit to open up your heart a little more every step of the way and see what happens!!! Something in the process might just shift and you could find yourself in the grips of “BIG LOVE.”

Arielle & Brian

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Arielle Ford has spent the past 25 years living and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is one of the founding partners of the Spiritual Cinema Circle, a DVD club dedicated to providing movies about love and compassion.  She is the author of seven books including the HOT CHOCOLATE FOR THE MYSTICAL SOUL series and her newest book THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction. Her husband and soulmate Brian Hilliard is a business consultant with a life-long interest in spirituality and the practice of compassion.  They live in La Jolla, CA  www.soulmatesecret.com

Disclaimer: Arielle Ford, Brian Hilliard, the Big Love column and its publishers assume no responsibility for any consequence relating directly or indirectly to any action or inaction you take based on the information, services or other material related to this column.

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love

Big Love –Secrets from Soulmates Arielle & Brian

Dear Arielle & Brian,
Since I read the Soulmate Secret and did the exercises to heal my past relationships and cut the energetic cords to past lovers, four of my old boyfriends and my former husband have called wanting to reconnect with me.  What’s up with that?
Thanks for your help,
Cindy

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Dear Cindy,
Congratulations!  The inner healing you are doing is working and the energetic dynamic is shifting.  The art and majesty of your rituals and powerful intentions is literally transmuting the energetic density that was weighing down the possibility of unconditional sacred love and abundance in your previous relationships.  These men are now actually feeling different about themselves and something new and different about their earlier union with you.  This doesn’t mean that you are totally free to re-engage in these relationships (unless you suddenly realize that one of them is your soulmate) but it does mean that you are freed up to seriously discern, from your deepest heart, and gain clarity on the issues that previously impacted these relationships.  As you continue to do the inner and outer work of manifesting a soulmate, opportunities foe more and more healing will spontaneously arise. Enjoy the process!

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Dear Arielle & Brian,

I have been married for ten years.  Three years ago I began a serious spiritual path to discovering the awesome abundance of possibilities in the spiritual world.  I have asked my husband to join me on this journey.  I have told him that I love him and  I long for more romance and spontaneity.  His response was very negative and he says I am forcing him into something he is not comfortable with.  He surfs, windsurfs and plays guitar and he says that this is way of connecting to Spirit.  Do you think a marriage can survive if one partner embraces the spiritual journey and the other does not?

With love,
Vivienne

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Dear Vivienne,
We can feel your pain. So many couples face this challenge.  First we want to ask you to do your best to honor your husband’s spiritual path of surfing, windsurfing and playing guitar.  Connecting to Mother Nature and all its beauty is a powerful and direct path to God. (or whatever you wish to call it. Remember, we are all riding different vehicles but hopefully arriving at the same destination.) If you honor his path with devotion and respect then it will be easier for him to come around to your request for abundant intimacy and playful spontaneity.  As you know, we come into a marriage with different histories, wounds and tools to navigate this wonderful thing we call sacred union.  The path is daily opportunity to practice love, compassion, gratitude and fierce grace.  Our sense is that the deeper issue for you is not the so much one of shared spiritual path, but some other disconnect that you may want to explore, as a couple, with a therapist or counselor. .
Sending you prayers for deep healing,

Arielle  & Brian

My new book Wabi Sabi Love is now available!  Finding your Soulmate is just the beginning.  Read how successful couples keep the soulmate fire burning.  Receive a priceless bonus bundle of advanced love attraction resources and techniques when you order your copy right here:   Wabi Sabi Love