How To Ask A Guy Out (by text!)

One of the big debates I hear from single women is whether or not it’s “ok” to make the first move and ask a guy out, especially if you are seeking a “masculine alpha male” type.  So, I decided to ask my dear friend and awesome love expert, Mat Boggs, to write today’s newsletter and give you his advice on this hot topic.  I think what he has to say makes perfect sense.  Enjoy!

mat-boggs-webinarjam-headshotHave you ever wanted to ask a guy out, but you weren’t sure how to do it while still remaining in your feminine energy?

A client of mine named Kelli had this exact challenge.

Kelli wanted to ask her friend, Rich (whom she’d had a secret crush on for months) to be her date at her company party.  Kelli and Rich were just friends (not romantic…yet!) but Kelli wanted to move the relationship out of the “friend zone”.

So how can Kelli ask Rich out, while remaining feminine?

Here’s the key…

First, you must know that masculine energy wants to provide and protect.  One way to ignite the masculine is by stepping into your feminine energy by asking for something you want — something that would make you happy.

Here’s the text that I told Kelli to send Rich… and it worked like a charm!

Help! I’m looking for a good-lookin’, fun, sushi-lovin’ guy (who preferably lives in San Diego area) to accompany me to my work holiday party, before someone in accounting asks me to go (yikes!).  Know anyone who would be interested???

Let’s dive into the anatomy of this perfect text and understand why it worked so well:

Help!  I’m looking for a good-lookin’, fun, (insert a quality you know him for) guy (who preferably lives in [insert where you live] area)

This phrasing indirectly references him and compliments him at the same time. This indirect approach is in line with feminine energy, and asking for “Help!” signals him that there’s an opportunity for his masculine energy to fulfill a need.

to accompany me to my work holiday party, before someone in accounting asks me to go (yikes!).  Know anyone who would be interested???

Including the “before someone in accounting asks me to go” is key, because it demonstrates you are an “in-demand” woman who has options.  When he sees other people desire you, his desire naturally increases.

Sure enough, Rich wrote back, asking when the party would be, and they agreed to go together.

He accompanied her to the party. And at the end of the night, he kissed her! Now they are both enjoying a budding new relationship.

Pretty awesome, right?!

There were three keys that helped my client bring this relationship from “just friends” to big chemistry:

  • She had the right mindset, that was action-oriented and feminine at the same time.
  • She had the right heart-set, knowing she was worthy of love.
  • And she had the right skill-set, the right words to say to evoke his masculine energy.

To serve you in learning more about how to have the right mindset, heart-set, skill-set, I’ve put together a complimentary webinar that you’re going to LOVE called: 3 Secrets to Manifesting the Man of your Dreams.

You’ll learn even more about how to ignite a man’s attraction triggers and call in the relationship you desire.

Register HERE. It’s a gift from us to YOU.

Remember, the love you seek is out there seeking you, so get out there and make some moves, girl!

With Love and Light,


I consider Mat Boggs to be one of my “love teachers” – his depth, wisdom and understanding of the man/woman dynamic never ceases to amaze me.  For those of you who try this out, be sure to let me know how it works for you!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Forget Resolutions, Use Manifestation Magic (for anything!)

Have you noticed that your New Year’s resolution list looks pretty much the same year after year? Often it’s a lofty bunch of goals that are forgotten within days or weeks.

champagneThis year, try something different! Something that works!

One of the most powerful Law of Attraction manifesting techniques I use is called “The Letter From The Future.”

Rather than look at what’s “missing” in your life and then “trying” to make it happen,” this process puts you into the reality that “what you’ve asked for is already yours” (which it is, even though you don’t know yet how it came to be!).

Try this:

First, think about the few things you most want to be celebrating one year from now.  Then, close your eyes, drop your attention from your head to your heart, and with your full attention on the area around your heart, call up feelings of love, appreciation and gratitude (one at a time). Do this in present moment awareness and Re-Live and Re-Experience these feelings.

Once you have spent 2-3 minutes feeling fully immersed in love, then imagine that you have fast-forwarded into the future.  It is now one year from today and you are looking back at all the miraculous ways you have manifested your dream(s).  You are writing down feeling how excited, happy, content, etc. you are, now that you are living your dream.  (Remember, your dream already exists on the “unseen planes” and you are accessing it from your heart through the Divine Matrix.)

From this perspective, write me a letter.  First, date the letter (Dec. 31, 2017) and then write “Dear Arielle, I am so excited to share with you…” and with as much feeling and detail as you can imagine, tell me the story of manifesting your dream.  Just use your imagination to make up the details while also really “feeling” the feeling of having been successful.

This is an awesome “living as if” process to manifest your greatest dreams! If you wish, you can email the letter to me at (and keep a copy for yourself) or put the letter on or under your sacred altar or inside your favorite spiritual book.  Remember to look for signs and synchronicities along the way and to take inspired action! 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Winter Solstice Manifestation Rituals

Tomorrow is the Winter Solstice – the first day of winter and the shortest day of the year. Celebrated by cultures across the globe for more than 6,000 years, it signifies the return of light and with it, life.

This is a sacred, powerful day to take advantage of the cosmic energies so that you can clear the past and set a strong intention for the future.  A fabulous day to focus your highest energies to manifest the life your soul is most calling for.




Here are some suggestions to make it happen:

1. If 2016 was a particularly difficult year:

Letting go of the past clears the way and the space for a brighter future. Take some time to reflect on the hardest moments and situations of the past year and then write down everything negative that happened. Light a fire in your fireplace, your barbecue, or someplace outside.

Say a prayer of gratitude over this list, thanking the Universe for all of the lessons you received (however difficult) and then say:

“Goodbye 2016. I let you go. I set you free and I set myself free.”

Burn the paper while visualizing your troubles disappearing in the smoke and setting you free.

2. Create a fabulous 2017

On a piece of paper, draw a vertical line down the middle of it  Then on one side, write down your dreams for the New Year. On the other side, write everything you are committed to doing to making your dreams come true. Then commit to doing one item on this list every week until you have manifested the new dream.

3. Tithe

From whom or what did you receive spiritual nourishment this year?  Take a few minutes to sit down and write them a thank you note with a message of gratitude and enclose a generous check.

4. The healing power of water

Light some candles and draw yourself a soothing bath. Add your favorite essential oils or bath salts. Turn on some music and allow yourself at least 20 minutes of healing relaxation.

5. The Power of Accountability

Enroll a good friend to be your accountability buddy to make sure you stick to your commitments. Research has proven that writing down your goals, sharing them with friends, and sending your friends regular updates about your progress will boost your chances of succeeding. The study showed that people who merely thought about their goals and how to reach them succeeded less than 50% of the time, while people who wrote goals down, and enlisted friends to help them by sending regular progress reports succeeded closer to 80% of the time.

Finally, put a smile on your face and visualize and feel all that you would like to see happening in your life as already yours!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


Celebrate This Year’s WINS!

As you know, with the Law of Attraction, what we put our attention on grows… this is the fastest way to have more of what we desire in life.

I want to encourage you to spend this holiday season finding and implementing ways to celebrate the “wins” you’ve had this year.

Doing this is a good reminder that you can be your own best friend, cheerleader, and biggest raving fan!

sailing-armsTake time to really have gratitude and appreciation for the hard work you’ve done, the efforts you’ve made, and all the good fortune you’ve called into your life.

By doing this, not only do you get more good, you inspire and motivate yourself to dream bigger and reach farther!

Not sure what  wins to celebrate? Take a moment to answer these questions:

  • Who did you love?
  • Who did you forgive?
  • Who did you help?
  • What bucket list item did you fulfill?
  • What did you accomplish at work?
  • What good thing did you do for your health?
  • What toxic relationship or item did you let go of?
  • What big, new thing did you learn?

Now, from this list, pick a few of your favorite wins and consciously choose to create a fun way to celebrate them.

For instance, last year when my book, Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate, was published, I bought myself a beautiful new ring.  Every time I wear it, it’s a reminder that I reached a big goal that I am very proud of.

Here are few other suggestions for celebrating:

  • Create a small victory party with cake and champagne and invite your nearest and dearest.
  • Plant a tree in honor of your win – either in your back yard or dedicate a tree through
  • Buy yourself a huge array of your favorite flowers.
  • Treat yourself to a spa day.
  • Buy yourself something luxurious.
  • Have someone take a photo of you with your arms raised in victory, a big smile on your face and post your accomplishment on your social media so your friends can share in your win!
  • Take this same photo, put it in a beautiful frame and place it on your desk as a daily reminder of what’s possible for you!

Wishing you love, laughter & magical kisses,


Love & The Four Agreements

One of my all time favorite books is The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Living by the agreements has made my life easier and more manageable over the years, in all areas, especially love!

By applying these agreements to your love life, you can avoid the trap of “taking your loved one for granted” while deepening and enriching your relationship.

Here are the basic Four Agreements:


1) Be Impeccable With Your Word: This one is so simple: To me, being impeccable with your word is to keep your promises and to be sure to communicate changes in advance.  Your soulmate should be able to count on you, always.

2) Don’t Take Anything Personally and 3) Never Make Assumptions:  We are all imperfect beings and from time to time say things we don’t really mean. Jumping to conclusions (by making assumptions) isn’t the best way to go.  Rather than let someone’s actions or words ruin our day, don’t run off seething: From a neutral place ask them for clarity, maybe even add some humor such as “I’m pretty sure that you didn’t mean to insult me just now when you said X,Y,Z?”

Most people never intentionally set out to harm you, yet we often overreact to things because we take it personally or make a wrong assumption. Communicating clearly and from the heart, without attack, will keep the love flowing.  And remember, we are all personally responsible for our own happiness.  If we put our happiness into the hands of someone else, they are sure to disappoint us.

4) Always do your best: If we wish to achieve our goals in life, striving to always do our best makes total sense. Make a point to always do your best with and for your partner.

The key to living these truths is to remember that according to Ruiz : “Awareness is always the first step because if you are not aware, there is nothing you can change. Our biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive – the risk to be alive and express what we really are. Just being our self is the biggest fear of humans. We have learned to live our life trying to satisfy other people’s demands.  We have learned to live by other people’s points of view because of the fear of not being accepted and of not being good enough for someone else.

The freedom we are looking for is the freedom to be ourselves, to express ourselves. But if we look at our lives, we will see that most of the time we do things just to please others, just to be accepted by others, rather than living our lives to please ourselves. When you transform your whole dream, magic just happens in your life. This is the mastery of intent, the mastery of love, the mastery of gratitude, and the mastery of life. This is the path to personal freedom.”

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Ripple Effect of LOVE

Everything we do and think affects the people in our lives, and the choices we make have far-reaching consequences. Known as the Ripple Effect, our connections stretch like an incredibly interwoven and complicated tapestry that we are all a part of. Thoughts and actions are like stones dropped in a pond and they create ripples that travel outward.

unknownEach of us carries within us the capacity to change the world in small ways for better or worse. One inspiring example of the ripple effect appeared in The New England Journal of Medicine. It recently published a study that showed how a single altruistic kidney donation set off a domino effect, resulting in 10 successive transplants!

Will you join me his holiday season to collectively and consciously choose to add more love to the world?

10 Ways to share the LOVE:

  • When it’s freezing outside, offer hot chocolate to crossing guards, policeofficersand others.
  • Rescue a wallflower! Strike up a conversation with someone who’s standing alone at a party.
  • Think of the amazing people in your life, then send them a card telling them why they’re awesome.
  • I read about a family out to dinner with a special needs child. The kid was acting up and the waitress brought over a note that said “God only gives special children to special people” from a mystery guest who paid for the family’s meal.
  • If you are artistic, paint small rocks with words like “Believe” or “Have Faith” or “Love Will Find You” and leave in random places.
  • Spend a few minutes on, a United Nations Food Program, that will donate rice to hungry people for every question you get right on their learningweb site. You can test your vocabulary, geography, chemistry and even answer SAT prep questions. It’s fun!
  • Pay for someone else’s coffee or their meal when you are in the drive through lane, pay the toll for the car behind you, or put coins in the street meters for someone else’s car.
  • Buy gift cards to Subway or McDonald’s and hand out to homeless people.
  • Pack up meals, socks, and goody bags to take to hand out to the homeless on the streets.
  • Help someone do a chore likeyardwork or shoveling snow.

Finally, another great reason for sharing your love and kindness is that it’s an oxytocin booster…this will reduce your stress, lower your blood pressure, and give you more pleasure!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


NOW is the Time to Live For Today

I recently came across this beautiful story that is a great reminder of how precious life is.  With the holidays coming up, I thought this was a good time to remember to make every moment a special occasion… for ourselves and our families.

A friend of mine opened his wife’s underwear drawer and picked up a silk paper-wrapped package:

‘This,’ he said, ‘isn’t any ordinary package.’

 He unwrapped the box and stared at both the silk paper and the box.

 ‘She got this the first time we went to New York, 8 or 9 years ago. She has never put it on… was saving it for a special occasion. Well, I guess this is it.’

 He got near the bed and placed the gift box next to the other clothing he was taking to the funeral home, his wife had just died.

 He turned to me and said:

 celebrate‘Never save something for a special occasion. Every day in your life is a special occasion’.

 I still think those words changed my life.

 Now I read more and clean less.

 I sit on the porch without worrying about anything.

 I spend more time with my family, and less at work.

 I understood that life should be a source of experience to be lived up to, not survived…

 I no longer keep anything.

 I use crystal glasses every day…

 I’ll wear new clothes to go to the supermarket, if I feel like it..

 I don’t save my special perfume for special occasions, I use it whenever I want.

 The words ‘Someday….’ and ‘ One Day…’ are fading away from my vocabulary.

 If it’s worth seeing, listening or doing, I want to see it, listen to it or do it now….

 I don’t know what my friend’s wife would have done if she had known she wouldn’t be there the next morning… this nobody can tell.

 I think she might have called her relatives and closest friends.

 She might have called old friends to make peace over past quarrels.

 I’d like to think she would go out for Chinese, her favorite food.

 It’s these small things that I would regret not doing, if I knew my time had come..

 Each day, each hour, each minute, is special.

 Live for today…  tomorrow is promised to no-one….

I was grateful to learn this lesson many years ago from a friend who suggested that every time I sit down for a meal, even if I was home alone, that I use my best dishes, linen napkins, the good glasses and silverware.  To this day, I still do this, often putting it all together on a beautiful tray and sometimes I add a little vase with a flower!  It’s a way to make a snack or a meal special.

Remember to practice being a “pleasure pig” each and every day (I just got back from a 30-minute foot rub. Yum!). I would suggest that you look for ways to make every day a special occasion for yourself, your friends, and even strangers!

Wishing you a delicious and loving Thanksgiving,


My Intuition Failed – ugh!

I love to be right.


There, I’ve said it out loud.


It’s true. Being right makes me happy, and conversely being wrong is upsetting for me.


unknownLast week I was the most wrong I’ve ever been when my intuition was 100% off. Like most of the country, I thought Hillary Clinton was certain to be our next President.


I felt it in every cell of my body.


When I tuned into her on the Sunday before Election Day, I could “feel” her jubilation.


I could feel her excitement at becoming the first woman President.


It was so real for me.


I don’t claim to be a psychic, but when I “know” stuff, I know it 100% and for most of my life, I have been able to totally trust my intuition.


So, when Trump won, I was in double shock.


Shock that he would now be the leader of the free world (no need for a political debate here, lets just leave it at he and I don’t agree on a lot of major issues), but perhaps the bigger shock for me was that my intuition was so completely off.


For the past several days, I have been trying to figure out “why” I missed this.


And, now I believe that quite simply, I wasn’t supposed to know…


For whatever reason, being a part of the collective shock (for the 50%+` of us that were “with her”) is/was part of my destiny.


It’s been humbling.


Here’s what I still believe:


That the Universe has my back.


That good will come from this.


That the Law of Attraction works and I will continue to focus and feel my desires manifesting and will simultaneously understand that when it “appears” that things haven’t gone my way, ultimately it’s for a higher good and someday it will all make sense.


Here’s what I now know:


It’s time to step up and find more, better ways, to spread more love in the world.


Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,



Elevate Your Happiness – here’s how

Sarah Trimmer, who – after a devastating cancer diagnosis – decided to engage with her own health and recovery in an interesting way. She chose to focus her energy on elevating her own happiness every single day, with a simple and elegant technique. Twice a day (morning and night, no matter what difficulties she was facing) she would take a moment to complete these five sentences:


grateful-happiness1) Today I am grateful for….


2) Today I helped someone by…


3) Something that made me happy today was…


4) Today I learned that…


5) Tomorrow I will….


This simple process turned Sarah’s life around and gave her joy and contentment. While she doesn’t know what the future holds, she is doing well now and is excited about her future.


Here’s how I answered these questions:


1)    Today I am grateful for my current experience of santosha – utter contentment.  Life isn’t perfect, but I am enjoying it exactly as it is.


2)    Today I helped someone potentially reach more than 3 million people to view his passion project.  Doing it was easy as can be and it felt so good to help.


3)    Something today that made me happy was completing a writing project that turned out better than I hoped for.


4)    Today I sadly learned that a former business associate died of cancer and it reminded me to appreciate every precious moment.


5)    Tomorrow I will spend several hours teaching women how to manifest a soulmate knowing that 100% of them can be successful.  I love sharing the excitement and possibilities!


What about you?


Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


The 4 Step Plan to Dating Success!

Today, my friend and dating expert, Damona Hoffman, is sharing her dating formula that worked for her 13 years ago and it can work for you too:


damona-hoffman-0014-rt-hi-res-aThe fairy tales and Disney movies I saw as a child brainwashed me, I believed that my Prince Charming was coming. If I was pretty enough, demure enough, and patient enough, one day he’d whisk me off to his castle and we’d live happily ever after.


After years of kissing frogs that never became princes, I came to the realization that this fairy tale was a BIG FAT LIE. At first, I was angry that I’d been tricked. I had achieved so much in my life, but finding love always seemed so elusive. It occurred to me that every time I felt stuck before – like when I wanted to get promoted at work or when I wanted to lose those annoying last 20 lbs – I had a plan. So, I created a dating plan for myself called Operation Date Nice Guys (no joke, I called it Operation DNG for short.) Here are the basic steps:


Step 1: GET CLEAR – The definition of insanity is to do the same thing and expect different results, so you first have to get clear on who you want to meet. For me, I always became attached to emotionally unavailable men who made me feel worthless in a relationship. To me, a “nice guy” was someone who was respectful and thoughtful who would lift me up, not of erode my self-esteem.


Step 2: FIND A NEW POND TO FISH IN – If you go to the same places and talk to the same people, how do you expect to meet someone new? Online dating opened up hundreds of options to me (and this was 13 years ago) – now the possibilities are endless.


Step 3: BE PROACTIVE – This is the biggest dating challenge that I find with women today. We are so tied to the idea of chivalry that we were sold as kids, that we become stuck in a state of inaction. Just waiting for messages to come to you online means you’re missing out on the upper echelon of men. The men who are worth your time aren’t sending form letters to dozens of women. The high-caliber men are impressed by a confident woman who makes the first move. You also have to remember that in the first phase of online dating, you are dealing with computer algorithms, not chivalry. By initiating contact, you are programming the site to feature you more prominently and exponentially increasing your chances of making a match.


Step 4: TAKE YOUR TIME – We are in such a hurry to determine if someone is a match or not on the first date that many women are overlooking quality men because they didn’t feel that nebulous thing called chemistry. If you really want to know what someone is like, you have to get past the first date.


One night, I had a first date with a man whose profile name was Mr. Pandemonium (sounds delightfully dangerous, right?) Then, in walks a guy wearing Banana Republic, grey, wool pants and a conservative, black sweater with the collar of a green, button down shirt neatly placed over it and I wanted to run the other way. This man was distinctly not my type. “But he’s cute,” I thought. “Maybe I can set him up with someone else?”


Then, I remembered my plan – Operation Date Nice Guys. If I wanted a different result, I would have to do something different, feel something different, give a different kind of guy a chance. I didn’t get butterflies that first date, but what I got was so much better. I got my dream guy and we’re about to celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary.


Had I met him before my dating plan, I would have overlooked him because he wasn’t “my type”. In fact, I might not have even met him at all because he definitely wasn’t lurking in the same bogs as those frogs I’d been kissing.


If you’re ready to meet your Prince Charming too, you need a dating plan that works for you. The first step on that journey is the First Date Starter Kit which will offer you surefire solutions to meet more quality men and it will give you the tangible steps to take to prepare yourself for flawless first dates that lead to something more. If you’re ready to take control of your dating destiny, click here.


Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,