One of the big debates I hear from single women is whether or not it’s “ok” to make the first move and ask a guy out, especially if you are seeking a “masculine alpha male” type. So, I decided to ask my dear friend and awesome love expert, Mat Boggs, to write today’s newsletter and give you his advice on this hot topic. I think what he has to say makes perfect sense. Enjoy!
A client of mine named Kelli had this exact challenge.
Kelli wanted to ask her friend, Rich (whom she’d had a secret crush on for months) to be her date at her company party. Kelli and Rich were just friends (not romantic…yet!) but Kelli wanted to move the relationship out of the “friend zone”.
So how can Kelli ask Rich out, while remaining feminine?
Here’s the key…
First, you must know that masculine energy wants to provide and protect. One way to ignite the masculine is by stepping into your feminine energy by asking for something you want — something that would make you happy.
Here’s the text that I told Kelli to send Rich… and it worked like a charm!
Help! I’m looking for a good-lookin’, fun, sushi-lovin’ guy (who preferably lives in San Diego area) to accompany me to my work holiday party, before someone in accounting asks me to go (yikes!). Know anyone who would be interested???
Let’s dive into the anatomy of this perfect text and understand why it worked so well:
Help! I’m looking for a good-lookin’, fun, (insert a quality you know him for) guy (who preferably lives in [insert where you live] area)
This phrasing indirectly references him and compliments him at the same time. This indirect approach is in line with feminine energy, and asking for “Help!” signals him that there’s an opportunity for his masculine energy to fulfill a need.
to accompany me to my work holiday party, before someone in accounting asks me to go (yikes!). Know anyone who would be interested???
Including the “before someone in accounting asks me to go” is key, because it demonstrates you are an “in-demand” woman who has options. When he sees other people desire you, his desire naturally increases.
Sure enough, Rich wrote back, asking when the party would be, and they agreed to go together.
He accompanied her to the party. And at the end of the night, he kissed her! Now they are both enjoying a budding new relationship.
Pretty awesome, right?!
There were three keys that helped my client bring this relationship from “just friends” to big chemistry:
- She had the right mindset, that was action-oriented and feminine at the same time.
- She had the right heart-set, knowing she was worthy of love.
- And she had the right skill-set, the right words to say to evoke his masculine energy.
To serve you in learning more about how to have the right mindset, heart-set, skill-set, I’ve put together a complimentary webinar that you’re going to LOVE called: 3 Secrets to Manifesting the Man of your Dreams.
You’ll learn even more about how to ignite a man’s attraction triggers and call in the relationship you desire.
Register HERE. It’s a gift from us to YOU.
Remember, the love you seek is out there seeking you, so get out there and make some moves, girl!
With Love and Light,
I consider Mat Boggs to be one of my “love teachers” – his depth, wisdom and understanding of the man/woman dynamic never ceases to amaze me. For those of you who try this out, be sure to let me know how it works for you!
Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,