The UP side of endings

For many of us, life is hectic and stress-filled, and for some, it’s even scary with all the instability in the world. Every day I receive a wisdom-filled email from Neale Donald Walsch. Here is a recent one that I especially love that addresses this issue:

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I believe God wants you to know…

…that this is not the end, but the beginning.

All endings start something better.

It is inevitable.

Here is God’s promise: Life proceeds, it never recedes.

Life progresses, it never regresses.

Not even death ends anything, so how much can this particular event matter?

It is true. When one door closes, another does open.

The movement of life is ever upward.

Six months from today you will know this. For now, trust it.

Do you think God does not know what She is doing?

Whether life is totally peachy or you are down in the dumps, it’s good to remember these words from Neale.

I know, trust and believe that the Universe always has our back and that “good” is always on the way.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

TEXTING – The Junk Food of Dating

Lately, I have been hearing from a ton of people that thought they had potentially “found the one,” (they were getting lots of great texts, many times a day), only to discover that the texts suddenly slowed down or stopped all together.

 

They truly believed they were on the verge (or were in) a relationship.

 

Why does this happen?

 

Well, chances are, you weren’t the only one they were texting.

 

And, they may have found someone to start a relationship with, and then abandoned you.

 

Bottom line: By relying on texting, rather than meeting in person, calling, etc., they hadn’t made any real investment in getting to know you.

 

And you allowed that to happen.

 

Texting offers an easy and fun way to flirt without requiring very much effort.

 

Most of the time, texting also doesn’t really give you all the insight you need to determine if the other person has potential to be a date, let alone your future life partner.

 

As humans, we need verbal plus non-verbal cues to get to know someone.

 

In fact, UCLA did a study decades ago showing that as much as 92% of the information we take in from someone is non-verbal. This means we need to actually “see” them, not just get little words on a tiny screen from them.

 

TextingWe are sensory, sensual beings. 

 

Our senses of sight, hearing and touch, and the all important “sixth sense,” are necessary components to dating.

 

It’s likely you’ve had the experience where you spent a ton of time texting with someone, only to meet them in person and discover zero chemistry and/or great disappointment.

 

Texting is incredibly useful for conveying short bits of information such as “sorry, I am running 5 minutes late,” but to really get to know someone, you must take the time to get on the phone, meet for coffee, and arrange Skype or Facetime chats.

 

While so many people are now using texting as a dominant form of communication, you can quickly convey your preferences for connecting.

 

Let them know upfront that you don’t do a lot of texting, but you are looking forward to a call.  Once you do get on the phone with them, be sure to reinforce how wonderful it is to hear their voice – be generous in your praise with things like “you’ve got a really soothing voice” (or a sexy one!)  When you see them on Facetime or Skype, compliment something about their appearance.

 

One you are in a relationship, text all you want, but in the beginning stages, I really caution you against over-texting as a way to evaluate potential soulmates.

 

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

It’s TONIGHT!!!!

I never intended to become a love and relationship expert.

 

If you had told me ten years ago I would end up here, I would have said you were crazy!

 

And yet, the Universe had a plan for me and I am super-grateful on how my life has unfolded.

 

My mission is simply to provide all those who are seeking a soulmate, and also give to those who want to grow and sustain a relationship, all of the best available information on the planet. Besides writing books and teaching workshops, every year I have the awesome pleasure of creating a free, online event!

 

My 6th annual Art of Love Series starts today at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ETand I couldn’t be more excited. This year the Series is targeted for SINGLES and it’s a free event bringing together the world’s top love, dating & mating experts who share EVERYTHING about how and where to find all the great, conscious people out there who are also looking for you!

 

I promise you there is content here you have NEVER heard before, the knowing of which will skyrocket you into love. Claire Zammit and I will kick it off LIVE today (with Marianne Williamson!) at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. 

 

Sign up now!

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MEN – while the target audience is women, below are just some of the sessions that apply to BOTH men & women:

  • Deepak Chopra – Activating Synchrodestiny To Attract Soul Love
  • Attached! With Dr. Amir Levine who has groundbreaking work on attachment styles…learn how to “spot” the ones who can truly commit, quickly!
  • Orna and Matthew Walters on now to Become Magnetic to Your Soulmate
  • How To Release Your Love Blocks & Burn Your Baggage
  • Two workshops on online dating that supply the secrets to success and making it a fun & sacred process. (1 in 3 marriages now start online).
  • Marci Shimoff on “Unlocking the Magnetic Power of Self-Love and Happiness”
  • Accessing Mystical Love with your Angels and Numerology with Sunny Dawn Johnston and Glynis McCants….AND MORE!

 

Sign up for free right now at THE ART OF LOVE!

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

 

P.S. If you are ‘waiting” for the right time to start dating, please remember that who you are RIGHT NOW is enough!  AND, if you miss us LIVE, register anyway and we will send you the replay link.

Dreams really DO come true

I want for you what YOU want for you.

Want more money, a new career, better health?  I want that for you too!

If you desire a soulmate, YES, I want that for you as well.

Some people have generously referred to me as the Fairy Godmother of Love.

And I do have a magic wand, but it only works when I am manifesting for myself.

Since I can’t personally grant your wishes (if only I could!), what I can do is consistently share with you what I know works for me and many of my friends when it comes to manifesting desires.

My dear friend and colleague, Claire Zammit, recently turned me on to a short, 4 minute video that explains the real “science” behind manifesting…. not the “woo-woo” stuff, but the actual, what happens in your brain when you begin to shift your thoughts, beliefs and perhaps most importantly, the way you talk to yourself (and others!)

Please check out this video and see for yourself the simple technique to making your own dreams come true.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

 

Arielle

Are YOU Supporting Your Dreams?

We all have dreams and desires that we would just LOVE to come true.

 

Perhaps you have a clear picture of what your dream is.

 

You think about it, wish and hope it’s going to come true…but are you really doing everything you can do co-create your dream with the Universe?

 

imagesWhat we often leave out of the equation is sharing our dreams with our friends.

 

According to Forbes magazine, sharing our goals with friends improves our chances of reaching them!

 

Research indicates that writing down our goals, sharing them with friends, and sending our friends regular updates about our progress boosts our chances of succeeding.

 

Studies show that people who merely thought about their goals and how to reach them succeeded less than 50% of the time, while people who wrote goals down, and enlisted friends to help them by sending regular progress reports succeeded closer to 75% of the timeWOW, that is worth paying attention to!

 

I encourage you to start sharing your dreams and goals today!

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Would you rather be “right” or “loved?”

As a recovering “need to be right” person, I grew up in an era and a home where “being right” was highly valued.  From my first days in school, I saw that raising your hand and having the “right” answer meant you were smart. At home “being right” meant being loved for being smart. I was brainwashed into believing that when I was “right,” I was good enough to be loved.  Quite the ego boost! But that was about it. It certainly didn’t boost my long-term confidence.

 

As I grew up and matured, I found out there is something so much more important than being “right.” It’s being “loved.” I discovered that when I was committed to being “right,” it always meant making someone else “wrong.” As you know, feeling wrong does not go well with feeling loved.

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Relationship expert and soul sister, Heide Banks, was pondering an old fight she had with her ex-husband after she asked him to buy her some iron supplements at the drugstore and he forgot.  She mentioned it to her friend Nat when she was asking him why he thought she was having such a difficult time with relationships.

 

Nat said: “One word: liquid iron.”

 

To which Heide replied: “That’s two words.”

 

“Exactly!” said Nat.

 

In a flash of a moment, Nat pointed out to Heide that her need to be “right” was getting in the way of her desire to be loved.

 

“I think that was the last time I corrected a man,” Heide shared.

 

So many of us like to assume a rigid stance and “dig in our heels” to fight for our point of view and prove how “right” we are — often about some pretty stupid stuff.  The cost of needing to be right is hurting, harassing or humiliating the ones we claim to love the most.

 

Over the years, I have finally learned to manage my mind and my mouth.  I’ve learned that most of the time it’s not necessary to “correct” anyone on what I think is right or wrong unless it’s really pertinent to someone’s well-being. Now, when I am smart enough to “catch” myself, and I am about to blurt out something in order to be “right,” I slap some imaginary masking tape over my mouth and choose love instead.

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

The Mantra to Manifest Love

Can you chant a mantra to manifest love? According to my friend, expert Lissa Coffey, the answer is a big yes. Below she explains exactly how to do it:

In the ancient Vedic texts, it is explained that everything is made up of sound. Sound, or vibration, is the purest form of energy. And there is no doubt that sound can affect us profoundly. Our words carry weight. We are moved by poetry, and hurt by unkind comments. The music we listen to can uplift us or give us a headache. Thunder makes us shudder. The voice of a loved one provides reassurance.

imagesMantra” translated from Sanskrit means “instrument of the mind.” Mantras are sounds made up of sacred sanskrit syllables, which when used together help to harness spiritual energy. Chanting mantras, or even merely reciting them, gives us access to our creative spirit, and brings harmony in our mind and body.

Mantras are used for various purposes, and there are many different mantras depending on exactly what you want to learn or manifest. And I have discovered a special mantra, from ancient India, that is specifically designed to help you attract a wonderful partner into your life.

In any endeavor, the results that we achieve are the result of the quality of our intentions. We need to begin our practice of using the mantra with a clear understanding of exactly what it is that we are going for. What do we want?

In the West, we tend to base our criteria for relationships on superficial values. For example, just speaking generally, men seem to want women who look good, and women seem to want men with money. Sure, we could look down the list of qualities we want in a mate and find a sense of humor, a love of family, and all those good things. But are we really defining what would satisfy the soul? The Vedic texts have a different way of placing value on a relationship, one that is meant to help us grow spiritually as individuals and as couples.

Using a mantra helps to both awaken, and to bring into balance, the Shiva and Shakti within us. At the same time, the mantra strengthens our power of attraction, it makes us like a magnet, people are drawn to us! This is another reason why we need to have a clear understanding of what we want. Our intention can’t merely be for “some rich guy” or “some beautiful girl.” When we are seeking our life partner, we are seeking someone who will respect and honor our energies, someone who will give their energy for our good in return. And we are seeking truth. From truth comes all those other great things that make a relationship last, including trust. So it is important to be clear not only in the words we say, but in the thoughts we think as well.

Here is the mantra to use when a woman seeks a man:

Sat Patim Dehi

This is pronounced: Saht Pah-teem Day-hee.

Translated this means: “Please bring me a man of truth and goodness.”

Understand that this is goodness in the highest form. Being a good person in every way.

Here is the mantra to use when a man seeks a woman:

Patneem Manoramam Dehi

This is pronounced: Paht-neem Mah-nor-a-mahm Day-hee.

It translates to “Please bring me a woman of truth and beauty.”

Understand that this is beauty in the highest sense. Beauty meaning inner beauty and goodness.

What determines the effectiveness of the mantra the most is how much devotion and concentration is behind it. Like everything else in life, we’ll get out of it what we put into it. If you are serious about your search, and have strong intention, you will want to put effort into this task.

While you can repeat your mantra anywhere, anytime of day, it is nice to set some special time aside just for the ritual of the mantra. Before beginning your practice, wash your hands, as this symbolizes purity. Imagine that the impurities of your mind are being washed away. Find a comfortable place where you can be quiet and undisturbed for awhile. If it will help you get in the mood, you may choose to sit facing the east, to light a candle, and/or to sit in a cross-legged position. Close your eyes, and concentrate on each syllable of the mantra. Mantras may be repeated either silently or out loud. Continue repeating the mantra over and over again. The repetition will bring you a deep sense of peace and joy. When you feel you are done, sit quietly for a moment, and give thanks to the Siddhas, the sages of Ancient India, for their wisdom and generosity in passing these mantras on for us to use. Then slowly open your eyes, take a few breaths, and go on with your usual activity.

It’s also a good idea to write your mantra on a piece of paper, and keep it on your bathroom mirror, so you see it in the morning. You can keep it on your refrigerator door, on the dashboard of your car, or tape it to the side of your computer monitor. This helps to keep the thought foremost in your mind.

Keep your eyes open, and your heart open – opportunities will arise and you want to be ready!

Be sure to check out Lissa’s new e-course, Dosha Mates. It’s all about Ayurveda and Relationships. You can use her Dosha system to find your perfect Dosha Match, or to enhance your current Match to be the most loving and satisfying it can be.

Find out more about Dosha Mates here!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. SINGLE and don’t want to be? Join me for the Soulmate Secret Weekend Workshop, at Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY, July 10-12th. This workshop goes beyond the book, and includes new transformative feelingizations and a fire-ritual to kick start your love life into high gear! This stunning, holistic, rural retreat center is two hours north of NYC. Get more info here!

What’s In The Way of Love?

When it comes to having more LOVE in your life, total clarity on how you desire to feel is the first step.

For those of you who are hyper focused on the “form” your love comes in, I am inviting you to shift into the “feeling space” and for just now, let go of your wish list regarding the physical form (on all levels) you think you need. (The Divine may have something in mind for you that is beyond your ability to conceive of right now.)

Here’s a little exercise to try every morning for the next week that will assist you in having and feeling more love in your life.

When you begin to wake up, before you even open your eyes, imagine that your life is filled with more love than you ever thought possible.

Using your imagination, begin to sense all the loving people in your life from soulmates to friends to family to pets (and don’t forget yourself!)

imagesIn this moment, how are you feeling?

Loved? Happy? Safe? Serene? Excited? Relieved? Filled with gratitude? Content?

Allow yourself to experience the depth of your positive emotions for all the love connections in your life.

In your mind, whisper to each of them words of love, appreciation and gratitude for all the ways they enrich your life.

You do not need to know how or when this reality came to be, just feel the deliciousness of their divine presence and breathe them in.

Thank them for the gift of sharing a life with you.

Tell them that you now know and trust that they are always with you.

Beam your love to each of them.

Put a big smile on your face, swallow the smile and let it land in every organ of your body, and when you are ready, gently open your eyes and begin your day.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. Join me for the Soulmate Secret Weekend Workshop, at Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY, July 10-12th. This workshop goes beyond the book, and includes new transformative feelingizations and a fire-ritual to kick start your love life into high gear! This stunning, holistic, rural retreat center is two hours north of NYC.  More info here!

Top 10 Ways To Have Fun This Summer

Summer funMy favorite season has arrived – Summer!

 

I love that the sun is out till past 8pm, and we can enjoy the warm breezes, and all the yummy, juicy fruit that is in season.

 

To make the most of this special time, I do extra long range planning to create memorable, special summer events that will be fun for all.

 

1) What’s summer without a picnic? Select your favorite spot in nature and plan a gourmet picnic with some of your favorite peeps and fave foods. This summer there are four Full Moons and three New Moons. The Full Moons are on June 2, July 2, July 31 and Aug. 29 and the New Moons are June 16, July 16 and August 14. Pick one of these dates to create a special manifestation ceremony and invite friends to participate in the ritual and the picnic.

 

2) Check the entertainment section of your local paper and find an outdoor concert to go to. We have tickets for the San Diego Pops by the Bay in August to see Esperanza Spaulding…can’t wait! (And with many outdoor concerts, if you can’t afford the tickets, you can always go nearby and still enjoy the music.)

 

Jumping on the beach3) Plan a beach or lake day with one person that you love talking to. Every summer my friend Margaret and I meet at La Jolla Shores Beach for our annual beach day. It’s a 20-year tradition and gives us lots of time to catch up.

 

4) 4th of July is a natural for a fun and creative gathering. Plan early and make it a night to remember with friends and family.

 

5) Make watermelon sorbet. I found a simple recipe on the internet last summer….super delicious and very easy to put together.

 

6) Finally read that one novel you’ve been thinking about. It doesn’t have to be a literary heavyweight book, just something that will bring you joy. I love mysteries and chick lit. Just finished Girl On A Train – it’s a 10!

 

7) Do at least one thing that will give you a BIG adrenalin rush. Things like a crazy, scary rollercoaster ride, bungee jumping, try the trapeze, go hang gliding, the big slide at the water park, or climb the wall at the gym!

 

8) Speaking of scary – get up close and intimate with someone (whether it’s a blind date or your mate of 30 years) by answering the 36 Questions by Dr. Arthur Aron (You can get the questions via google).

 

9) Host a movie night at your place – make it a potluck dinner and pick a genre. I love stupid funny movies like Legally Blond and Beverly Hills Chihuahua (which is surprisingly good!)

 

10) Find an ice cream truck or old fashioned ice cream parlor (take a friend or two) and eat your favorite treat from your childhood while sharing memories of your summer breaks as a kid.

 

Summer is going pass by in a flash so remember, if you do what you have always done, you will get what you have always gotten, so to make this summer different and special, make a plan today!

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

 

Arielle

Can You Make Someone Fall in Love with You?

People often ask me how to use the Law of Attraction to bring back an ex lover or convince someone new to love them.  I do not believe this is the best use of the Law of Attraction and I am not even sure if it would work.  I don’t believe in impeding on someone else’s free will or destiny.

Couple cupsHowever, I recently came across some fascinating research that seems to have an excellent track record in having people fall in love and also having couples re-ignite their level of intimacy.

In a study published in April 1997 by State University of New York psychology professor Arthur Aron, a team of researchers discovered a method for creating closeness between two strangers. In laboratory setting, the team asked participants to use a catalogue of thirty-six increasingly personal questions and to then conduct an exercise of silently looking into each other’s eyes for four minutes.  The idea was to discover three common traits along with a series of other trust-building measures to quickly create trust and intimacy, the cornerstones of any lasting relationship.

In an article in the New York Times, University of British Columbia in Vancouver writing instructor Mandy Len Catron recounts her experience of re-enacting the experiment with a university colleague.  The intensity of the exercise was overwhelming. After several hours of conversation with her male colleague, she revealed that love is indeed an action. To their surprise, the test worked and they fell in love.

You can get the list of 36 questions here.

When you do this, remember, the most important part of the exercise is this:  after answering all the questions, you and your partner gaze into each other’s eyes, in total silence for four minutes.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,   

Arielle