Be a Love Philanthropist

My dear friend Marci Shimoff taught me the phrase Love Philanthropist, and every time I say it, it makes me smile.

Just as I’ve learned that tithing not only makes me feel good and does good for others, it also brings me more abundance.

Being a Love Philanthropist brings more love.

There are so many ways to share your love with the world:

Close your eyes and send love and blessings to your nearest and dearest (including your pets).

Send love notes (do it today!) via email or text or snail mail.

Smile and compliment strangers and beam love from your eyes to theirs.

There is a line in A Course in Miracles that says:

“The only thing that can be lacking in any situation is that which you are not giving.”

To have more love, give more love.

It’s so easy, simple, and doesn’t cost a thing.

Be Love.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


3 keys to make this Valentine’s Day your last one single (one may shock you)

My dear friend and love expert, Dr. Lara Fernandez, has graciously agreed to share three soulmate manifesting tips for you today:

1. Stop thinking you have all the answers.

If you are over 30, single and really don’t want to be, and have been trying for years to find love, then there’s still some more you need to learn about yourself, about men (or women), and relationships. Be willing to have what the Buddhists call a “beginner’s mind” and embrace the journey to your soulmate as a learning process.

People who are know-it-alls are NOT attractive to a healthy relationship… they either end up pushing a good person away or attracting a man who is insecure. Stay humble (yet balanced with a gentle confidence) in your pursuit of your dream life.

Become what I call a “Student of Love.” Commit to continued learning and growing in this area of love and relationships. This learning will serve you not only in finding your Mr. Right… but KEEPING him and maintaining a happy, healthy, thriving relationship for years to come.

2. Be kind to yourself.

The inner self-critic (also known as the ego mind or the gremlins) is your worst saboteur. Yes, it’s important to be “real” about yourself and your issues… and it’s crucial to not beat yourself up about them either. We are all imperfect, yet perfectly lovable and worthy of love at the same time. That’s the fascinating paradox that we humans live.

Since the Universe will only treat you as well as you treat yourself, start giving the Universe clear signals that you’re ready for your soulmate by being especially good and kind to yourself.

3. Be a REBEL.

In polls, over 70% of people self-identify as unhappy, unfulfilled, and essentially feeling unloved and lonely. That means there are MANY people feeling ISOLATED AND LONELY OR STUCK in unhappy, unfulfilling, unloving relationships- or just have no relationship at all.

So don’t do what the masses do or your life will BE like the masses…unhappy, unfulfilled, and feeling unloved. Don’t get me wrong, the masses are good people. But going with the status quo just won’t serve you in finding your man and creating the life of your dreams with him.

Being a REBEL means you realize… it’s time to think differently, believe differently, and act differently…if you want different results from the masses.

One of the things we see in common with the women who are successful in finding their soulmate is that they are willing to see themselves as a little different and unique and more independent-minded than most. So go ahead and embrace your uniqueness!

“Do you want me to tell you something really subversive?
Love is everything it’s cracked up to be.
That’s why people are so cynical about it.
It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for.
And the trouble is, if you don’t risk anything, you risk even more.”
― Erica Jong

Dr. Lara, along with her husband Johnny, are love coaches who specialize in helping women have a breakthrough in their love lives. They are holding a totally free LIVE Love Training THIS THURSDAY where Lara will share:

How I Used These Surprising Forgotten Secrets To ATTRACT My Handsome, Accomplished, SOULMATE And Have Him Adoring And Cherishing ME (and Only Me) – WITHOUT Kissing All The Frogs In The Swamp Or Wasting My Life On Dead-end Relationships

Reserve your space on this exciting NEW love web-class – to learn more and join them CLICK HERE.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


Romance, Food & Your Appetite for Love & Life

Dating, whether you love it or loathe it, is an indispensable part of the soulmate manifestation process (and regular date nights are essential once you are a couple). Eventually, there will be a “first dinner date.” What you order will let him or her know if you have a healthy appetite for love and life.

On these early dates, we want to let our large appetite for life, our enthusiasm for life, really shine through as much as possible.

For those of you with gluten or other sensitivities (I fall into this category), it might be best just to order something you know is “safe” for you to eat rather than engage in a big conversation with the server, which will lead to a talk about your various ailments which might make you appear “high maintenance.”

If you are vegan or vegetarian, no problem, as long as you aren’t sitting in judgment if your date orders a steak. If you are a strident vegan, and you can’t watch anyone eat meat products, that is something to figure out BEFORE you go out on a dinner date.

For those of you “foodies” out there…be adventurous and let your date know that you love trying new things.  Foodies need to find each other!

One other thought:  Judging how someone else eats, even if you believe they are harming themselves, is toxic to you, not them.

What got me thinking about all of this was a blog I recently read by Katie Oldenburg at on this topic.  Here’s what she thinks your first date food order says about you…you decide for yourself!

Anything With Garlic: I have no self-awareness or foresight … or I don’t like you.

Tacos: I’m impulsive and a short-term thinker.

Burger And Fries: I want something delicious because I’m hungry. It’s not glamorous and you may judge me for it, so go ahead.

Buffalo Wings: I’m adventurous and not afraid of getting down and dirty.

Pasta: I’m a romantic. There’s something seductive about a savory plate of pasta, as long as sauce isn’t dripping all over the place.

Steak: I’m dominant and powerful. Anybody who wants to slice into a big filet with a steak knife says “I’m in control” (and maybe that attitude will spill into the bedroom later on).

Chicken: I play it safe. May be perceived as boring.

Pizza: I’m down-to-earth. I’m not too uppity, but I also might not be very adventurous.

Meatloaf: I’m not here to impress you. There’s nothing impressive or sexy about meatloaf, therefore there’s nothing impressive or sexy about this date.

Quesadilla: I’m fun, easy going and playful.

Surf And Turf: I’m fancy, sort of materialistic and don’t care about money, because you’re paying.

Salmon: I like you and consider your feelings. I chose a lean piece of fish that’s not too smelly or hearty, tastes good and is classy.

Chicken Fingers: I am a child trapped in an adult’s body and am unaware that you’re probably judging me.

One last thought.  When I was dating, I would generally eat something before going out to dinner, because I didn’t want anyone to see just how ravenous I can become when I get hungry and I am a super sloppy, messy eater.  I would generally order something that I liked ”enough” that wouldn’t end up all over me or them.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


Is Self Love A Prerequisite To Soulmate Love?

Self-love seems to be the hot topic in the personal growth movement these days and when it comes to finding soulmate love, there are a lot of myths that until you love yourself first, you won’t be able to get anyone else to love you.  Can this really be true?

My experience has been that most women (at least in the Northern hemisphere) live with a negative, critical voice in their heads that is often filled with ugly, shaming thoughts, self-doubt, and brings with it feelings of never being “good enough.”

And, I began to wonder, do you really have to eliminate that persistent voice in order to find true love?

Do we really need to be 100% in love with ourselves to experience Big Love?

I don’t think so.

What is required is to learn how to “talk back” to that voice and create strategies to love yourself more and better.  This includes a big dose of self-awareness so that when the “voice surfaces” you kick its butt!

For instance, you walk past a mirror and immediately react by thinking “God, you look like a total piece of $#it today.” Immediately stop. Walk back to the mirror, give yourself a big smile and blow yourself a kiss and say something warm and loving to your reflection.  This is called self-care and self-soothing.  Over time, you can change your habitual negative thinking by in-putting loving and uplifting thoughts and beliefs about yourself. And, please, never forget that just because you have a thought does not make it true!

Now, as for soulmate love, one of the greatest, most awesome things about living your life with your soulmate, is that you begin to heal each other in unimaginable ways. When you spend time with someone who loves all of you – the good, the bad and the ugly – you begin to love yourself even more.

So many women are “waiting“ to actively seek their soulmate because they feel stuck in how they feel about themselves.  This is a very selfish thing to do.

Why?  Because, just as you desire to spend your life with your soulmate, they are also seeking you.  And if you are holed up at home, on the couch, watching the Kardashians or the Property Brothers, they can’t find you!

Now, while learning to love yourself a little bit more and more, it’s also important to know that once you do manifest the love of your life, you teach them how to treat you by the way they witness how you treat yourself.  I learned this from my husband Brian. Once we got married and began living together, I noticed how he always prioritized his health and well-being.  At first, I made up stories about how selfish he was because he wasn’t always flexible about the time he took to meditate and exercise.  When I finally asked him about it his response floored me.  He explained that by sticking to his personal care schedule, he was able to fill himself up so that the rest of the day he had more love and more energy to give to me and the rest of the world.

Wow.  What an insight that was for me.  I soon began to follow in his footsteps.

Self-love is important and please know that if your soul is calling for a soulmate, the voice in your head shouldn’t be a barrier to love.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Are You Easy to Please?

My fabulous men, feel free to read this, but know that this message is intended for the ladies.

As part of The Love Codes online course I am currently teaching with the fabulous Claire Zammit, I’ve been reading a lot of online profiles from our students. And I continuously see a pattern that got me thinking about the vast differences between the way men and women think and process love.

Whether you are single and seeking love or partnered up and working on keeping love, it’s critical to remember a few basic facts about most straight men:

  1.  They crave respect more than sex.
  2. They can’t be happy unless you are happy and they are not mind readers, so knowing how to gracefully communicate your needs is a necessary skill.
  3. They love to “win” and they have to feel that they can win with you. They need to genuinely feel they possess what it takes to provide happiness.
  4. They aren’t great at multi-tasking, so offering them one question or one request at a time is the way to go.
  5. They choose a life-partner not based on looks or money, but rather on how she makes him “feel.”

It’s great to know all the things you desire for your soulmate to do and be for you, but listing them all, in great detail, in your online profile (or asking or demanding more than one or two at a time), is a set up for failure.

No matter how “reasonable” you think your requests are, it’s likely you will show up in a way that will have him think he can’t please you, or you may even appear “high maintenance.”

Now, I’m not saying you can’t eventually have all of your desires met; you just have to be strategic in your communication.  And, it’s also important that it’s a two-way street…. asking and/or figuring out what he wants (If you haven’t yet read The Five Languages of Love, do that asap).

As you navigate the path of love, try focusing on how to be “easy to please,” which includes offering high praise to your beloved on a regular basis.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


Making Magic: It’s easier than you think

I was blessed to learn about the powers and magic of manifesting on September 12, 1984.  My life changed that day and since then I have devoted my life to mastering the art and science of what we now call The Law of Attraction.


Every time I manifest something (which is usually at least once a day) I am still delighted and surprised that it worked!


Sometimes my desires are met in mere minutes, other times it can take weeks or even months, but eventually, always, my desires are almost always met with what I asked for, or I get something better.


The fastest thing I ever manifested was a gluten-free chocolate chip cookie.  I was at a conference, it was during lunch, and I got up to go to the buffet, hunting for this specific cookie.  There wasn’t one, and there had never been one on the buffet.


When I got back to my seat, my friend Lisa Nichols, walked up to me and said “Arielle, would you like this gluten free chocolate chip cookie?” (Of course, I said yes.)


The longest it ever took me to manifest something was when I wanted to change jobs. I had a great job, it paid well, and it wasn’t overly demanding but I was totally bored with it.


And, I didn’t know what I wanted to do next.


What I did know was this:


I desired to wake up every day feeling excited and happy to have a new position that was creative, fulfilling, that I could do from home, that was well-paying with excellent company benefits, and that I would be using all my skill sets and working with like-minded people.


I had no idea of where this position could be found since I didn’t even know what the position was.


However, I completely trusted that not only did the perfect job exist, but that IT would find ME.


Every day, for more than a year, I sat at my desk for several minutes while I held on to my old giant Rolodex filled with the names and phone numbers of the thousands of people I had met over the years.  Using my imagination, while focused on my heart and deep feelings of gratitude for my new career path, I thanked the Universe for arranging my new work.


I never doubted that this job would appear and I continued to work at my old job, and provided the highest quality creativity and results to my employers.


One day, more than a year into this daily practice, I got a call asking me to appear on an interview show to discuss The Soulmate Secret. The interviewer and I became friendly and had several other calls.  I pitched her an idea for a free web event, she said yes, the event was a stunning success and the next day her company offered me the most amazing position!


I could have never dreamed up the things that happened from there.  And, and here’s the BIGGEST take away:


I didn’t need to know the HOW or the WHY for it to happen.  I simply practiced Law of Attraction 101:

  • I had total clarity on the result I was seeking.
  • I completely trusted that what I asked for was already mine.
  • I did a daily gratitude practice and perhaps most importantly, I was detached from the WHEN it would happen.

This process works and it requires your participation. Simply wishing, hoping, dreaming, or fantasizing won’t get you where you want to go, but when you’re willing to put in a little time, energy, intention and attention, all things are possible.


Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Solar Eclipse + LOVE & YOU

By now you have heard about this crazy month of lunar and solar eclipse activity designed to shake us up, support us, and transform us in positive ways.


The Full Moon and Lunar Eclipse that occurred on August 7th was all about letting go of limiting beliefs, as well as people and behaviors that no longer serve us.  It created space for the upcoming Solar Eclipse on August 21 that will magnify all the new things that will best serve us… serve our soul and serve our life expression. Generally, this will include monumental events, meetings and partings, or changes within your career and your relationships, etc.


According to astrologer Susan Miller:


The job of an eclipse is to shine a glaring ray of truth to the part of your life that is being touched, and truth will likely arrive in a startling way. Eclipses are brilliant illuminators, revealing a truth about a condition that you never in a million years knew existed. Once you are given the information, the news can act as a catalyst to a major decision or action you will take. Most often we are shocked or surprised by the information that comes to us, for the eclipse is one of the most dramatic tools the universe uses to get you to sit up, pay attention, and take action. Eclipses are always your friends, for they are there to help to protect you. Always be grateful for truth.


Most importantly, both of these eclipses are a wake-up call to be more loving and kind to ourselves, and to those around us. They give us the opportunity to enlarge our capacity to love more deeply.


No matter what occurs, it will become evident that the universe is intent on moving you forward.


I like to think of it as this: a big, wet, sloppy kiss from God.


Wishing you love, laughter. and magical kisses,



P.S. FED UP with being SINGLE? Please join me for a brand-new FREE Online Seminar to reveal 6 Love Codes that enable you to unlock the power to attract the love of your life.


Amazing, True Story of the SONG that brings in Soulmate

Seventeen years ago, Rebekah Eden had finally had enough of romantic relationships. She was sick and tired of disappointment, heartache and betrayal, not to mention the sense that she was constantly losing herself and her larger mission along the way.

Here’s what she did to manifest her soulmate:

I declared to the Universe, ‘The next man I date is going to have to be my husband, because I am officially not doing this anymore.’ I took a year and a half break from seeing anyone.

But in November 2002, I felt a reawakening desire to find my soulmate. A friend who had remarried in her 50’s gave me a poem she’d written, entitled “My Beloved”. Her soulmate had shown up within 6 months of writing it. The poem so moved me, I cried. I set “My Beloved” to music and sang it over and over again, first with elation, then with despair as my heart’s old hurt set in. But I persisted – to my utter amazement, my wonderful husband Michael showed up two weeks later! I had used the song to move through the pain, and as a homing beacon to guide me to the love of my life. Michael and I have now been together for 15 years.

I never shared the song. But recently when a friend complained of her loneliness, I sent “My Beloved” to her. Within one day of listening, her beloved arrived! This ignited a wildfire within our larger circle; after listening to the song, they were suddenly attracting the attention of numerous prospective partners, and those already married experienced an elevation in their relationships. I don’t consider the song to be magic – rather, it is a tool I and others have used to open up the door to the manifestation of our hearts’ desires.

Today, Rebekah is a singer, composer, and mother of four. She lives in Washington, DC with her husband and soulmate, Michael Weisskopf.

I am excited to tell you that it’s Rebekah’s delight to share “My Beloved” with you – for FREE!  Download the song here (and then let me know what happens!)

Wishing you love, laughter & magical kisses


How To Ask A Guy Out (by text!)

One of the big debates I hear from single women is whether or not it’s “ok” to make the first move and ask a guy out, especially if you are seeking a “masculine alpha male” type.  So, I decided to ask my dear friend and awesome love expert, Mat Boggs, to write today’s newsletter and give you his advice on this hot topic.  I think what he has to say makes perfect sense.  Enjoy!

mat-boggs-webinarjam-headshotHave you ever wanted to ask a guy out, but you weren’t sure how to do it while still remaining in your feminine energy?

A client of mine named Kelli had this exact challenge.

Kelli wanted to ask her friend, Rich (whom she’d had a secret crush on for months) to be her date at her company party.  Kelli and Rich were just friends (not romantic…yet!) but Kelli wanted to move the relationship out of the “friend zone”.

So how can Kelli ask Rich out, while remaining feminine?

Here’s the key…

First, you must know that masculine energy wants to provide and protect.  One way to ignite the masculine is by stepping into your feminine energy by asking for something you want — something that would make you happy.

Here’s the text that I told Kelli to send Rich… and it worked like a charm!

Help! I’m looking for a good-lookin’, fun, sushi-lovin’ guy (who preferably lives in San Diego area) to accompany me to my work holiday party, before someone in accounting asks me to go (yikes!).  Know anyone who would be interested???

Let’s dive into the anatomy of this perfect text and understand why it worked so well:

Help!  I’m looking for a good-lookin’, fun, (insert a quality you know him for) guy (who preferably lives in [insert where you live] area)

This phrasing indirectly references him and compliments him at the same time. This indirect approach is in line with feminine energy, and asking for “Help!” signals him that there’s an opportunity for his masculine energy to fulfill a need.

to accompany me to my work holiday party, before someone in accounting asks me to go (yikes!).  Know anyone who would be interested???

Including the “before someone in accounting asks me to go” is key, because it demonstrates you are an “in-demand” woman who has options.  When he sees other people desire you, his desire naturally increases.

Sure enough, Rich wrote back, asking when the party would be, and they agreed to go together.

He accompanied her to the party. And at the end of the night, he kissed her! Now they are both enjoying a budding new relationship.

Pretty awesome, right?!

There were three keys that helped my client bring this relationship from “just friends” to big chemistry:

  • She had the right mindset, that was action-oriented and feminine at the same time.
  • She had the right heart-set, knowing she was worthy of love.
  • And she had the right skill-set, the right words to say to evoke his masculine energy.

To serve you in learning more about how to have the right mindset, heart-set, skill-set, I’ve put together a complimentary webinar that you’re going to LOVE called: 3 Secrets to Manifesting the Man of your Dreams.

You’ll learn even more about how to ignite a man’s attraction triggers and call in the relationship you desire.

Register HERE. It’s a gift from us to YOU.

Remember, the love you seek is out there seeking you, so get out there and make some moves, girl!

With Love and Light,


I consider Mat Boggs to be one of my “love teachers” – his depth, wisdom and understanding of the man/woman dynamic never ceases to amaze me.  For those of you who try this out, be sure to let me know how it works for you!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,


Love & The Four Agreements

One of my all time favorite books is The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Living by the agreements has made my life easier and more manageable over the years, in all areas, especially love!

By applying these agreements to your love life, you can avoid the trap of “taking your loved one for granted” while deepening and enriching your relationship.

Here are the basic Four Agreements:


1) Be Impeccable With Your Word: This one is so simple: To me, being impeccable with your word is to keep your promises and to be sure to communicate changes in advance.  Your soulmate should be able to count on you, always.

2) Don’t Take Anything Personally and 3) Never Make Assumptions:  We are all imperfect beings and from time to time say things we don’t really mean. Jumping to conclusions (by making assumptions) isn’t the best way to go.  Rather than let someone’s actions or words ruin our day, don’t run off seething: From a neutral place ask them for clarity, maybe even add some humor such as “I’m pretty sure that you didn’t mean to insult me just now when you said X,Y,Z?”

Most people never intentionally set out to harm you, yet we often overreact to things because we take it personally or make a wrong assumption. Communicating clearly and from the heart, without attack, will keep the love flowing.  And remember, we are all personally responsible for our own happiness.  If we put our happiness into the hands of someone else, they are sure to disappoint us.

4) Always do your best: If we wish to achieve our goals in life, striving to always do our best makes total sense. Make a point to always do your best with and for your partner.

The key to living these truths is to remember that according to Ruiz : “Awareness is always the first step because if you are not aware, there is nothing you can change. Our biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive – the risk to be alive and express what we really are. Just being our self is the biggest fear of humans. We have learned to live our life trying to satisfy other people’s demands.  We have learned to live by other people’s points of view because of the fear of not being accepted and of not being good enough for someone else.

The freedom we are looking for is the freedom to be ourselves, to express ourselves. But if we look at our lives, we will see that most of the time we do things just to please others, just to be accepted by others, rather than living our lives to please ourselves. When you transform your whole dream, magic just happens in your life. This is the mastery of intent, the mastery of love, the mastery of gratitude, and the mastery of life. This is the path to personal freedom.”

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,