The “Halo” Effect of Love

This past weekend I was honored to officiate my first wedding…my beautiful niece Rachel and her soulmate Jason.

 

It was an inspiring, beautiful, and fun event with more than 250 friends and family gathered in the French Quarter of New Orleans to celebrate and bless the love they share.

 

One of things I became very aware of over the weekend was the palpable and constant waves of happiness.

 

Seeing the delight on the faces of the bride and groom and their parents and closest friends brought smiles to everyone.  The vibe was one of infinite possibility, not just in the realm of love, but for all aspects of life.

 

The wedding was a great reminder to me of the importance of multi-generational gatherings and how we all need and want to be connected to our tribe.

 

From the great-grandparents in the room to the smallest babies and toddlers, everyone was delighted to be in the presence of love.

 

I can’t wait to do it again!

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

LOVE – it’s Never Too Late!

My deepest knowing is this:  There is MORE than enough love in the world for everyone, especially YOU!

Regardless of your age, weight, circumstances, history or location, I know that if you have the desire for heart opening, mind-blowing, soul-stirring love, then it is meant to be yours.

I recently read a super inspiring love story in the New York Times that I just had to share with you. Below is an adaptation of it:

 

Eight years ago, Gertrude Mokotoff (now 98) and Alvin Mann (now 94)  met at a gym in Middletown, N.Y., where they still work out twice a week.

On their first date, he drove her to a restaurant called Something Sweet. “He was a perfect gentleman,” she said, and he added, “There was something about her that made me want to keep on talking.”

In a heartbeat, they became an item, talking about dreams and goals and sharing a life together.

“I asked him to marry me,” she said with a chuckle. “I was tired of chasing after him.”

On August 5 at Middletown City Hall, they exchanged vows. Ms. Mokotoff, clutching a small bouquet of white roses, emerged from a side room as their guitarist began strumming “Somewhere Over the Rainbow”. As she began slowly walking toward her future husband, his eyes swelled with tears.

Both are widowed from previous marriages, and they have seven children, 12 grandchildren and seven great-grandchildren between them.

Keith Schuler, who has been Mr. Mann’s neighbor for the past 20 years, calls him “an inspiration, and an incredible human being.”

“This man is 94 years old, and I see him outside chopping down trees, dragging logs out of the woods with his old Ford tractor, stacking firewood and cutting the grass,” Mr. Schuler said. “Then I see him and Gert running around like two high school sweethearts, holding hands and kissing, and driving to New York City on weekends. If I didn’t see it with my own eyes, I wouldn’t believe it.”

Mr. Schuler was on hand for the ceremony, which he called “a once-in-a-lifetime event,” along with other guests who ranged in age from Ms. Mokotoff’s 7-month-old great-grandson, Jack, to the bride herself.

After exchanging vows and wedding rings, the couple was showered with applause, well wishes and hugs, as several of the guests began to cry.

“Their enthusiasm is contagious and their certainty of a destiny together is inspiring,” said Mayor DeStefano. “We ask that the vision they have for one another always reflects the attraction that first brought them together,” he said before pronouncing them husband and wife.

 

Isn’t that just the sweetest story????

And what about you?  Are you ready to have your very own LOVE STORY?  If so, I want to encourage you to give me 90 minutes of your time and  join me now for a FREE Online Seminar “The 6 Love Codes” that work for conscious women to attract a high quality life-partner and create lasting love…

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Vacations Are Good for the Soul

In Venice the most romantic city in the world

In Venice, the most romantic city in the world

Mega talented Broadway writer/star of the Tony award winning show, Hamilton, Lin Manuel-Miranda has said the show was born when he went on vacation. Having the down time to relax, recharge, and reboot got his creative juices flowing and he is now a true phenomenon.

 

We humans grow and thrive when we are well loved, well rested, well fed and make the time for novelty.

 

 

 

 

New experiences open the heart, expand the mind, and feed the soul….

 

 

 

 

With our amazing God-son Zak Koenigs at the Western Wall

With our amazing God-son Zak Koenigs at the Western Wall

When we allow ourselves the time and space to create new, beautiful moments, there is space for magic to happen.

 

And, when you do this with loved ones, beautiful moments of bonding natually occur.

 

We just had an amazing two weeks of adventure. First we went to Israel for our God-son, Zak’s Bar Mitzvah in Jerusalem at the Western Wall with a small group of family and friends.

 

 

Then we spent a week in Italy with our dear friends who live near Venice. Besides having tons of fun, it was deeply relaxing and also stimulating to my creativity.

 

 

 

Brian and I having a crazy great lunch in Jaffa Israel

Brian and I having a crazy great lunch in Jaffa Israel

…Everywhere we went, our senses were treated to new sights, smells, sounds, textures and expecially tasty, yummy food.

 

 

 

 

Zak, the Bar Mitzvah boy and parents celebrate with the Rabbi. Mazel Tov!

Zak, the Bar Mitzvah boy and parents celebrate with the Rabbi. Mazel Tov!

I will soon return home renewed and ready to adopt a more languid, artistic lifestyle where I can do less yet accomplish more thanks to this break from my go, go, go routine.

 

Even if you can’t take a vacation this summer, please try to find a few hours a week to explore locally and have a mini “stay-cation.”

 

 

 

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Love Will Find You

The first time I met Alex Garrett, he was seven years old and chatting me up during my book signing in NY’s east village. He very articulately explained his plans to become a sports broadcaster and I quickly learned what a remarkable human being he is. Today, at age 23, he indeed works in the radio biz on AM 970 and AM 570.

Last year Alex was having a typical day rollerblading through New York City on his one leg, when he was photographed for the website www.HumansofNewYork.com. Jordan Farr, a fan of the site, saw Alex’s photo, read his story, tracked him down via Facebook and sent him a message saying, “I can’t even roller blade on two legs.” Intrigued, Alex wrote her back.

“When she responded the second time with a bubbly message and started telling me about herself, I knew that she was what I was looking for in a woman, someone who can be as open with me as I am with her.”

Alex arranged a meeting and discovered a woman who is ‘quirky and fun’ and says “I instantly fell in love with her.”

After their first date he told his friends, “Guys, this girl is truly amazing.”

Upon meeting Alex, Jordan’s response was, “Oh, he’s so cute and such a bad ass! (in a good way).”

They have now been together for nearly a year.

“She is my soulmate and she has it all, brains, beauty and fun,” says Alex.

You never know when, where, or how, you will meet your soulmate, but I promise you this: it won’t be when you are sitting at home alone on the couch watching reality TV.

Get out there.

Get visible.

Pay attention to the ones that are paying attention to you.

And remember this TRUTH I learned from my grandmother:

“There is a lid for every pot!”

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Getting Clean with Iyanla Van Zant

Iyanla Van Zant glided into the room chanting words of love and truth on a blanket of beautiful music. The crowd of more than a thousand welcomed her with a standing ovation and the fun began at the Chicago Celebrate Your Life event a few weeks ago.

IyanlaThis was my first time hearing her at a live event and she knocked my socks off. She is as funny as Jerry Seinfeld, as deep and soulfully wise as Jean Houston and as mesmerizing as Marianne Williamson.

What a treat to be in her presence!

She talked a lot about the hard work of building trust in order to build the faith necessary to manifest our good. She stressed the importance of learning to trust your self and learning to trust God.

She calls God her “Sugar Daddy!” (I love that)

Iyanla implored us to forgive ourselves for thinking we have ever done anything wrong and, in spite of bad or poor choices and decisions in the past, we must remember that we have survived.

She explained that “trust is a knowing and faith is a demonstration of what you know.”

Iyanla also shared about losing her beautiful daughter to colon cancer more than twelve years ago. In moments of grief, her daughter, who she calls an “angel of light,” sent her messages to release the “physicality” and told her “I am right here.”

She explained how the pain of losing a child never goes away but it does get easier and you can and must allow yourself to be happy.

Iyanla came to understand the meaning and purpose of the early departure of her daughter’s physical body and chose to honor her by continuing her work with essential oils, combining them with herbs that are designed to facilitate healing and restore balance to the body, mind and spirit.

She advocates cleaning and clearing how we think, what we feel, and what we believe, do, and expect by using these amazing products that are made with African black soap.

I’ve been using them and can tell you they are awesome. We all get “slimed” on a daily basis by our own thoughts and beliefs as well as being in the energy of others. With these products you can clear these energies and infuse yourself with the ability to attract goodness into your life. Check them out at www.MasterPeaceBodyWash.com

You can get your own dose of Iyanla later this year when her show, Iyanla, Fix My Life! premieres on Oprah’s OWN network September 19th.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Celebrating 17 Years of Marriage

Arielle & BrianSeventeen years ago, on June 22, I married my soulmate, Brian, in a beautiful, magical Hindu ceremony officiated by the hugging saint, Amma.

What I didn’t know on that auspicious day could fill a book!

Leading up to the wedding, I had never given any thought as to what I kind of wife and partner I would be to him.

Having written and manifested my extensive “soulmate wish list,” I had high expectations of what was in it for me, but never really thought about what was in it for him.

Early on in our marriage I made a horrifying discovery about myself: I had no partnership skills!

Having run a business for many years, I knew how to be the “boss” but was clueless about how to be a great partner.

Fortunately, Brian spent a good part of his life playing team sports and working in collaborative business partnerships. He modeled how to “play well with others.” Over the years I’ve learned from him and became better at surfing the relationship waves.

A few of the most important things I’ve discovered are these:

  • Love and gratitude. Every day I am grateful for his love and I make sure he knows it. We all receive love differently and one of the books that made a difference for me is Gary Chapman’s, The Five Love Languages.
  • Kindness and respecting your partner are absolutely essential. I’ve learned that we will never agree on everything and respecting our differences is critical.
  • Trust. This one took me awhile but eventually I came to truly understand and know that Brian always has my best interest at heart. (and his intuition is amazing!)
  • Creative solutions are best. We decided early on to make our big decisions not based on what does Arielle want or what does Brian want, but rather what is best for the relationship. It’s amazing how looking from this perspective gives an instant solution.

This is just the tip of the iceberg. My next book (coming out the end of the year) has everything I’ve learned as a “student of love” in it.

Brian is my hero. I call him my love chakra on legs. He radiates love and kindness and when I grow up, I want to be more like him and I am excited and grateful about the next 17 years!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Be A Love Generator

My dear friend David Wagner, discovered his life’s purpose while at work one day as a hairdresser. One of his regular clients came in unexpectedly for a blow out. David decided to give her an extra long head massage. As he shampooed her hair and lovingly massaged her scalp, he was, as usual, friendly and kind during their time together.

A few days letter he received a surprising letter from the woman. She wrote that she had come in for a blow out because her plan was to commit suicide and she wanted to look good at her funeral. But, because of David’s attention and love, rather than follow through with her plan, she decided life was worth living and she checked herself into the hospital and sought help.

DW Grammy JuneIn that moment, David had an epiphany. He realized that he was more than a hairdresser, more than a boss to 400 employees at his many Juut Salonspas in Minnesota…..he saw that he was in fact a “Daymaker.”

He now knew his purpose in life was to make someone’s day, to spread love, to be a love generator.

It’s a simple concept with a powerful effect.

If we all commit to be “Daymakers” in our lives, and the lives we touch, the world will quickly become a more loving place.

Below are some of David’s tips on how to be a Daymaker in all areas of life.

Make Your Lover’s Day

  • Write a love letter and send it in the mail. It costs 44 cents.
  • Send your mate’s parents flowers on your mate’s birthday.
  • Rent a tandem bicycle for the weekend.
  • Offer to take over something your mate usually does (like cook dinner).
  • Break out the best china this week, especially with kids. It will create a special night for everyone.
  • Ladies, send him flowers at work today. How rare is it for a guy to get flowers? Very rare! They love it!!

Make A Co-Worker’s Day

  • Offer to pick up lunch for someone you know is swamped.
  • If you have an SUV, offer to pick up others on a snowy day.
  • Pass the bouquet. Give someone special a bouquet and have them pass it on to someone else the following day. It’s a week of Daymaking with one bouquet!
  • Create a Daymaker of the Year award at work.
  • Write a thank you note to the boss. It’s lonely at the top. Everyone needs to know they’re appreciated for their work.
  • Acknowledge promotions; send a card to the employee’s home.
  • Grab coffee for your coworker on the way in!

Make A Stranger’s Day

  • Put a quarter in a gumball machine and walk away.
  • Let people merge in traffic today.
  • Carry thank you notes with you. Write them out to waiters and waitresses. It will surprise them more than a big tip.
  • Plug a parking meter that’s expired.
  • Help a stranger take their luggage off the carousel at the airport.
  • Buy a bike for your local children’s shelter.
  • Buy gift certificates to a car wash and leave them on the windshield of random cars.
  • Buy gift certificates to an ice cream shop and give them out on a hot day.

Make Your Own Day

  • Tonight make your home a spa. Use your favorite soothing music, scented candles, bath salts/oils, calming tea, and favorite robe. Unplug the phone, put the kids to sleep and enjoy two hours of bliss.
  • Buy fresh flowers on your way home tonight.
  • Call someone just to say, “I love you and I’m glad you are in my life.”
  • Watch the sunset.
  • Turn off your cell phone ringer during dinner.
  • Be an optimist today. Look on the bright side of everything that comes your way. Repeat it tomorrow.

To join David and the tens of thousands of Daymakers around the world, please visit: www.daymakermovement.com

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. In the photo above, David is being a Daymaker for his wife Charlie’s Grandmother, June. She will be 99 next month!

The Agony & Ecstasy of Soulmate Love

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Artwork by www.sharronkatz.com

Soulmate couples have a secret they rarely speak about: they feel fortunate to no longer have to search for true love because they are living it every day. They realize how blessed they are to be spending their days in the embrace of their best friend, lover, and sacred partner. Rather than brag, or shout it from the rooftops, they quietly relish their relationship and give thanks, from a deep place of gratitude, that they have another day to spend together. Soulmate love heals people while it stamps out loneliness and brings so much more happiness.

How do I know this? During the past 17 years with my soulmate, Brian, we often talk about how blessed we are to be together and experience a relationship that exceeds our wildest dreams.   I also began quietly asking the other soulmate couples we know what life is like for them. The answers I’ve heard are remarkably similar. In whispered and hushed tones, they have shared with me the wonders and beauty of their marriages. Why have we been whispering? For two reasons: we are in awe of the sacredness of the union and because as my friend Monte Farber (co-author of The Soulmate Path) says “it’s not polite to rub in other people’s faces how wonderful life can be when you are sharing it with your soulmate.”

Soulmate relationships can be compelling, intense, loving communions that have a divine quality to them. They are about connecting on a deep “soul” level as much as every other dimension of human interaction. The soulmate couples we’ve met choose to live with honesty, transparency, deeper love, devotion, openness, vulnerability and trust. My husband, Brian Hilliard, explains it this way: “In a soulmate relationship one plus one does not equal two, it equals eleven. The love generated in this equation is a gift to the soulmate couple and to the world at large.”

“The level of trust between soulmates is profound— and being able to trust another being on so many levels makes life so much easier.  You soulmate will mirror your best parts and your shadow self, giving you a chance to heal,” explains Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway, author of Your Interfaith Wedding.

This is why the world needs soulmate couples to find each other—as many as possible, and as soon as possible. It is a surefire way to fill our planet with more love.

I asked some soulmates I know to share their bliss:

“I am experiencing a “full contentment” I have never known. A relationship such as this does not happen TO someone, it happens WITH someone who is truly willing to cross the terror barrier of self-disclosure again and again to find that place of true connection.” –Mary Morrissey, author of Building Your Field of Dreams

“There is a total and utter richness that exists in being with ones’ soulmate. It is utopia.” –Carla Picardi

“Being a soulmate couple is a divine dance of both witnessing and being witnessed, celebrating and being celebrated. It’s that deep spiritual connection, unwavering acceptance and knowing that someone is always there to cover your back and will be with you no matter how bad a day you’re having.” –Jay Vogt and Stephanie Bennett Vogt, author of Your Spacious Self: Clear Your Clutter and Discover Who You Are

“Even when Vic and I are apart, I am totally relaxed in knowing that his love and devotion surround me and protect me. That kinds of love instills great confidence and it truly is a blessing.” –Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway, wedding officiant and author of Your Interfaith Wedding

“Everything tastes better when you share it with your soulmate.” –Carlos Santana

“The soulmate relationship is both the most gratifying and the most challenging of all relationships. It’s all good and for the highest good.  It’s the evolution of the individual and collective soul of lovers once separated and now united.  It’s cosmic completion! –Rev. Victor Fuhrman, co-author of Pet Prayers and Blessings

Are soulmate relationships always blissful? No, of course not. Soulmates have work to do in the world and it begins in their own relationships. Like all relationships, soulmate unions require time, energy, and attention. As Otto and Susie Collins so eloquently put it, “they require conscious effort to keep the relationship vibrant, alive and juicy.”

Despite the occasional upset, argument or breakdown, soulmates are committed to working through the issues with honesty and transparency, knowing that the foundation for their love is strong enough to weather the storm. Perhaps Stephanie Bennett Vogt explains it best, “Having a soulmate is a beautiful dance towards wholeness if you’re willing to allow and learn from the inevitable messy bumps that go with the territory of being in a relationship.”

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Proof that there is LOVE for you!

The #1 key to success when manifesting anything is knowing and trusting that what you desire is really possible for you!

And…sometimes we need to really search for signs, symbols or proof that what we desire is in our realm of possibility.

For those of you stuck in “doubt” that big, juicy, awesome soulmate love can be yours, let me rock your world!

We recently went to see the film, The Theory of Everything about the life of physicist Stephen Hawking who is a former Professor of Mathematics at the University of Cambridge and the mega bestselling author of A Brief History of Time.

In 1963, Hawking contracted motor neurone disease and was given two years to live. Despite all odds, he went on to become regarded as one of the most brilliant theoretical physicists since Albert Einstein.

For the past 50 years he has lived in a wheelchair as a quadriplegic. He cannot do anything for himself except think brilliant thoughts and speak through a computerized system.

In spite of what most people would consider insurmountable challenges and limitations, Hawking has had not one but two great loves in his life.

What belief, myth, or story are you holding onto that says you can’t have great love?

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

George Clooney – Why He Chose Amal

By now you already know that last week George Clooney, notorious bachelor, married Lebanese beauty Amal Alamuddin in Venice. After a long list of actresses, dancers, and waitresses, George has finally found the love of his life.

So why her? I’ve heard that she said “no” to him the first three times he asked her out. And I am guessing that dating an American actor was not on her wish list, but clearly charming George won her over.

From my outsider perspective it looks like they are a great match: both are seriously attractive, successful, and maybe most importantly, they are invested in serving global and humanitarian issues.

Here’s is a short list of some of Amal attributes:

  1. She’s a famous British human rights lawyer…who is regarded as one of the world’s leading counsels on Middle Eastern affairs.
  2. She’s represented some of the biggest names on the international stage…Wikileaks founder Julian Assange. Former Ukrainian prime minister Yulia Tymoshenko. And the King of Bahrain.
  3. She served as counsel to the United Nations on the use of drone …and as UN Special Envoy Kofi Annan’s advisor on Syria.
  4. She’s a published author…Having written numerous articles on international criminal law, Alamuddin has also edited The Law and Practice of the Special Tribunal for Lebanon.
  5. She’s also tri-lingual…Speaking English, Arabic and fluent French.

There is an old saying that “water seeks it’s own level” and that is often evident in relationships…you find people of similar education, income and attractiveness come together. In this case I think it’s just a tiny bit skewed…I think George married UP!

Wishing you love, laughter & magical kisses,

Arielle