The Sweetness of Giving

More than 25 years ago, my stepfather, Doc, saw me give a homeless man $20 and he asked me why I did it.  The question took me by surprise, partly because I had never thought about the “why.”

After a few moments, I told him “because it makes me feel good.”

My dream job is to be a philanthropist, which I plan to make into a full-time job when I win the lottery (I already have a plan on how to give away millions).

In the meantime, I consider myself a mini-philanthropist with big dreams.

I am celebrating a big birthday on December 29th – it’s hard to imagine, but I am turning 65 and I have already received my Medicare card!

No matter how “youthful” I like to imagine I am, there is no denying that I am entering what Wayne Dyer called “late afternoon.

Although I may never win the lottery, I plan to increase my “giving” now, especially since I am fortunate enough to have all the ”stuff” anyone needs to live a good life.

I am beginning this today and I hope you will help me by supporting my “birthday project” to send a young girl to medical school. To get all the exciting details, please click here: https://www.justlikemychild.org/arielleford/

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Permission to INDULGE!

Happy Thanksgiving!

This is a day for gratitude, as well as nourishing ourselves with delightful, tasty foods and nurturing our hearts and souls with those we most love.

When we allow ourselves the joy of indulging all of our senses, we enhance our brain chemistry, especially by increasing the amount of dopamine in our brain.   Dopamine activates our reward center and is a major neurotransmitter that’s a key factor in motivation, productivity, and focus. Dopamine provides your zest for life and it also plays an important role in attention, memory, moods, and sleep.

To build your dopamine levels, I am declaring Thanksgiving an official Pleasure Puppy Indulgence Day! On this day, you have permission to fully, totally, completely enjoy every morsel of food, every drink, and every precious moment with loved ones.

Now, I am not saying that you should binge or gorge yourself to a ridiculous level.

What I am saying is that you can allow yourself to eat all of the things that are most appealing…without going overboard.  For instance, I have a real sweet tooth and when I eat too much sugar, I get a serious headache.  I have learned that I can eat dessert (and I do nearly every day), but I limit myself to three bites.  That way, I can enjoy the treat and not get the headache.

If you approach the dinner table with judgment, guilt, or fear of getting fat, you diminish your capacity for enjoyment.

Brian and I will be with family enjoying the turkey with all the trimmings, sweet potatoes topped with marshmallows and of course, pumpkin pie!

We wish you a fantastic holiday and remind you to savor every bite, every hug and have a fun, and delicious Thanksgiving Feast.

Love,

Arielle

Making “impossible” POSSIBLE

Manifesting our heart’s desire doesn’t always happen instantly, magically, or effortlessly.

It rarely happens that way.

It can often be a long, circuitous route.

In fact, it’s normal, to sometimes get to the point where you say to yourself:

“It’s just too hard.”

“It isn’t meant to be.”

Blah. Blah. Blah.

And, then, it’s up to YOU to re-ignite your passion and persistence, to take daily steps to make your dreams come true.

The Universe is supporting you, even when, especially when, you can’t see or feel that.

This is why it’s sooooo important to do daily feelingizations – close your eyes, drop from your head to your heart, re-experience feelings of love, appreciation and gratitude (deeply), remember that on the unseen plane, what you’ve asked for IS already YOURS and luxuriate in the joy of your wish fulfilled.

Every day make sure to take baby steps of action towards your goal.  Don’t get caught up in having to know the HOW it’s all going to come together.

That is not your job.

Your job is to stay in alignment with your soul’s desire and to co-create with the Universe.

Remember that the word “impossible” really means “I’m Possible.”

Now get out there and live like you believe this, and soon you will be jumping for joy as the results roll in.

Wishing you love, laughter & magical kisses,

Arielle

Are You Highly Sensitive?

One of the biggest AHA moments of my life was when I discovered that I wasn’t crazy…. I found out that being super sensitive to loud noises and bright lights (and more) is actually a condition with a name – it’s called being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP).

What a relief it was to discover not only a name for my peculiar reactions to life, but that there are also solutions. (Some are below!)

About 20% of the population is born with heightened sensitivities. One definition of HSP is described as having hypersensitivity to external stimuli, a greater depth of cognitive processing, and high emotional reactivity.

How do you know if you are an HSP?

  • You become overwhelmed from too much stimulation.
  • You feel drained from emotionally charged situations.
  • You have sensitivity to loud noises, certain smells, or bright lights.
  • You are susceptible to feeling other people’s negative emotions in your body such as anger or stress.

For someone born with heightened sensitivities, your path to creating your dream life can be filled with ease, grace and flow OR it can be a hard journey of struggle, hard work and burnout.

Other signs of being an HSP include:

  • Patterns of behavior that you keep repeating over and over again that prevent you from having what you want.
  • Self-sabotaging success, or finding yourself procrastinating to take action towards a goal even when you have a viable plan.
  • Having a cycle of working really hard and burning out before you reach a goal.

When you are on the path of hard work and burnout, it means that you are subconsciously making decisions and taking actions based on your inner voice of fear and criticism. This voice of fear will alternately tell you to hold back and not take a chance and then tell you that you should be working harder. This leaves you feeling stuck, frustrated and depleted.

Here’s a simple exercise you can do to override this fear-based voice and instead listen to your empowering voice of confidence which will lead you on the path of ease and flow.

Think of someone you really admire and respect, and write down all the qualities you really love and respect about them. Then in detail describe how this person demonstrates the qualities you love about them. You will notice that the qualities that really resonate with you about the person you respect are the qualities people admire most about you and see in YOU.

Now close your eyes and feel these special qualities inside yourself. Think of all the evidence in how you demonstrate them into the world.  THESE special qualities ARE the key to how you get on the path of creating your dream life with ease and flow. When you are resonating the most beautiful qualities of your soul, you make decisions that are empowering and authentic.

If you are a highly sensitive person and want to know the simple four-step formula that creates your dream life with ease and flow, then please join my friend, HSP expert Debbie Lynn Grace, on November 9 for a complimentary webinar. To register, CLICK here.

 

Wishing you love, laughter & magical kisses,

Arielle

New, Fast, Fun Ways to MORE Pleasure, Less Stress

I don’t know about you, but lately, it seems that everyone I know is totally stressed out, not just from their own lives, but from the “frequency in the field” – hurricane disasters, political nightmares, money worries, illness, etc.

Even if you are safe, dry, and your life is peachy right now, chances are you are picking up on the energies of those around you.

It’s almost unavoidable.

This is why I’m such a big advocate for all of us to become daily “pleasure puppies” and find ways each day to consciously choose to reduce our stress levels and add more pleasure.

For women, this means doing things that build oxytocin (the cuddling/bonding hormone), and for men, this means ways to build testosterone.

I’ve been doing more research and here are some new ways to do both:

To rebuild oxytocin, ladies, try this:

  • Tell someone you love them.
  • Share a meal.
  • Pray and/or meditate.
  • Volunteer and donate to charity.
  • Cuddle your pets.
  • Get and give 8 hugs a day.
  • Share an adrenaline rush (roller coaster anyone?)
  • Get onto social media – YES – Facebook is good for you!

Men, to rebuild testosterone try this:

  • Exercise, especially weight lifting, and high-intensity interval training.
  • Play or watch your favorite sport on TV.
  • Do the Power Pose: Stand with legs shoulder-width apart. Put your hands into fists on your waist (Like Superman), tilt your chin up and look at the ceiling and for two solid minutes shout out empowering phrases such as: I am strong, I am courageous, I am powerful, I am energized, I am on purpose, etc.

And one activity that builds both oxytocin and testosterone is to have sex with someone you love!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Louise Hay’s Mirror Work for more LOVE

It’s hard to imagine a world without Louise Hay in it…she transitioned last week on August 30th – exactly two years after her longtime friend Wayne Dyer passed.

 

For decades, I have admired Louise and looked up to her as my icon for spiritual growth, and aging gracefully and powerfully.

 

I loved her fierce courageousness, her willingness to do and say the right thing with the causes that called to her, and her brilliance, personal style and joie de vivre always inspired me.

 

Nearly 30 years go, I did her groundbreaking mirror work with her and it was a life changing day for me.

 

I remember sitting with Louise as she held a mirror in front of my face and told me to look into my own eyes and make a series of positive statements to myself including “I love you.”  It was hard because I really felt like I was lying to myself.  Somehow, I got through the process and then, as a daily practice, I did mirror work on my own, and learned to understand that not only did I really love myself, but that I was also lovable!

 

All of your self-talk, the dialogue in your head, is a stream of affirmations.

 

These affirmations are messages to your subconscious that are establishing habitual ways of thinking and behaving.

 

Positive affirmations plant healing thoughts and ideas that support you in developing self-confidence and self-esteem, and creating peace of mind and inner joy.

 

If you want to change your life, then it’s necessary to retrain your thinking and speaking into positive patterns. Mirror work, with its positive affirmations, opens the door. In essence, you are saying to your subconscious mind, “I am taking responsibility. I am aware that there is something I can do to change.” When you pay attention to your thoughts, you can begin to eliminate the ones creating experiences you do not want in your life.

 

Twice a day, stand in front of a mirror, look into your eyes, and repeat positive affirmations ten times. For instance, for self love you might say: “I want to like you. I want to really learn to love you. Let’s go for it and really have some fun.”

 

Then say: “I’m learning to really like you. I’m learning to really love you.

 

If doubts or fears or negative thoughts come up, just recognize them for what they are – old limiting beliefs that want to stay around. Say to them gently: “I no longer need you.”

 

And then repeat your positive affirmations again.

 

That which we constantly affirm becomes true for us.

 

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

 Arielle

 

P.S. To learn how to do this from the master herself, LOUISE HAY, sign up for her Loving Yourself: 21 Days to Improved Self-Esteem Online Video Course to achieve the love, the prosperity, and the relationships you’ve been longing for.

Turning Cranky into Happy

I am not sure if it’s the eclipse energy from last week, or the constantly bad news on TV, or Mercury Retrograde, or what, but I have been feeling a bit cranky lately.

 

So, I have been digging deep into my spiritual tool-kit.

 

This morning, I added extra lavender to my bath, while doing rounds of  EFT tapping on “I’m cranky and I totally and completely love myself.”

 

On the way to the grocery store, I listened to one of my favorite spiritual teachers, which was uplifting, and I spent a long time cuddling on the back deck with my cat Max.

 

Then I remembered to do my daily “pleasure puppy” stuff (today it was a red velvet cupcake for dessert after a very healthy dinner) and I’ve been searching extra hard on Facebook for funny things to share (and found a bunch!).

 

Finally, I spent an hour coloring and now I feel like me again.

 

Happy. Satisfied. Content and optimistic.

 

I will probably never know why I was feeling cranky, and perhaps it isn’t necessary to know why.  Let’s suppose the reason is “eclipse energy.”  How does knowing that help me?  I don’t think it does.  What’s important is that I have the tools to cleanse and shift the energy in order to let it all go and return me to me.

 

I believe that my happiness is my personal responsibility and I am so grateful that over the years I have assembled an effective spiritual “tool kit.”

 

What’s in your “tool kit?”

 

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

 

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Solar Eclipse + LOVE & YOU

By now you have heard about this crazy month of lunar and solar eclipse activity designed to shake us up, support us, and transform us in positive ways.

 

The Full Moon and Lunar Eclipse that occurred on August 7th was all about letting go of limiting beliefs, as well as people and behaviors that no longer serve us.  It created space for the upcoming Solar Eclipse on August 21 that will magnify all the new things that will best serve us… serve our soul and serve our life expression. Generally, this will include monumental events, meetings and partings, or changes within your career and your relationships, etc.

 

According to astrologer Susan Miller:

 

The job of an eclipse is to shine a glaring ray of truth to the part of your life that is being touched, and truth will likely arrive in a startling way. Eclipses are brilliant illuminators, revealing a truth about a condition that you never in a million years knew existed. Once you are given the information, the news can act as a catalyst to a major decision or action you will take. Most often we are shocked or surprised by the information that comes to us, for the eclipse is one of the most dramatic tools the universe uses to get you to sit up, pay attention, and take action. Eclipses are always your friends, for they are there to help to protect you. Always be grateful for truth.

 

Most importantly, both of these eclipses are a wake-up call to be more loving and kind to ourselves, and to those around us. They give us the opportunity to enlarge our capacity to love more deeply.

 

No matter what occurs, it will become evident that the universe is intent on moving you forward.

 

I like to think of it as this: a big, wet, sloppy kiss from God.

 

Wishing you love, laughter. and magical kisses,

Arielle

 

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Healing Power of Gratitude

Ready to feel better and heal faster?  Many scientific studies, including research by renowned psychologists Robert Emmons and Michael McCullough, have found that people who consciously focus on gratitude experience greater emotional well-being and physical health than those who don’t.

 

One way to begin the process is to keep a daily gratitude journal. It’s very simple: each night before you go to sleep, write down five things you are grateful for.

 

For instance, today I am grateful for: my strong legs which allowed me to walk along the ocean this morning, the fresh air I breathed, the love I share with my soulmate Brian, the healthy delicious salad I made for lunch, and the safe and cozy bed I get to sleep in every night.

 

The research now shows that those who cultivate a grateful outlook:

  • Felt better about their lives as a whole and experience fewer symptoms of stress
  • Have greater levels of joy and happiness and feel more optimistic about the future
  • Got sick less often, exercised more regularly
  • Had more energy, enthusiasm, determination, and focus
  • Made greater progress toward achieving important personal goals
  • Enjoy closer family ties
  • Are more likely to help others and offer emotional support

 

According to The Chopra Center: “If you want more happiness, joy, and energy, gratitude is clearly a crucial quality to cultivate. It is a fullness of heart that moves us from limitation and fear to expansion and love. When we’re appreciating something, our ego moves out of the way and we connect with our soul. Gratitude brings our attention into the present, which is the only place where miracles can unfold. The deeper our appreciation, the more we see with the eyes of the soul and the more our life flows in harmony with the creative power of the universe.”

 

Finally, words to live by:

You were given life; it is your duty (and also your entitlement as a human being) to find something beautiful within life, no matter how slight.” -Elizabeth Gilbert

 

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Summer Pleasure – Have a Bunch NOW

Are you having enough fun?  We are midway through summer and before it slips by completely, I want to encourage you to consciously choose to have as much fun as possible. And, ladies, this means choosing pleasurable activities that will not only be fun, but also rebuild your oxytocin levels and reduce stress.  And guys, this means choosing some testosterone building things (playing sports, watching sports, working out, having beers with your buddies) that will help you reduce your stress levels.

 

One thing that builds both oxytocin and testosterone is laughter!

 

Go to a comedy club, see a stupid, silly movie (we just saw Girls Trip – yes, it’s raunchy and very funny), or find funny YouTube videos to watch with your partner or a group of friends.

 

Other ways to add fun & pleasure to your Summer:

 

Go to the local farmers market and find the ripest, juiciest peaches, slice in half, dash a little salt on them, toss on the grill and then eat with your favorite ice cream (the flavor is orgasmic!)

 

Drink my favorite infused water – smash watermelon, strawberries, and fresh mint into a pitcher with a bit of honey or stevia, add filtered water and chill for a few hours – it’s delicious, refreshing and nearly calorie free.  It’s colorful & delicious.

 

Take a picnic to an outdoor concert. (we’re going to see Sergio Mendes at the Summer Pops on the Bay next month, the concert ends with fireworks!)

 

Invite friends over for a pot luck outdoor BBQ.  Give your party a theme and have everyone come dressed appropriately (think Margaritaville).

 

Watch a movie outdoors either at a drive in or at local park that has this planned. (We will be going to the La Jolla Cove which will be screening La La Land under the stars)

 

Try stand up paddle boarding or kayaking at your local lake or beach.

 

Grab a tire tube or a big floaty thing and find a nice lazy river to meander down (don’t forget your hat and sunscreen).

 

Find a new and exotic place to take a long walk with a friend or loved one.

 

Be a tourist in your own city and explore new places.

 

Invent a new ice cream sundae – buy several flavors of ice cream, toppings, etc., then invite friends over and have a contest to see who can design the most delicious, yummy concoction.  Calorie counting not allowed!

 

What ever you decide to do, have fun and remember that not only do you deserve to have pleasure, it’s good for you!

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

 

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