Dreams Really DO Come True

I love weddings!!! And, I especially love weddings that we get to officiate.

Being surrounded by a loving bride and groom (and all of their friends and family) in a beautiful setting filled with magic, music, flowers, fun and fabulous food is the perfect recipe for joy.

This past weekend, Brian and I had the honor of officiating the wedding of our friends Ann and Dennis (both in their 60’s).

We met Ann a little more than two years ago when she joined us in Bali for our Manifest Your Greatest Unmet Dream transformational journey to focus on her desire to meet her soulmate.

Part of that process included her writing a “Letter From the Future” that would describe how she would feel once she was with her beloved. In this letter, the assignment is to “fast forward” way into the future (when your desire has been fulfilled) and describe in detail how you are feeling in that moment.

Ann incorporated part of this letter in her vows and I am happy to share this with you here:

I am safe in my beloved’s arms. My heart is safe with him and his heart is safe with me. He is funny, strong and smart. And he has the most beautiful blue eyes. Above all, he is a kind man with the soul of an adventurer and the courage of a warrior. He is a wonderful man, honest, loyal and faithful. He loves me and demonstrates that love every day. He is generous of spirit and heart and genuinely cares about his fellow souls in human form. I feel safe with my beloved and grateful and happy for every moment we have. This is a man whose face lights up when I walk in the room. I know I have come home.

We are thrilled that Ann and Dennis have found each other and are now husband and wife, and it was an honor to play a role in their coming together.

Whatever your “unmet dream” is, write your Letter From The Future. First, date the letter for a time in the future that is reasonable for you to fulfill this dream. Then fill it with as much feeling as possible, and if you wish, email it to me at arielleford@nullgmail.com.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


Einstein’s Theory of LOVE!

I am super excited to share with you something my amazing soulmate, Brian, turned me on to: A letter Albert Einstein sent to his daughter about love.

“When I proposed the theory of relativity, very few understood me, and what I will reveal now to transmit to mankind will also collide with the misunderstanding and prejudice in the world.

I ask you to guard the letters as long as necessary, years, decades, until society is advanced enough to accept what I will explain below.

There is an extremely powerful force that, so far, science has not found a formal explanation to. It is a force that includes and governs all others, and is even behind any phenomenon operating in the universe and has not yet been identified by us. This universal force is LOVE.

When scientists looked for a unified theory of the universe, they forgot the most powerful unseen force.

Love is Light that enlightens those who give and receive it.

Love is gravity, because it makes some people feel attracted to others.

Love is power, because it multiplies the best we have, and allows humanity not to be extinguished in their blind selfishness.

Love unfolds and reveals.

For love, we live and die.

Love is God and God is Love.

This force explains everything and gives meaning to life. This is the variable that we have ignored for too long, maybe because we are afraid of love because it is the only energy in the universe that man has not learned to drive at will. To give visibility to love, I made a simple substitution in my most famous equation. If instead of E = mc2, we accept that the energy to heal the world can be obtained through love multiplied by the speed of light squared, we arrive at the conclusion that love is the most powerful force there is, because it has no limits.

After the failure of humanity in the use and control of the other forces of the universe that have turned against us, it is urgent that we nourish ourselves with another kind of energy…If we want our species to survive, if we are to find meaning in life, if we want to save the world and every sentient being that inhabits it, love is the one and only answer.

Perhaps we are not yet ready to make a bomb of love, a device powerful enough to entirely destroy the hate, selfishness and greed that devastate the planet. However, each individual carries within them a small but powerful generator of love whose energy is waiting to be released.

When we learn to give and receive this universal energy, dear Lieserl, we will have affirmed that love conquers all, is able to transcend everything and anything, because love is the quintessence of life. I deeply regret not having been able to express what is in my heart, which has quietly beaten for you all my life. Maybe it’s too late to apologize, but as time is relative, I need to tell you that I love you and thanks to you I have reached the ultimate answer!”

Your father,

Albert Einstein

While Einstein is best known for his theory of relativity, this letter might just be his most important missive.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


Take INSPIRED Action to make Dreams Come True

Whether manifesting your next dream career, new home, your soulmate (or whatever), a key component involves taking inspired action. Sometimes that means just trying something new and small, other times it means taking a GIANT LEAP OF FAITH and going for it.

More than 30 years ago, when I was living in South Florida, I had one of the worst days of my life.  I was blindsided when I went to work and got fired.  I never saw it coming.  My ego was deeply bruised and I was in a state of shock. As I began to think about “what’s next,” I realized that a part of me yearned to live in Los Angeles.  A city I had only briefly visited once. Within a few weeks, with less than $1,000, two suitcases, and very few contacts, I moved to L.A.

Was it scary?  You bet!

And, it turned out to be the best thing I ever did.  My entire life is what it is today because I was brave enough to follow my inner yearning.

What’s next for you when it comes to making your dreams come true?

I see a lot of people falling into the trap of postponing fun and adventure until after they meet their soulmate, reasoning that then they’ll have someone to share the adventure with. I once coached a man who loved whales. He finally decided to take a kayak trip with a bunch of strangers so he could have the experience of seeing whales up close. Well, he not only saw the whales, he ended up meeting his soulmate who just happened to be kayaking right next to him.

I know several couples that met on trips to foreign lands where they never expected to find romance. Vivian was from Boston; Mike was from Minneapolis. They met in Greece on a group tour. They’ve now been happily married for 15 years.

Sometimes the act of taking a bold step or following your heart’s desire actually leads you to the arms of your beloved, or your dream job, or the fulfillment of a lifelong pursuit.

Although you can’t control the exact day, place, and time your dream will come true, you can increase your odds significantly by being actively involved in your own life. This often means pursuing interests that you’ve put on the back burner. Whatever you’ve been waiting for, this is the time to do it. If you love tennis, but haven’t picked up a racquet in years, join a tennis club or sign up for some lessons. If you daydream about taking nature hikes, go on a guided tour at a nearby state park, or make it a point to stop by the beach or other recreational area after work. If you’re an avid reader, join a book club.

Look at it this way: What’s the worst that could happen if you decide to start actively pursuing your interests and passions? You’ll probably end up making yourself happier, healthier, and more intellectually fit. You will also most likely meet some interesting people, and you’ll be broadcasting your unique tastes and preferences to the Universe even more clearly.

Remember the Law of Attraction states:  “We attract to us the people, places, and experiences that match our state of being.”  When your actions are driven from a place of emptiness or lack of fulfillment, it’s quite possible you will only attract more of the same. It’s important to trust that things will work out. Take action when the signs are there to take action, and don’t feel pressured to act when the inspiration isn’t there.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


It’ Not Too Late to Make It Happen

So…we are now officially one month into a New Year – how’s it going so far? Are you making progress on fulfilling your heart’s desire or did you get sidetracked?

Here are a few super easy things to do that will keep you on track:

  • Write it down!  Make it simple:  “Before the end of 2018, I commit to myself to accomplish (or substitute be, do or have – whatever makes sense to you) to __________________.”
  • I commit to doing ___ things each day towards accomplishing this. (I find that doing 5 little things every day is doable and works best for me.)
  • I promise to enroll someone to be my accountability partner (research shows if you do this you have a 90% better chance of being successful!)
  • Give yourself a weekly reward for the steps you took all week.
  • Spend 5 minutes each day dropping into your heart and feeling what it feels like to have what you say you most desire.

Co-creating with the Universe isn’t difficult, but it does require your participation and action steps. Don’t let your dreams fall into the “magical thinking” bucket by filling yourself with “hopium.”

You can do this!  Make a plan!  Really, truly go for it!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


P.S. And, if manifesting the love of your life is your desire, come spend the weekend with me – check it all out here: http://www.arielleford.com/events/

I Know Where Your Soulmate Is

For those of you that are happily with your beloved, please consider sharing this with your single friends. For those of you single and dreaming of BIG LOVE with your soulmate, here is what I know for sure:

Your soulmate is not missing.

They already exist.

You can begin a relationship with them faster than you can imagine.

During the past decade, I have helped tens of thousands of men and women in 40 countries manifest their beloved.

It’s easier than you think.

95% of the reasons and excuses you have for WHY you aren’t with your soulmate are false beliefs.

Give me a weekend of your life and we can change all that.

If you are willing to give up your time and misbegotten ideas about how love REALLY happens, you can be successful.

Just ask my 40-something first-time bride Heidi.

Brian and I officiated at her beach wedding a few days ago.

She didn’t think she would ever marry.

She was too smart, too successful, too busy, too afraid she would choose the wrong guy.

Really, she was just too scared that no one would ever truly love her for her fears, quirks and emotional issues.

And then she embraced the core teachings of The Soulmate Secret and met and married the most perfect man in the world for her.

And then there was Liz, a first-time bride at 50. And, another second-time bride at 68, and yet another in her late 70’s. I could write for days about all the brides that have made it happen.

It’s not too late for you unless you insist that it is.

And then you will get to be right (and, alone for the rest of your life).

Meet me this year at one of my three weekend workshops.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


7 Steps to have MORE LOVE in your life in 2018

Love is quite simply the most precious possession in existence. And my mission is to share the best insights I know to bring more love into each of your lives. Today, I want to share the most powerful way to create MORE LOVE in your life in 2018.

This beautiful insight comes from my dear friend Ken Page’s game-changing best seller Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy.

If you want more love in 2018, try this life-changing exercise from Ken:

Think about all the people you know, from your nearest and dearest to people you may not have thought about for years. And just ask yourself these three questions:

  • Who truly loves me?
  • Who sees and treasures me for who I really am?
  • Whom do I trust to have my best interests at heart?

Each of the people you picked is gold. They are your personal dream-team in life. The very wisest path to love is to nurture these relationships – by doing three things:

Practice giving more to each one of these precious people.

Practice asking for more from each of them as well (yes, it’s true, asking for more is an act of intimacy!)

And most of all: enjoy them. This last suggestion is perhaps the greatest act of life wisdom that I know.

Follow these 3 steps and watch 2018 blossom into the most love-filled year of your life.

In Deeper Dating, Ken teaches “micro-meditations;” small practices that take less than three minutes, but have the power to enrich your entire intimacy journey. This micro-meditation can be your foundation for a love-filled 2018.

Micro-Meditation: The Love that’s Already Yours

Pick the person who stood out for you most as you reflected on your relationships. Now try the following:

  • Think about what you love most about this person.
  • Think about the quality of this person’s love for you.
  • Remember one time that you deeply felt the bond between the two of you.
  • Hold this person to your heart for a moment, and say “Thank you.”
  • And now, just let your love quietly ripple through you.

Practice this micro-meditation as many times as you wish, and just watch as your reservoir of love deepens and widens, day after day.

And I promise you, it will. Your heart will become warmer, your life will become richer, and you’ll start meeting new people who also love you for who you are.

Deeper Dating is a life-changing book, written for single people but deeply relevant to absolutely everyone who wants more love in his or her life. You can order it here.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


Are You Easy to Please?

My fabulous men, feel free to read this, but know that this message is intended for the ladies.

As part of The Love Codes online course I am currently teaching with the fabulous Claire Zammit, I’ve been reading a lot of online profiles from our students. And I continuously see a pattern that got me thinking about the vast differences between the way men and women think and process love.

Whether you are single and seeking love or partnered up and working on keeping love, it’s critical to remember a few basic facts about most straight men:

  1.  They crave respect more than sex.
  2. They can’t be happy unless you are happy and they are not mind readers, so knowing how to gracefully communicate your needs is a necessary skill.
  3. They love to “win” and they have to feel that they can win with you. They need to genuinely feel they possess what it takes to provide happiness.
  4. They aren’t great at multi-tasking, so offering them one question or one request at a time is the way to go.
  5. They choose a life-partner not based on looks or money, but rather on how she makes him “feel.”

It’s great to know all the things you desire for your soulmate to do and be for you, but listing them all, in great detail, in your online profile (or asking or demanding more than one or two at a time), is a set up for failure.

No matter how “reasonable” you think your requests are, it’s likely you will show up in a way that will have him think he can’t please you, or you may even appear “high maintenance.”

Now, I’m not saying you can’t eventually have all of your desires met; you just have to be strategic in your communication.  And, it’s also important that it’s a two-way street…. asking and/or figuring out what he wants (If you haven’t yet read The Five Languages of Love, do that asap).

As you navigate the path of love, try focusing on how to be “easy to please,” which includes offering high praise to your beloved on a regular basis.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,


Making “impossible” POSSIBLE

Manifesting our heart’s desire doesn’t always happen instantly, magically, or effortlessly.

It rarely happens that way.

It can often be a long, circuitous route.

In fact, it’s normal, to sometimes get to the point where you say to yourself:

“It’s just too hard.”

“It isn’t meant to be.”

Blah. Blah. Blah.

And, then, it’s up to YOU to re-ignite your passion and persistence, to take daily steps to make your dreams come true.

The Universe is supporting you, even when, especially when, you can’t see or feel that.

This is why it’s sooooo important to do daily feelingizations – close your eyes, drop from your head to your heart, re-experience feelings of love, appreciation and gratitude (deeply), remember that on the unseen plane, what you’ve asked for IS already YOURS and luxuriate in the joy of your wish fulfilled.

Every day make sure to take baby steps of action towards your goal.  Don’t get caught up in having to know the HOW it’s all going to come together.

That is not your job.

Your job is to stay in alignment with your soul’s desire and to co-create with the Universe.

Remember that the word “impossible” really means “I’m Possible.”

Now get out there and live like you believe this, and soon you will be jumping for joy as the results roll in.

Wishing you love, laughter & magical kisses,


Don’t Blame the Victim

A big part of having success with the Law of Attraction is understanding that “thoughts are things” and that our feelings, thoughts, and beliefs help to co-create our reality. Other factors that also influence our lives include karma, divine timing, destiny, free will, and that omnipresent reality of “shit happens.”

When something really bad happens to someone – let’s say a serious diagnosis, losing a job, a big car crash, and then a supposedly well-meaning “spiritual friend” asks them, ” What thoughts were you having that would cause this?”…well, this scenario just makes me crazy.

We would never ask an abused toddler, “Hey kid, what thoughts did you have that created these beatings?”

So, unless someone is sitting around thinking, “Wow, wouldn’t it be cool if I manage to get stage 4 colon cancer so I can scare myself and my family and go on a multi-year journey to fight the cancer and maybe live?”

It’s highly unlikely any of us have consciously had that thought or any thought to choose a bad event. So, while it is true that we cause things with our thoughts, fears, and beliefs, it is also true that there are other factors that are at work here.

We all benefit from being more aware and more mindful of our thoughts and as much as possible, try to keep our thoughts positive, but it’s also not useful to “blame the victim,” and kick them when they’re down by suggesting they caused the problem.

We are not privy to their soul’s purpose and path. We don’t know what trials and tribulations they agreed to before incarnating in this lifetime, so let’s do what we signed up for: to be their friend, cheerleader, support system, safe place to land. Let’s hug them with our arms and provide emotional safety for them.

I often tell my closest friends that I am always there for them when they need a place to rant and rave and vent. I can create a safe place for their expression and then bring them back into a loving frequency (and they do the same for me).

Here’s to a kinder, gentler world of loving support for all.

Wishing you love, laughter & magical kisses,


Are You Pushing Away Miracles?

There once was a woman who saw on TV that her neighborhood was about to be flooded and the officials said everyone should evacuate.  

She believed that God would save her and she ignored the warning.  

Then a city worker knocked on her door and told her to leave for higher ground and she said no, “God will save me.”

Then the floods came and she had to run up to the second floor to stay dry.  

A boat soon came to her second-story window to rescue her and she said no, “God will save me.”

Then the second floor flooded and she ended up on the roof of her home.  

A helicopter came and she said no, “God will save me.”

Then she was swept away by the rising water and drowned.

When she got to heaven she yelled at God and said, “Why didn’t you save me?”

God said, “I sent you a warning on TV, a warning to your front door, a rescue boat, and a helicopter, why didn’t you listen?”


I share this story with you today because I often see people, in their manifesting process, focused on a very specific outcome, not knowing whether or not that outcome will save them or really make them happy.  It’s important to remember that our ultimate goal is happiness and satisfaction and to allow room for surprises and even miracles to occur.

We must stay open to signs, symbols, and helpful people that cross our path.

The road to manifestation is not always a straight line, and in the end, we may manifest something unexpected, but much more fulfilling.

Make room for surprises… and miracles.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,