Are You Easy to Please?

My fabulous men, feel free to read this, but know that this message is intended for the ladies.

As part of The Love Codes online course I am currently teaching with the fabulous Claire Zammit, I’ve been reading a lot of online profiles from our students. And I continuously see a pattern that got me thinking about the vast differences between the way men and women think and process love.

Whether you are single and seeking love or partnered up and working on keeping love, it’s critical to remember a few basic facts about most straight men:

  1.  They crave respect more than sex.
  2. They can’t be happy unless you are happy and they are not mind readers, so knowing how to gracefully communicate your needs is a necessary skill.
  3. They love to “win” and they have to feel that they can win with you. They need to genuinely feel they possess what it takes to provide happiness.
  4. They aren’t great at multi-tasking, so offering them one question or one request at a time is the way to go.
  5. They choose a life-partner not based on looks or money, but rather on how she makes him “feel.”

It’s great to know all the things you desire for your soulmate to do and be for you, but listing them all, in great detail, in your online profile (or asking or demanding more than one or two at a time), is a set up for failure.

No matter how “reasonable” you think your requests are, it’s likely you will show up in a way that will have him think he can’t please you, or you may even appear “high maintenance.”

Now, I’m not saying you can’t eventually have all of your desires met; you just have to be strategic in your communication.  And, it’s also important that it’s a two-way street…. asking and/or figuring out what he wants (If you haven’t yet read The Five Languages of Love, do that asap).

As you navigate the path of love, try focusing on how to be “easy to please,” which includes offering high praise to your beloved on a regular basis.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Making “impossible” POSSIBLE

Manifesting our heart’s desire doesn’t always happen instantly, magically, or effortlessly.

It rarely happens that way.

It can often be a long, circuitous route.

In fact, it’s normal, to sometimes get to the point where you say to yourself:

“It’s just too hard.”

“It isn’t meant to be.”

Blah. Blah. Blah.

And, then, it’s up to YOU to re-ignite your passion and persistence, to take daily steps to make your dreams come true.

The Universe is supporting you, even when, especially when, you can’t see or feel that.

This is why it’s sooooo important to do daily feelingizations – close your eyes, drop from your head to your heart, re-experience feelings of love, appreciation and gratitude (deeply), remember that on the unseen plane, what you’ve asked for IS already YOURS and luxuriate in the joy of your wish fulfilled.

Every day make sure to take baby steps of action towards your goal.  Don’t get caught up in having to know the HOW it’s all going to come together.

That is not your job.

Your job is to stay in alignment with your soul’s desire and to co-create with the Universe.

Remember that the word “impossible” really means “I’m Possible.”

Now get out there and live like you believe this, and soon you will be jumping for joy as the results roll in.

Wishing you love, laughter & magical kisses,

Arielle

Don’t Blame the Victim

A big part of having success with the Law of Attraction is understanding that “thoughts are things” and that our feelings, thoughts, and beliefs help to co-create our reality. Other factors that also influence our lives include karma, divine timing, destiny, free will, and that omnipresent reality of “shit happens.”

When something really bad happens to someone – let’s say a serious diagnosis, losing a job, a big car crash, and then a supposedly well-meaning “spiritual friend” asks them, ” What thoughts were you having that would cause this?”…well, this scenario just makes me crazy.

We would never ask an abused toddler, “Hey kid, what thoughts did you have that created these beatings?”

So, unless someone is sitting around thinking, “Wow, wouldn’t it be cool if I manage to get stage 4 colon cancer so I can scare myself and my family and go on a multi-year journey to fight the cancer and maybe live?”

It’s highly unlikely any of us have consciously had that thought or any thought to choose a bad event. So, while it is true that we cause things with our thoughts, fears, and beliefs, it is also true that there are other factors that are at work here.

We all benefit from being more aware and more mindful of our thoughts and as much as possible, try to keep our thoughts positive, but it’s also not useful to “blame the victim,” and kick them when they’re down by suggesting they caused the problem.

We are not privy to their soul’s purpose and path. We don’t know what trials and tribulations they agreed to before incarnating in this lifetime, so let’s do what we signed up for: to be their friend, cheerleader, support system, safe place to land. Let’s hug them with our arms and provide emotional safety for them.

I often tell my closest friends that I am always there for them when they need a place to rant and rave and vent. I can create a safe place for their expression and then bring them back into a loving frequency (and they do the same for me).

Here’s to a kinder, gentler world of loving support for all.

Wishing you love, laughter & magical kisses,

Arielle

Are You Pushing Away Miracles?

There once was a woman who saw on TV that her neighborhood was about to be flooded and the officials said everyone should evacuate.  

She believed that God would save her and she ignored the warning.  

Then a city worker knocked on her door and told her to leave for higher ground and she said no, “God will save me.”

Then the floods came and she had to run up to the second floor to stay dry.  

A boat soon came to her second-story window to rescue her and she said no, “God will save me.”

Then the second floor flooded and she ended up on the roof of her home.  

A helicopter came and she said no, “God will save me.”

Then she was swept away by the rising water and drowned.

When she got to heaven she yelled at God and said, “Why didn’t you save me?”

God said, “I sent you a warning on TV, a warning to your front door, a rescue boat, and a helicopter, why didn’t you listen?”

 

I share this story with you today because I often see people, in their manifesting process, focused on a very specific outcome, not knowing whether or not that outcome will save them or really make them happy.  It’s important to remember that our ultimate goal is happiness and satisfaction and to allow room for surprises and even miracles to occur.

We must stay open to signs, symbols, and helpful people that cross our path.

The road to manifestation is not always a straight line, and in the end, we may manifest something unexpected, but much more fulfilling.

Make room for surprises… and miracles.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Why Your Dream Is Already A Reality

The core basis of my belief and understanding about manifestation (whether you are manifesting love, a car, a new career, or a new little black dress) is this:

 

There is no “time.”  The past, present, and future all happen simultaneously.

 

When we have a desire for something, it’s because some part of us “already knows that this is possible for us,” on an unseen level.

 

Your dream is not some random thing out there somewhere; it is already in existence, calling upon you to dream it into your existence.

 

To do this, we must be willing to own and embrace the dream or desire and then take the necessary, appropriate action steps to bring it into 3-D reality.

 

The secret sauce for this is what I call feelingizations™   a process to get out of your head and into your heart to deeply feel that what you have asked for IS already yours.

 

In 1944, Max Planck, the father of quantum theory, explained that there is a Universal field of energy that connects everything and everyone and he called this the Divine Matrix.

 

According to my amazing friend, Gregg Braden, author of The Divine Matrix: Bridging Time, Space, Miracles and Belief:

 

“The Divine Matrix is our world.

It is also everything in our world.

It is us and all that we love, hate, create and experience.

Living in the Divine Matrix, we are as artists expressing our innermost passions, fears, dreams and desires through the essence of a mysterious quantum canvas.

But we are the canvas, as well as the images upon the canvas.

We’re the paints, as well as the brushes.

In the Divine Matrix, we are the container

Within which all things exist, the bridge between

The creations of our inner and outer worlds,

And the mirror that shows us what we have created.

In the Divine Matrix, you are the seed of the miracle as well as the miracle itself.”

 

Remember, the key to manifesting is to feel as though your dream or desire is accomplished and your prayers are already answered.  To access some free feelingizations™, go here:  www.soulmatesecret.com/audio

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Making Magic: It’s easier than you think

I was blessed to learn about the powers and magic of manifesting on September 12, 1984.  My life changed that day and since then I have devoted my life to mastering the art and science of what we now call The Law of Attraction.

 

Every time I manifest something (which is usually at least once a day) I am still delighted and surprised that it worked!

 

Sometimes my desires are met in mere minutes, other times it can take weeks or even months, but eventually, always, my desires are almost always met with what I asked for, or I get something better.

 

The fastest thing I ever manifested was a gluten-free chocolate chip cookie.  I was at a conference, it was during lunch, and I got up to go to the buffet, hunting for this specific cookie.  There wasn’t one, and there had never been one on the buffet.

 

When I got back to my seat, my friend Lisa Nichols, walked up to me and said “Arielle, would you like this gluten free chocolate chip cookie?” (Of course, I said yes.)

 

The longest it ever took me to manifest something was when I wanted to change jobs. I had a great job, it paid well, and it wasn’t overly demanding but I was totally bored with it.

 

And, I didn’t know what I wanted to do next.

 

What I did know was this:

 

I desired to wake up every day feeling excited and happy to have a new position that was creative, fulfilling, that I could do from home, that was well-paying with excellent company benefits, and that I would be using all my skill sets and working with like-minded people.

 

I had no idea of where this position could be found since I didn’t even know what the position was.

 

However, I completely trusted that not only did the perfect job exist, but that IT would find ME.

 

Every day, for more than a year, I sat at my desk for several minutes while I held on to my old giant Rolodex filled with the names and phone numbers of the thousands of people I had met over the years.  Using my imagination, while focused on my heart and deep feelings of gratitude for my new career path, I thanked the Universe for arranging my new work.

 

I never doubted that this job would appear and I continued to work at my old job, and provided the highest quality creativity and results to my employers.

 

One day, more than a year into this daily practice, I got a call asking me to appear on an interview show to discuss The Soulmate Secret. The interviewer and I became friendly and had several other calls.  I pitched her an idea for a free web event, she said yes, the event was a stunning success and the next day her company offered me the most amazing position!

 

I could have never dreamed up the things that happened from there.  And, and here’s the BIGGEST take away:

 

I didn’t need to know the HOW or the WHY for it to happen.  I simply practiced Law of Attraction 101:

  • I had total clarity on the result I was seeking.
  • I completely trusted that what I asked for was already mine.
  • I did a daily gratitude practice and perhaps most importantly, I was detached from the WHEN it would happen.

This process works and it requires your participation. Simply wishing, hoping, dreaming, or fantasizing won’t get you where you want to go, but when you’re willing to put in a little time, energy, intention and attention, all things are possible.

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

 Arielle

LOVE – it’s Never Too Late!

My deepest knowing is this:  There is MORE than enough love in the world for everyone, especially YOU!

Regardless of your age, weight, circumstances, history or location, I know that if you have the desire for heart opening, mind-blowing, soul-stirring love, then it is meant to be yours.

I recently read a super inspiring love story in the New York Times that I just had to share with you. Below is an adaptation of it:

 

Eight years ago, Gertrude Mokotoff (now 98) and Alvin Mann (now 94)  met at a gym in Middletown, N.Y., where they still work out twice a week.

On their first date, he drove her to a restaurant called Something Sweet. “He was a perfect gentleman,” she said, and he added, “There was something about her that made me want to keep on talking.”

In a heartbeat, they became an item, talking about dreams and goals and sharing a life together.

“I asked him to marry me,” she said with a chuckle. “I was tired of chasing after him.”

On August 5 at Middletown City Hall, they exchanged vows. Ms. Mokotoff, clutching a small bouquet of white roses, emerged from a side room as their guitarist began strumming “Somewhere Over the Rainbow”. As she began slowly walking toward her future husband, his eyes swelled with tears.

Both are widowed from previous marriages, and they have seven children, 12 grandchildren and seven great-grandchildren between them.

Keith Schuler, who has been Mr. Mann’s neighbor for the past 20 years, calls him “an inspiration, and an incredible human being.”

“This man is 94 years old, and I see him outside chopping down trees, dragging logs out of the woods with his old Ford tractor, stacking firewood and cutting the grass,” Mr. Schuler said. “Then I see him and Gert running around like two high school sweethearts, holding hands and kissing, and driving to New York City on weekends. If I didn’t see it with my own eyes, I wouldn’t believe it.”

Mr. Schuler was on hand for the ceremony, which he called “a once-in-a-lifetime event,” along with other guests who ranged in age from Ms. Mokotoff’s 7-month-old great-grandson, Jack, to the bride herself.

After exchanging vows and wedding rings, the couple was showered with applause, well wishes and hugs, as several of the guests began to cry.

“Their enthusiasm is contagious and their certainty of a destiny together is inspiring,” said Mayor DeStefano. “We ask that the vision they have for one another always reflects the attraction that first brought them together,” he said before pronouncing them husband and wife.

 

Isn’t that just the sweetest story????

And what about you?  Are you ready to have your very own LOVE STORY?  If so, I want to encourage you to give me 90 minutes of your time and  join me now for a FREE Online Seminar “The 6 Love Codes” that work for conscious women to attract a high quality life-partner and create lasting love…

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Summer Pleasure – Have a Bunch NOW

Are you having enough fun?  We are midway through summer and before it slips by completely, I want to encourage you to consciously choose to have as much fun as possible. And, ladies, this means choosing pleasurable activities that will not only be fun, but also rebuild your oxytocin levels and reduce stress.  And guys, this means choosing some testosterone building things (playing sports, watching sports, working out, having beers with your buddies) that will help you reduce your stress levels.

 

One thing that builds both oxytocin and testosterone is laughter!

 

Go to a comedy club, see a stupid, silly movie (we just saw Girls Trip – yes, it’s raunchy and very funny), or find funny YouTube videos to watch with your partner or a group of friends.

 

Other ways to add fun & pleasure to your Summer:

 

Go to the local farmers market and find the ripest, juiciest peaches, slice in half, dash a little salt on them, toss on the grill and then eat with your favorite ice cream (the flavor is orgasmic!)

 

Drink my favorite infused water – smash watermelon, strawberries, and fresh mint into a pitcher with a bit of honey or stevia, add filtered water and chill for a few hours – it’s delicious, refreshing and nearly calorie free.  It’s colorful & delicious.

 

Take a picnic to an outdoor concert. (we’re going to see Sergio Mendes at the Summer Pops on the Bay next month, the concert ends with fireworks!)

 

Invite friends over for a pot luck outdoor BBQ.  Give your party a theme and have everyone come dressed appropriately (think Margaritaville).

 

Watch a movie outdoors either at a drive in or at local park that has this planned. (We will be going to the La Jolla Cove which will be screening La La Land under the stars)

 

Try stand up paddle boarding or kayaking at your local lake or beach.

 

Grab a tire tube or a big floaty thing and find a nice lazy river to meander down (don’t forget your hat and sunscreen).

 

Find a new and exotic place to take a long walk with a friend or loved one.

 

Be a tourist in your own city and explore new places.

 

Invent a new ice cream sundae – buy several flavors of ice cream, toppings, etc., then invite friends over and have a contest to see who can design the most delicious, yummy concoction.  Calorie counting not allowed!

 

What ever you decide to do, have fun and remember that not only do you deserve to have pleasure, it’s good for you!

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

 

P.S. Meet Me In Paradise if you want the fun, fast, and simple steps to manifesting the love of your life. In one weekend, you will be launched into a successful plan of action. Omega Institute, in Rhinebeck New York August 25-27.  Details here.

Amazing, True Story of the SONG that brings in Soulmate

Seventeen years ago, Rebekah Eden had finally had enough of romantic relationships. She was sick and tired of disappointment, heartache and betrayal, not to mention the sense that she was constantly losing herself and her larger mission along the way.

Here’s what she did to manifest her soulmate:

I declared to the Universe, ‘The next man I date is going to have to be my husband, because I am officially not doing this anymore.’ I took a year and a half break from seeing anyone.

But in November 2002, I felt a reawakening desire to find my soulmate. A friend who had remarried in her 50’s gave me a poem she’d written, entitled “My Beloved”. Her soulmate had shown up within 6 months of writing it. The poem so moved me, I cried. I set “My Beloved” to music and sang it over and over again, first with elation, then with despair as my heart’s old hurt set in. But I persisted – to my utter amazement, my wonderful husband Michael showed up two weeks later! I had used the song to move through the pain, and as a homing beacon to guide me to the love of my life. Michael and I have now been together for 15 years.

I never shared the song. But recently when a friend complained of her loneliness, I sent “My Beloved” to her. Within one day of listening, her beloved arrived! This ignited a wildfire within our larger circle; after listening to the song, they were suddenly attracting the attention of numerous prospective partners, and those already married experienced an elevation in their relationships. I don’t consider the song to be magic – rather, it is a tool I and others have used to open up the door to the manifestation of our hearts’ desires.

Today, Rebekah is a singer, composer, and mother of four. She lives in Washington, DC with her husband and soulmate, Michael Weisskopf.

I am excited to tell you that it’s Rebekah’s delight to share “My Beloved” with you – for FREE!  Download the song here (and then let me know what happens!)

Wishing you love, laughter & magical kisses

Arielle

Forgiveness: Essential For More Love

Maybe it’s just me, but when someone does something mean or upsetting (to me or anyone I know and love), I find getting to real forgiveness is super hard.

 

I just want to dig in and make them bad and wrong, and I find myself thinking of ways to get revenge.  And yes, I know better, and in spite of “not wanting to,” I do make myself forgive… even if it sometimes takes me a while to get there.

 

At its essence, forgiveness is the willingness to let go of the hurt and give up suffering.

 

It’s a decision to no longer find value in anger or blame and it’s a letting go of the desire to judge another or ourselves because of something that happened in the past.

 

It’s a choice to feel love rather than to judge or condemn, and it’s often not easy… and it doesn’t mean that we forget… but we do let go.

 

Forgiveness is something we do for ourselves so we no longer have to carry negativity.

 

It releases us from the past and allows us to heal and let go and be more at peace in the present moment.

 

When I am stuck in “I’ve been done wrong,” one of the practices that works well for me is to sit down and write a letter to the one I need to forgive. This is not a letter that will ever be sent, but a chance to write down and FULLY express how hurt and wronged I feel… to write down what happened from my perspective.

 

Once I’ve written it all down… I add to the end of the letter, “I forgive, you, I bless you and I set you free.”

 

Then, I write a second letter from them to me.  I actually channel them and have them tell ME the story of what happened from their perspective… which usually results in finding out that they never really meant to cause harm… and then, I end that letter with “I forgive, you, I bless you and I set you free.”

 

When it comes to love, I know that being able and willing to learn to forgive is essential to all healthy relationships.  And sometimes, it’s necessary to forgive and to also eliminate certain people from your life if they are toxic or detrimental to your core happiness.

 

Wishing you love & freedom,

 Arielle