Can You Make Someone Fall in Love with You?

People often ask me how to use the Law of Attraction to bring back an ex lover or convince someone new to love them.  I do not believe this is the best use of the Law of Attraction and I am not even sure if it would work.  I don’t believe in impeding on someone else’s free will or destiny.

Couple cupsHowever, I recently came across some fascinating research that seems to have an excellent track record in having people fall in love and also having couples re-ignite their level of intimacy.

In a study published in April 1997 by State University of New York psychology professor Arthur Aron, a team of researchers discovered a method for creating closeness between two strangers. In laboratory setting, the team asked participants to use a catalogue of thirty-six increasingly personal questions and to then conduct an exercise of silently looking into each other’s eyes for four minutes.  The idea was to discover three common traits along with a series of other trust-building measures to quickly create trust and intimacy, the cornerstones of any lasting relationship.

In an article in the New York Times, University of British Columbia in Vancouver writing instructor Mandy Len Catron recounts her experience of re-enacting the experiment with a university colleague.  The intensity of the exercise was overwhelming. After several hours of conversation with her male colleague, she revealed that love is indeed an action. To their surprise, the test worked and they fell in love.

You can get the list of 36 questions here.

When you do this, remember, the most important part of the exercise is this:  after answering all the questions, you and your partner gaze into each other’s eyes, in total silence for four minutes.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,   

Arielle

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