Forgiveness: Essential For More Love

Maybe it’s just me, but when someone does something mean or upsetting (to me or anyone I know and love), I find getting to real forgiveness is super hard.

 

I just want to dig in and make them bad and wrong, and I find myself thinking of ways to get revenge.  And yes, I know better, and in spite of “not wanting to,” I do make myself forgive… even if it sometimes takes me a while to get there.

 

At its essence, forgiveness is the willingness to let go of the hurt and give up suffering.

 

It’s a decision to no longer find value in anger or blame and it’s a letting go of the desire to judge another or ourselves because of something that happened in the past.

 

It’s a choice to feel love rather than to judge or condemn, and it’s often not easy… and it doesn’t mean that we forget… but we do let go.

 

Forgiveness is something we do for ourselves so we no longer have to carry negativity.

 

It releases us from the past and allows us to heal and let go and be more at peace in the present moment.

 

When I am stuck in “I’ve been done wrong,” one of the practices that works well for me is to sit down and write a letter to the one I need to forgive. This is not a letter that will ever be sent, but a chance to write down and FULLY express how hurt and wronged I feel… to write down what happened from my perspective.

 

Once I’ve written it all down… I add to the end of the letter, “I forgive, you, I bless you and I set you free.”

 

Then, I write a second letter from them to me.  I actually channel them and have them tell ME the story of what happened from their perspective… which usually results in finding out that they never really meant to cause harm… and then, I end that letter with “I forgive, you, I bless you and I set you free.”

 

When it comes to love, I know that being able and willing to learn to forgive is essential to all healthy relationships.  And sometimes, it’s necessary to forgive and to also eliminate certain people from your life if they are toxic or detrimental to your core happiness.

 

Wishing you love & freedom,

 Arielle

 

Life Isn’t Fair (Hooray!)

The other day I had the chance to meet up with the amazing, incredible, super smart Mike Dooley (from The Secret and Notes from the Universe), and we had a blast comparing notes about all the things we have in common, from the college we both went to, the books we have read, the music that rocks our world, and our “knowing” that the Universe always has our back….

Mike said something so profound that I just HAD to share it with you!

He said “Life is unfair.” And then he laughed and said “The cards are always stacked in our FAVOR by 10,000 per cent or more!

So, even though we ALL have negative thoughts or fears from time to time (or have a runaway train of them!), Mike says if we do just one or two simple things every day towards our goals and desires, if we just do a token act of demonstration of what’s possible, we will eventually prevail because words are more powerful than thoughts, and actions are even more powerful than words and thoughts!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

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Wanna Be Crazy In Love?

While it’s true that I believe that the state of “being in love” is the socially acceptable form of insanity, it’s also one of the greatest feelings in the world and one worth pursuing.

Manifesting and falling in love with your soulmate/life partner, the ONE you’ve been dreaming about forever, is not only possible, it’s predictable that it will happen if you are willing to spend a little time and energy focused on your love life!

(And, even if you’re ALREADY with the love of your life, please read on and share this with your single friends.)

According to Carlos Santana, “Everything tastes better when you share it with your soulmate.”

For all of you who work hard to eat organic, do yoga, meditate, drink green drinks, practice compassion, etc., all the latest scientific research now shows that the single most important thing you can do, if your goal is to lead a long and healthy life, is to have a happy marriage.

And for that you need to manifest your soulmate/life partner.

Which is why I am super excited to announce that my annual FREE Art of Love Series starts today, June 20, (for 10 days) featuring the world’s top love & dating experts providing everything you need to know to get ready to be Crazy In Love!

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Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

A Little Love Goes A Long Way

I just love the healing power of homeopathy.

Based on the theory that “like attracts like,” a homeopathic remedy is an itty, bitty healing dose that generally brings big relief.

I think putting out homeopathic doses of love to yourself, friends, family, and the world has a similar effect.

What “small dose of love” can you give yourself today?

It can be anything from taking something off your To-Do list, enjoying a soothing bubble bath, forgiving yourself whatever feels kind & loving for you.

What love could you give to someone else?

A phone call? Bring them flowers? Send a beautifully written email or letter of appreciation?

What small dose of love can you offer the world?

Plant a tree? Donate to a good cause?  Say prayers of peace and healing for the planet?

If we each did these things, perhaps we can have a big impact (and raise up) the love frequency of the world.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

 

Swearing – The surprising benefits!

I have potty mouth.

Somehow swearing, especially dropping “F-bombs,” makes me feel better and it seems whenever I watch cable news, I swear like a sailor.

Since I always like to find the “good” in everything, I’ve done some research to find out what’s “good” about cussing!

Researchers say there are plenty of ways that a good, salty swear word is good for your physical and emotional health.

Benefits include: increased circulation, elevated endorphins, and an overall sense of calm and well-being.

According to researcher Richard Stephens, of Keele University in England, swearing activates the “fight or flight” response, leading to a surge of adrenaline, which leads to a reduction in pain! Next time you stub your toe – shout a big “Oh F$#k” and see if it works for you.

It’s also been found that swearing gives us a greater sense of power and control over a bad situation and can boost our confidence.

Psycholinguists have remarked that “taboo words communicate emotional information more effectively than non-taboo words” and allow us to vent anger without getting physical.

Additionally, researchers found that to be true in office settings, where “witty uses of coarse, casual profanity” boosted morale and lowered stress among low-level workers.

And, a new study just released found something really fascinating: the more people swear, the more honest and fundamentally sincere they seem to be in their interactions with others.

In fact, a team of researchers from the Netherlands, the UK, the USA, and Hong Kong reports that people who use profanity are less likely to be associated with lying and deception.

Personally, my favorite swear words are “F$#K” and “MotherF$#ker.”

Somehow saying these words just gives me a big release and puts a smile on my face.

To offset any potential “bad” that might come from swearing, my amazing acupuncturist, Amorah Kelly, has taught me to end my sessions by “puffing out seeds of love to the world.” When I do this, I feel a shift in my body to a calmer, more centered place.

And just a bit of trivia to add to the mix:

Did you know that in the film The Wolf of Wall Street, the word F$#k was used 500 times? It was used as a noun, a verb, an adjective, an interjection, and an infix (that’s an affix inserted inside a word – as in, absof$#kinglutely).

Maybe the best advice comes from Mark Twain who said, “When angry, count to four; when very angry, swear.”

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Be a pleasure puppy this summer

Our cat Yoda is nicknamed “the pleasure pig.” Yoda demands massive amounts of attention, belly rubs, cheek scratches, and snacks we called “Yoda’s Crack.” The other day, I was watching Brian give Yoda his yoga stretching massage and was silently wishing that I was as good at demanding pleasure as Yoda is!

pleasure puppyI think it’s safe to say that there is always room in life for more love and more pleasure. And, whether you have a partner or not, there are lots of ways to activate and create more loving and pleasurable feelings.  I want to encourage you to become a Pleasure Puppy this summer!

Here’s how:

When you want to feel more love, you can consciously do it by actively releasing the hormone oxytocin into your brain. Stress is one of the main reasons we become depleted in oxytocin, so taking simple steps to rebuild it is necessary to maintain a happy, healthy lifestyle.

Known as the “bonding” chemical, oxytocin is really good for you. According to love master Dr. John Gray, women need to constantly rebuild their “oxytocin” levels. Oxytocin is the bonding hormone essential for women in their ability to give and receive love.

Taking time for mani-pedi’s, getting your hair done, receiving massages, taking long, warm bubble baths, listening to music, dancing, walking in nature, a quiet cup of tea, a perfect piece of chocolate (or your favorite treat), coloring and being creative….these are a few ways to add pleasure to your daily life that also rebuild oxytocin.

Oxytocin can be generated lots of ways and the more you have, the better you will feel. Not surprisingly, it plays a big role in producing orgasms.

It’s well known that a simple hug, gazing into the eyes of someone you care about or petting your dog or cat will also boost your oxytocin level. And, going shopping also does the trick. Even if you don’t buy anything, just looking and touching beautiful items makes a difference.

This summer, make time to savor the taste of fresh fruit, inhale the aroma of blossoming flowers, create a gourmet picnic and treat your loved ones to an array of fine wine, French cheese, and baguettes in a beautiful park or by the ocean.  Go for walks in nature, schedule a Skype video chat with a long lost friend, listen to your favorite album from high school, attend an outdoor concert, schedule special events on every new moon, full moon, and crescent moon, and don’t forget to make a fun plan for the 4th of July.

My personal “pleasure recipe” includes a daily bath with aromatherapy, an early morning walk with my husband, and one-on-one time with my cat. If I have a particularly stressful day, I have a special CD of favorite dance tunes that I crank up in my office and I dance and sing (all by myself) until I feel the endorphins surging through me.

If consciously adding pleasure to your daily life doesn’t come naturally to you, I would suggest a little experiment: For the next 7 days, decide to add at least 15-20 minutes of pleasure… all for you. By taking the time to add pleasure to your life, you will be calmer, happier, and more receptive to enjoying and attracting love at every level.

And, as you create your To-Do list, put YOU on the top of that list, then let me know what happens!

Remember, what you put your attention on grows. Add more pleasure and oxytocin to your brain and your life to add more love on every level and become a pleasure puppy!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Create a Deeper Connection

When you’re first dating someone, everything feels new and exciting.However, if you’re not careful, this intense feeling can cause you to bite your tongue when he does something that doesn’t match your standards.  This often stems from

However, if you’re not careful, this intense feeling can cause you to bite your tongue when he does something that doesn’t match your standards.  This often stems from fear that making any waves can potentially mess up great thing up.

Today, I’ve invited my dear friend and dating expert, Mat Boggs, to share with you why and how speaking your truth actually builds his attraction for you.  Please enjoy Mat’s insight and wisdom!

High-quality men find standards and boundaries highly sexy.

Here’s why: When you have standards and boundaries, this means you value yourself.

And when you value yourself, you ignite a deeper attraction in men for two reasons:

1. Social Proof. 

What does this mean? When you value yourself and you act with confidence, that signals to your man that you must have choices. In other words, you have the option to be selective because you have men who desire you!  And this sends a message to his subconscious mind that other men desire you — which tells him that he should desire you too.

2. Men Value What They Earn.

When a man has to work to achieve something, they will appreciate and value what they earn much more.  If you communicate your standards to him, the right man will rise to the occasion and live up to those standards!  When he achieves something other men have not, he feels special — and when a man feels special around you, you become special to him.

So, instead of ignoring red flags or adjusting your standards for him, stand confident in your brilliance and communicate what you want, because the right man will recognize and appreciate the value you hold in yourself.

Now, if you want to learn how to do this, Mat has a special offer for you.

He is offering a FREE online web class that goes deep into 3 essential secrets to manifesting the man of your dreams.

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Remember, you are a unique, amazing, brilliant woman that deserves to have everything she wants. So don’t settle for anything less! 🙂

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

About to GIVE UP on love?

This is for those of you who are ready to stop believing there are no great men where you live (or online) and that you’re just wasting your time. (And do you feel like dating is this gigantic chore you have to do that never leads to anything good… ever?)

My friend, dating & relationship expert Marni Battista, is both very practical and also deeply spiritual, and she has written a free eBook that is essentially a “smart woman’s guide to where the REAL men are.” In it, she will show you exactly where the great men are and how to meet them. It’s based on her incredible journey of learning how to fully love herself, love her life, and find someone amazing to love.

In this “it’s about freakin’ time” book, Marni shows you how quickly and easily you can go from thinking there are no good men anywhere… to suddenly knowing there are quality men everywhere.

Not only that, you’re finally going to stop wasting time swiping and dating the “no way” guys you’ve been meeting…

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Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

The Funny Side of LOVE

Today I felt like laughing, so I searched for some funny love jokes, I hope they make you laugh (or at least smile!)

~A lady goes to the doctor and complains that her husband is losing interest in sex. The doctor gives her a pill, but warns her that it’s still experimental. He tells her to slip it into his mashed potatoes at dinner, so that night, she does just that. About a week later, she’s back at the doctor, where she says, “Doc, the pill worked great! I put it in the potatoes like you said! It wasn’t five minutes later that he jumped up, raked all the food and dishes onto the floor, grabbed me, ripped all my clothes off, and ravaged me right there on the table!” The doctor says, “I’m sorry, we didn’t realize the pill was that strong! The foundation will be glad to pay for any damages.” “Nah,” she says, “that’s okay. We’re never going back to that restaurant anyway.”

Q: Is Google male or female?
A: Female, because it doesn’t let you finish a sentence before making a suggestion.

~A husband and wife were at a party chatting with some friends when the subject of marriage counseling came up. “Oh, we’ll never need that. My husband and I have a great relationship,” the wife explained. “He was a communications major in college and I majored in theatre arts. He communicates really well and I just act like I’m listening.”

~A husband exclaims to his wife one day, “Your butt is getting really big. It’s bigger than the BBQ grill!” Later that night in bed, the husband makes some advances towards his wife who completely brushes him off. “What’s wrong?” he asks. She answers, “Do you really think I’m going to fire up this big-ass grill for one little weenie?”

Laughter is a terrific oxytocin builder, so be sure to add it into your daily “pleasure pig” program!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Manifesting Love: The Priority List

You’ve heard the cliché, “success leaves a trail of breadcrumbs,” and having met and interviewed tons of smart, super-successful women who went from alone and dateless to happily married to their conscious soulmate, I have compiled a list (in no particular order) of the qualities they brought forward in themselves to make it happen.

  • They made “finding the One” their biggest priority and made a big commitment to do it.
  • They took personal responsibility for their own happiness.
  • They gave up the “story” that they are “too busy” to date and made the necessary time.
  • They soul-searched to discover the traits and qualities they most desired and needed in a soulmate and let go of unrealistic or unnecessary requirements (Brad Pitt looks with a massive bank account).
  • They learned to understand how and why to shift into their feminine energy when spending time with a conscious, masculine man.
  • They prioritized self-care, self-love, and pleasure into their daily routine.
  • They invested time into clearing their limiting beliefs about themselves, men, dating, marriage and online dating.
  • They consciously enlisted the support of friends and ancestors (on the other side) for their “love team.”
  • They created ways to “self-soothe” for the times when they were disappointed, frustrated or ready to give up.
  • They were brave and courageous, were willing to “feel the fear and do it anyway” when it comes to dating.
  • They understood that 98% of the time they would “not know” if he was even a strong potential candidate on the first date and would give “good guys” 3 -5 dates to learn more about them (Most women don’t feel strong chemistry till date #5!).
  • They made a strong commitment to not waste time with men who quickly raised “red flags.” They did not “smoke the hopium pipe” thinking they could invest in his “potential” be the one to convince a never-married 50 year-old to make a commitment he has no track record (or likely capacity) of making in the past.
  • They are open-minded, open-hearted, curious and understand that they are not perfect, nor will their beloved be perfect but they are willing to learn how to perfectly love and imperfect being.
  • They understand that there will be many disappointing dates but they do not give up, knowing and trusting that their soulmate is also looking for them.
  • They are willing to get comfortable with the paradox of manifestation—that we must be in strong intention and action while simultaneously being surrendered and detached from the outcome.

For some women, manifesting a soulmate only took a few months; for others, it took three years – all of them said it was worth the effort and they are now happily married to the conscious man of their dreams.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

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