Sexual Harassment – Enough Already (my story)

Bill Cosby, Roger Ailes, Harvey Weinstein, Bill O’Reilly… just a few of the high profile sexual predators who were finally exposed.

Not one of them has really, truly apologized for their horrible behavior and the pain and suffering they have caused.

Weinstein blamed it on the “culture of his time.”  As someone who came of age in this culture, there were many times when my “bosses” came on to me sexually in the workplace.

The first time it happened, I was just out of college, working as a photojournalist for a weekly entertainment paper in Fort Lauderdale.  One day, the boss (whose name I have now forgotten, but I do recall he had a huge beer belly and wore white patent leather shoes) walked into my darkroom which was dimly illuminated by a red safelight.  With a sickening sneer on his face, and while grabbing himself, he asked: “Would you like some of this?” I put my hands in the developer pan and told him he if he took one more step I would throw the acid-based chemicals in his face, which sent him running. (I have no idea if this would have done any damage to him or not). It never occurred to me to quit this job that I loved and there was no one to tell.  It was a small staff, run by his much younger wife.

I thought I handled it pretty well considering….

A few years later, I was working for local government and had a boss who was telling other people that we were sleeping together.  The worst part for me was that he was such a dweeb that I was embarrassed that anyone would think that I had sunk so low to be with a creep like him.  This time, I did tell someone – my Dad (a politician) – and he arranged for me to have lunch with a man in the waste removal business known as Big Frankie, to share my story.  The man spreading the rumors, Tommy, was a well-known civic leader.

Over lunch, in a dark Italian restaurant, I shared my story with Big Frankie.  When I walked into my office later that day, the phone was ringing and Tommy was calling to apologize to me, profusely, promising to never do it again.

Another time it happened was when I had my own business and one of my clients would always proposition me by phone.  He was literally begging me to meet him in a hotel while graphically describing in detail what we would be doing.  I didn’t want to give up the client (my business was new, the money was good, and I was doing a great job getting him PR). There was no one to tell, so I figured out a creative way to make it stop.

One day I said to him, “When your wife calls and tells me I have her permission to F$*K your brains out, then I’ll be a yes.”

That was the end of that. He never asked again.

My hope is that the era of women being sexually harassed will be over and the new culture will be one of safety, equality, justice, and fairness.

I am also hoping that these sick men get psychological counseling, mend their ways, and sincerely apologize to all those who have been harmed by their appalling behavior.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

OMG, you won’t believe this!

My friend (and my sister Debbie’s dear friend), world-famous medium James Van Praagh called last December to invite me, Bri, and my Mom to visit his new home here in San Diego and he offered us a reading with my sister in heaven, Debbie.  This was an irresistible offer, as it’s now impossible to get private readings with James.

During the reading, Debbie kept asking me if I would write a prayer book with her.  I politely declined.  How in the world would he do that?  We couldn’t possibly impose on James to be a daily intermediary and I didn’t have any desire to figure it out.

During the “reading” lots and lots of relatives from the other side came through and in between these lovely visits, Debbie would pop in, insisting we write a prayer book together.

Eventually, I gave in and said yes, clueless as to how this would happen.

On the drive home, Brian mentioned that he recalled Debbie talking about some prayers she had written and suggested I contact the amazing Julie Stroud, (who to this day runs The Ford Institute along with Kelly Kosow) to see if she had any of these prayers.

Julie, who was Debbie’s right hand everything for years, immediately wrote back and said not only did she have the prayers, she had an entire unpublished manuscript entitled Your Holiness: Discover the Light Within, and it was attached to the email.

What?

Debbie wrote a prayer book and I never knew?

How was that possible?

I immediately read the book – astounded at the wisdom, the beauty, and the brilliance of it.

And, then I called her editor at Harper One, who admitted that he had been feeling guilty for the past several years because he knew that she always wanted to write a prayer book but he talked her out of it.

Well, guess what?

He bought the book and it will be published on March 6th with an introduction from Marianne Williamson.

Here’s what Deepak Chopra has to say about Your Holiness:

Debbie Ford was a spiritual sister, colleague, and teacher to me. This book, discovered as her writings after her passing is an extraordinary journey to higher consciousness. Read it, absorb her insights and you may see the world fresh, vibrant and holy and as if for the first time.”

In two days, this Thursday ONLY, for 24 hours, the e-book version will be on sale for $4.99 as a pre-order.

I will be sending out an email on Thursday with the subject line: Debbie Ford’s Lost Manuscript if you would like to take advantage of it.  (The normal retail price of the e-book will be $11.99.)

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

New, Fast, Fun Ways to MORE Pleasure, Less Stress

I don’t know about you, but lately, it seems that everyone I know is totally stressed out, not just from their own lives, but from the “frequency in the field” – hurricane disasters, political nightmares, money worries, illness, etc.

Even if you are safe, dry, and your life is peachy right now, chances are you are picking up on the energies of those around you.

It’s almost unavoidable.

This is why I’m such a big advocate for all of us to become daily “pleasure puppies” and find ways each day to consciously choose to reduce our stress levels and add more pleasure.

For women, this means doing things that build oxytocin (the cuddling/bonding hormone), and for men, this means ways to build testosterone.

I’ve been doing more research and here are some new ways to do both:

To rebuild oxytocin, ladies, try this:

  • Tell someone you love them.
  • Share a meal.
  • Pray and/or meditate.
  • Volunteer and donate to charity.
  • Cuddle your pets.
  • Get and give 8 hugs a day.
  • Share an adrenaline rush (roller coaster anyone?)
  • Get onto social media – YES – Facebook is good for you!

Men, to rebuild testosterone try this:

  • Exercise, especially weight lifting, and high-intensity interval training.
  • Play or watch your favorite sport on TV.
  • Do the Power Pose: Stand with legs shoulder-width apart. Put your hands into fists on your waist (Like Superman), tilt your chin up and look at the ceiling and for two solid minutes shout out empowering phrases such as: I am strong, I am courageous, I am powerful, I am energized, I am on purpose, etc.

And one activity that builds both oxytocin and testosterone is to have sex with someone you love!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

The “Halo” Effect of Love

This past weekend I was honored to officiate my first wedding…my beautiful niece Rachel and her soulmate Jason.

 

It was an inspiring, beautiful, and fun event with more than 250 friends and family gathered in the French Quarter of New Orleans to celebrate and bless the love they share.

 

One of things I became very aware of over the weekend was the palpable and constant waves of happiness.

 

Seeing the delight on the faces of the bride and groom and their parents and closest friends brought smiles to everyone.  The vibe was one of infinite possibility, not just in the realm of love, but for all aspects of life.

 

The wedding was a great reminder to me of the importance of multi-generational gatherings and how we all need and want to be connected to our tribe.

 

From the great-grandparents in the room to the smallest babies and toddlers, everyone was delighted to be in the presence of love.

 

I can’t wait to do it again!

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Why Your Dream Is Already A Reality

The core basis of my belief and understanding about manifestation (whether you are manifesting love, a car, a new career, or a new little black dress) is this:

 

There is no “time.”  The past, present, and future all happen simultaneously.

 

When we have a desire for something, it’s because some part of us “already knows that this is possible for us,” on an unseen level.

 

Your dream is not some random thing out there somewhere; it is already in existence, calling upon you to dream it into your existence.

 

To do this, we must be willing to own and embrace the dream or desire and then take the necessary, appropriate action steps to bring it into 3-D reality.

 

The secret sauce for this is what I call feelingizations™   a process to get out of your head and into your heart to deeply feel that what you have asked for IS already yours.

 

In 1944, Max Planck, the father of quantum theory, explained that there is a Universal field of energy that connects everything and everyone and he called this the Divine Matrix.

 

According to my amazing friend, Gregg Braden, author of The Divine Matrix: Bridging Time, Space, Miracles and Belief:

 

“The Divine Matrix is our world.

It is also everything in our world.

It is us and all that we love, hate, create and experience.

Living in the Divine Matrix, we are as artists expressing our innermost passions, fears, dreams and desires through the essence of a mysterious quantum canvas.

But we are the canvas, as well as the images upon the canvas.

We’re the paints, as well as the brushes.

In the Divine Matrix, we are the container

Within which all things exist, the bridge between

The creations of our inner and outer worlds,

And the mirror that shows us what we have created.

In the Divine Matrix, you are the seed of the miracle as well as the miracle itself.”

 

Remember, the key to manifesting is to feel as though your dream or desire is accomplished and your prayers are already answered.  To access some free feelingizations™, go here:  www.soulmatesecret.com/audio

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Making Magic: It’s easier than you think

I was blessed to learn about the powers and magic of manifesting on September 12, 1984.  My life changed that day and since then I have devoted my life to mastering the art and science of what we now call The Law of Attraction.

 

Every time I manifest something (which is usually at least once a day) I am still delighted and surprised that it worked!

 

Sometimes my desires are met in mere minutes, other times it can take weeks or even months, but eventually, always, my desires are almost always met with what I asked for, or I get something better.

 

The fastest thing I ever manifested was a gluten-free chocolate chip cookie.  I was at a conference, it was during lunch, and I got up to go to the buffet, hunting for this specific cookie.  There wasn’t one, and there had never been one on the buffet.

 

When I got back to my seat, my friend Lisa Nichols, walked up to me and said “Arielle, would you like this gluten free chocolate chip cookie?” (Of course, I said yes.)

 

The longest it ever took me to manifest something was when I wanted to change jobs. I had a great job, it paid well, and it wasn’t overly demanding but I was totally bored with it.

 

And, I didn’t know what I wanted to do next.

 

What I did know was this:

 

I desired to wake up every day feeling excited and happy to have a new position that was creative, fulfilling, that I could do from home, that was well-paying with excellent company benefits, and that I would be using all my skill sets and working with like-minded people.

 

I had no idea of where this position could be found since I didn’t even know what the position was.

 

However, I completely trusted that not only did the perfect job exist, but that IT would find ME.

 

Every day, for more than a year, I sat at my desk for several minutes while I held on to my old giant Rolodex filled with the names and phone numbers of the thousands of people I had met over the years.  Using my imagination, while focused on my heart and deep feelings of gratitude for my new career path, I thanked the Universe for arranging my new work.

 

I never doubted that this job would appear and I continued to work at my old job, and provided the highest quality creativity and results to my employers.

 

One day, more than a year into this daily practice, I got a call asking me to appear on an interview show to discuss The Soulmate Secret. The interviewer and I became friendly and had several other calls.  I pitched her an idea for a free web event, she said yes, the event was a stunning success and the next day her company offered me the most amazing position!

 

I could have never dreamed up the things that happened from there.  And, and here’s the BIGGEST take away:

 

I didn’t need to know the HOW or the WHY for it to happen.  I simply practiced Law of Attraction 101:

  • I had total clarity on the result I was seeking.
  • I completely trusted that what I asked for was already mine.
  • I did a daily gratitude practice and perhaps most importantly, I was detached from the WHEN it would happen.

This process works and it requires your participation. Simply wishing, hoping, dreaming, or fantasizing won’t get you where you want to go, but when you’re willing to put in a little time, energy, intention and attention, all things are possible.

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

 Arielle

Louise Hay’s Mirror Work for more LOVE

It’s hard to imagine a world without Louise Hay in it…she transitioned last week on August 30th – exactly two years after her longtime friend Wayne Dyer passed.

 

For decades, I have admired Louise and looked up to her as my icon for spiritual growth, and aging gracefully and powerfully.

 

I loved her fierce courageousness, her willingness to do and say the right thing with the causes that called to her, and her brilliance, personal style and joie de vivre always inspired me.

 

Nearly 30 years go, I did her groundbreaking mirror work with her and it was a life changing day for me.

 

I remember sitting with Louise as she held a mirror in front of my face and told me to look into my own eyes and make a series of positive statements to myself including “I love you.”  It was hard because I really felt like I was lying to myself.  Somehow, I got through the process and then, as a daily practice, I did mirror work on my own, and learned to understand that not only did I really love myself, but that I was also lovable!

 

All of your self-talk, the dialogue in your head, is a stream of affirmations.

 

These affirmations are messages to your subconscious that are establishing habitual ways of thinking and behaving.

 

Positive affirmations plant healing thoughts and ideas that support you in developing self-confidence and self-esteem, and creating peace of mind and inner joy.

 

If you want to change your life, then it’s necessary to retrain your thinking and speaking into positive patterns. Mirror work, with its positive affirmations, opens the door. In essence, you are saying to your subconscious mind, “I am taking responsibility. I am aware that there is something I can do to change.” When you pay attention to your thoughts, you can begin to eliminate the ones creating experiences you do not want in your life.

 

Twice a day, stand in front of a mirror, look into your eyes, and repeat positive affirmations ten times. For instance, for self love you might say: “I want to like you. I want to really learn to love you. Let’s go for it and really have some fun.”

 

Then say: “I’m learning to really like you. I’m learning to really love you.

 

If doubts or fears or negative thoughts come up, just recognize them for what they are – old limiting beliefs that want to stay around. Say to them gently: “I no longer need you.”

 

And then repeat your positive affirmations again.

 

That which we constantly affirm becomes true for us.

 

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

 Arielle

 

P.S. To learn how to do this from the master herself, LOUISE HAY, sign up for her Loving Yourself: 21 Days to Improved Self-Esteem Online Video Course to achieve the love, the prosperity, and the relationships you’ve been longing for.

Turning Cranky into Happy

I am not sure if it’s the eclipse energy from last week, or the constantly bad news on TV, or Mercury Retrograde, or what, but I have been feeling a bit cranky lately.

 

So, I have been digging deep into my spiritual tool-kit.

 

This morning, I added extra lavender to my bath, while doing rounds of  EFT tapping on “I’m cranky and I totally and completely love myself.”

 

On the way to the grocery store, I listened to one of my favorite spiritual teachers, which was uplifting, and I spent a long time cuddling on the back deck with my cat Max.

 

Then I remembered to do my daily “pleasure puppy” stuff (today it was a red velvet cupcake for dessert after a very healthy dinner) and I’ve been searching extra hard on Facebook for funny things to share (and found a bunch!).

 

Finally, I spent an hour coloring and now I feel like me again.

 

Happy. Satisfied. Content and optimistic.

 

I will probably never know why I was feeling cranky, and perhaps it isn’t necessary to know why.  Let’s suppose the reason is “eclipse energy.”  How does knowing that help me?  I don’t think it does.  What’s important is that I have the tools to cleanse and shift the energy in order to let it all go and return me to me.

 

I believe that my happiness is my personal responsibility and I am so grateful that over the years I have assembled an effective spiritual “tool kit.”

 

What’s in your “tool kit?”

 

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

 

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LOVE – it’s Never Too Late!

My deepest knowing is this:  There is MORE than enough love in the world for everyone, especially YOU!

Regardless of your age, weight, circumstances, history or location, I know that if you have the desire for heart opening, mind-blowing, soul-stirring love, then it is meant to be yours.

I recently read a super inspiring love story in the New York Times that I just had to share with you. Below is an adaptation of it:

 

Eight years ago, Gertrude Mokotoff (now 98) and Alvin Mann (now 94)  met at a gym in Middletown, N.Y., where they still work out twice a week.

On their first date, he drove her to a restaurant called Something Sweet. “He was a perfect gentleman,” she said, and he added, “There was something about her that made me want to keep on talking.”

In a heartbeat, they became an item, talking about dreams and goals and sharing a life together.

“I asked him to marry me,” she said with a chuckle. “I was tired of chasing after him.”

On August 5 at Middletown City Hall, they exchanged vows. Ms. Mokotoff, clutching a small bouquet of white roses, emerged from a side room as their guitarist began strumming “Somewhere Over the Rainbow”. As she began slowly walking toward her future husband, his eyes swelled with tears.

Both are widowed from previous marriages, and they have seven children, 12 grandchildren and seven great-grandchildren between them.

Keith Schuler, who has been Mr. Mann’s neighbor for the past 20 years, calls him “an inspiration, and an incredible human being.”

“This man is 94 years old, and I see him outside chopping down trees, dragging logs out of the woods with his old Ford tractor, stacking firewood and cutting the grass,” Mr. Schuler said. “Then I see him and Gert running around like two high school sweethearts, holding hands and kissing, and driving to New York City on weekends. If I didn’t see it with my own eyes, I wouldn’t believe it.”

Mr. Schuler was on hand for the ceremony, which he called “a once-in-a-lifetime event,” along with other guests who ranged in age from Ms. Mokotoff’s 7-month-old great-grandson, Jack, to the bride herself.

After exchanging vows and wedding rings, the couple was showered with applause, well wishes and hugs, as several of the guests began to cry.

“Their enthusiasm is contagious and their certainty of a destiny together is inspiring,” said Mayor DeStefano. “We ask that the vision they have for one another always reflects the attraction that first brought them together,” he said before pronouncing them husband and wife.

 

Isn’t that just the sweetest story????

And what about you?  Are you ready to have your very own LOVE STORY?  If so, I want to encourage you to give me 90 minutes of your time and  join me now for a FREE Online Seminar “The 6 Love Codes” that work for conscious women to attract a high quality life-partner and create lasting love…

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Solar Eclipse + LOVE & YOU

By now you have heard about this crazy month of lunar and solar eclipse activity designed to shake us up, support us, and transform us in positive ways.

 

The Full Moon and Lunar Eclipse that occurred on August 7th was all about letting go of limiting beliefs, as well as people and behaviors that no longer serve us.  It created space for the upcoming Solar Eclipse on August 21 that will magnify all the new things that will best serve us… serve our soul and serve our life expression. Generally, this will include monumental events, meetings and partings, or changes within your career and your relationships, etc.

 

According to astrologer Susan Miller:

 

The job of an eclipse is to shine a glaring ray of truth to the part of your life that is being touched, and truth will likely arrive in a startling way. Eclipses are brilliant illuminators, revealing a truth about a condition that you never in a million years knew existed. Once you are given the information, the news can act as a catalyst to a major decision or action you will take. Most often we are shocked or surprised by the information that comes to us, for the eclipse is one of the most dramatic tools the universe uses to get you to sit up, pay attention, and take action. Eclipses are always your friends, for they are there to help to protect you. Always be grateful for truth.

 

Most importantly, both of these eclipses are a wake-up call to be more loving and kind to ourselves, and to those around us. They give us the opportunity to enlarge our capacity to love more deeply.

 

No matter what occurs, it will become evident that the universe is intent on moving you forward.

 

I like to think of it as this: a big, wet, sloppy kiss from God.

 

Wishing you love, laughter. and magical kisses,

Arielle

 

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