One day, many years ago, Brian and I were in Tiffany’s, simply browsing all the pretty shiny and sparkling things. As we looked through the glass cabinet at a diamond bracelet, a very elegant man in a suit, behind the counter, asked if I would like to try it on. I immediately said to him: “Oh no thanks, I certainly don’t need anything like this.”
His instant reply floored me: “Madam, this is not about “need,” this is all about “want.”
He was right, and in that moment he gave me a distinction I had never thought about: the difference between “need” vs. “want.”
Our basic needs: air, food, water, shelter, security are obviously the most important ones and essential to life.
But, what about everything else?
I want to eat cheesecake, red velvet cupcakes, macadamia nut chocolate chip cookies and gobs of pasta. I am gluten and sugar sensitive, so I need to eat healthy foods. The choice is up to me. My “wants” can hurt me.
I want to drive the big, expensive Tesla sedan. And, I work from home and only need a very small car to get to the market in.
Now, does that mean I can’t ever have my “wants?”
No, of course not, but knowing the difference is very useful when making decisions (And, I indulge my sweet tooth nearly every day, but I limit myself to 3 small bites.)
For those of you seeking your soulmate, it’s often hard to discern between a want and a need. One way to do it is to ask yourself this question: “Will this want/need contribute to my long-term happiness?” If this answer is yes, then I would put it in the “need” category.
I have learned over the years that the more I let go of my “wants” and get comfortable and committed to handling my needs, knowing that I always have “enough” makes my life easier, more fun and certainly more peaceful.
Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,
P.S. If your heart’s desire is to manifest the love of your life, and you are willing to dedicate your time, attention and intention to making it happen, then I invite you to join me August 19-21 at the beautiful Omega Institute to discover how to quickly and easily make it happen! (This is the only time this year I am offering this weekend workshop)