I’ll Have What She’s Having

As you read this, we are headed to Israel and Italy to celebrate our 18th wedding anniversary.  It’s hard to believe how the years have flown by!

BIG HUGWhat I love most about being married to my soulmate Brian is that every morning I wake up to someone who is SO HAPPY to see me, gives me big hugs and cuddles, tells me how beautiful I am and how much he loves me.

I live in this near daily feeling of being drenched in love, saturated in love, infused with love, support and devotion… some days it seems almost too good to be true and I just pinch myself!  BUT, it wasn’t always this way….

Like so many people, when we first got married, I really believed that since I was with my “soulmate,” marriage would be easy and effortless.

What I didn’t know then was that part of the purpose of a sacred relationship is to have a partner to learn and grow and heal with, and that doesn’t happen without challenges.

Fortunately, I committed myself to becoming a “student of love” and I was open and willing to figure out how to become a great partner.

If only someone had prepared me for all of this.

For instance….did you know that research has proven that every couple has at least 9 irreconcilable differences?  These are things that you are never going to agree on and yet we have to learn how to love and respect each others’ point of view and then come up with creative solutions.  Discovering that having this many differences was “normal” was such a relief!  One of the biggest differences for many couples revolves around money.  Almost always you get a “spender” and a “saver.”

That was a big one for me.

While at first it seemed like an insurmountable issue, it healed me of my poverty consciousness, something I wasn’t really aware of until confronted with it!

I also didn’t know that men’s brains are wired differently from women’s and that totally impacts the way we need to communicate with each other.

And, communication skills can be easily learned.

While this newsletter doesn’t give me the space to share everything I have learned about “how” to have an amazing marriage, I can tell you that whether you are still seeking your soulmate or you’ve been happily with yours for many decades, everything I have learned is in my book, Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate.  I have made this book easy and fun and if you are up for being a “student of love,” be sure to read it. You can get the first few chapters for free at www.arielleford.com.

Or buy it now at Amazon!

All the latest science and research now shows that the very best way to insure a long, healthy life is to have a happy marriage.  I know many of you exercise, eat right, do yoga, meditate, and drink your green drinks, so please also put your attention on manifesting your soulmate and if you already have one, become a “student of love” to create a long-lasting happy marriage.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

 

Arielle

Marianne Williamson on love & tears

There’s an old saying that before you meet your prince, you might kiss a lot of frogs. And most of us have.

We might chuckle at that, but the truth is that the “wrong” relationships are not just wrong – they’re painful. Have you ever thought about how many tears you’ve cried over love affairs and marriages that didn’t work?

The pain of heartbreak is some of the deepest pain we experience in life, and that’s why I’m excited that my friend Marianne Williamson has written a book specifically dedicated to that: how to endure our suffering when times are tough, and most importantly how to get ourselves back up again and be even more prepared for life and love than we were before.

Here is an example of Marianne’s wisdom from her new book, Tears to Triumph: The Spiritual Journey from Suffering to Enlightenment:

 

tears-to-triumph-3d-275“The universe itself is intentional, guiding all things to the actualization of their highest potential. This includes not only individuals, but also relationships. Love is always seeking us. The problem is how often we hide from it, scurrying away from the light of love into the darkness of our fearful selves. It wasn’t that love didn’t show up for us; it’s that we didn’t show up for love.

 

A Course in Miracles says that our job is not to seek love, but to seek all the barriers we hold against its coming. Those barriers, those walls in front of our hearts, are the places where we turn our backs on love. We do various things to keep love at bay, from behavior ranging from needy to controlling, dishonest to manipulative, avoidant to addictive, too hot to too cold, self-centered to smothering. These character defects are not where we’re bad, but where we’re wounded. Still, no matter what childhood experience might have caused those defects to begin with, they’re our responsibility now. When we are displaying our rough edges, other people don’t think, ‘Oh poor dear, you’re wounded.’ They’re more apt to think, ‘Oh Lord, get me out of here.’ Which totally makes sense.

 

So, time and time again, we find ourselves blowing it at relationships – with friends, with colleagues, with family, with partners. And once again, the only real problem is our separation from God. The key to fostering soulful relationships with others is fostering our primary relationship with God, for there, we are healed of the pieces of false self with which we so often sabotage our relationships. In my relationship with God lies my relationship with my true self, and only when I’m aligned with the truth of who I am can I align with the truth in you.”

 

Once again, Marianne has hit the nail on the head. She points to the darkness so we can expose it to the light, and in so doing, illuminating the path to love. I highly recommend her book for its extraordinary depth of compassion for the tears we’ve suffered, and its practical wisdom for how to dry them. Even more importantly, says Marianne, we can do even more than dry our tears – we can learn from them, and become even better at love than we were before.

 

Whether you are single, in a relationship, or somewhere in between coupled, Marianne reveals that true healing and transcendence can only come when we finally face our pain and wrestle with what it has to teach us. She offers us a powerful way forward through the pain, to a deeper awareness of our feelings, our lives, and our true selves.

 

Get her new book, Tears to Triumph: The Spiritual Journey from Suffering to Enlightenment today!

 

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

What’s Your Moon Shot?

In 1969, Apollo 11 landed the first human on the moon – an amazing dream envisioned by President John F. Kennedy, Jr.   It was known as the “moonshot,” which today is a phrase used to describe “ambitious, exploratory and ground-breaking projects undertaken without any expectation of near-term profitability or benefit and also, perhaps, without a full investigation of potential risks and benefits.”

 

imagesAnother example of a “moonshot,” was taken by Peter Diamandis, creator of the X-Prize.  When he announced the $10 million dollar prize for the most innovative winner of the X Prize he didn’t have a clue where the money would come from.   After more than sixty meetings with various wealthy individuals and corporations, he finally secured the $10 million in prize money!  He didn’t know how or when he would succeed, he just decided this was his “moonshot” and he would make it happen.

 

Today the X Prize mission takes on the challenges of our time – the national or global crises, market failures and opportunities where solutions are thought to be either out of reach or just plain impossible – and design and operate incentivized prize competitions to drive radical breakthroughs to solve them.

 

For some of you, finding your soulmate, or re-inventing your career, or moving to Bali is your “moonshot.”  Right now it seems nearly impossible, out of reach, beyond comprehension, and you don’t currently know how it will happen. However, your desire for a fabulous life can become strong enough to make it happen.

 

The winning formula is a desire, faith and taking action. What will bring you all the answers is your willingness to truly go for it.  Go for the life you dream of and completely deserve.  Allow yourself to know, trust and belive that what you have asked for IS already yours. Align yourself with those can help and support.

 

That’s what JFK did.

 

That’s what Peter Diamandis did.

 

That’s what you can do.

 

You don’t have to do it alone.

 

Enlist a friend to “hold the space” for you.

 

Find a coach or mentor to guide you through.

 

Take time each day to feel what it feels like to be living your dream life.

 

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

How To Trust Your Intuition

It took me years to learn to trust my intuition.  Sometimes it was hard to distinguish between my “wishful thinking” and a real intuitive “hit.”

 

imagesMy friend and intuitive extraordinaire, Colette Baron Reid, shared with me a very simple but powerful technique to use by yourself when you need to access your own intuition. She calls it the YES OR NO technique.

 

To begin you say your name out loud.  For example: “My name is Arielle.”

 

Then notice how that feels in your body. When I say “My name is Arielle” I get this very clear “solid” feeling that YES this is absolutely true.

 

Then make the same statement but with a false name, such as “My name is Violet.”

 

You will notice that this feels both confusing and wrong.

 

The next step is to ask the question you most want the answer to…. if you are trying to figure out if the person you have been dating for awhile is the “one,”  or if a potential opportunity is a good thing try this:

 

“Is ____the one for me?”

 

Or you can say,

 

“Is it in my highest and best good to pursue _____ with ________?”

 

Rev-arms-outIf you feel contracted around your chest area, this is a sign that your body is giving you a “no.” If you are hoping that this person is the right person and you find that you are getting a NO and you see that you are trying to re-work the question to get a “yes” and you are feeling obsessed, or disappointed in how your body is responding, this is how you know the difference between intuition and wishful thinking.

 

To know the difference between intuition and wishful thinking, pay attention to how you feel and what you’re trying to do with the information. If you’re letting it “be” whatever it is, then you’re getting intuitive guidance. If you’re trying to direct or manipulate the action or outcome with a particular agenda, or if you are afraid or feeling fearful about what you are feeling, then you might be in the realm of wishful thinking. It may take a little practice but developing your inner radar will serve you well.

 

And, if you want to really dive into this, check out Colette’s Daily Oracle Card Reading Course. This is a 3-Lesson online course to help you get in touch with the best adviser you’ll ever have – Spirit. It teaches you the fundamentals of dialoguing with Spirit on a daily basis to help you adjust your actions or interpretations of events, people, and overall challenges. Amazing resource!

 

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

The Real Purpose of Marriage

 

My sister Debbie loved her rabbi, Baruch Ezagui. One day, the Rabbi and I had a conversation about love and the real meaning of marriage. He told me he believes “marriage is the highest calling of humankind” and that it includes the marriage between the body and soul, heaven and earth, spirit and matter, one human and another.

He further explained:

“This union of beings is reflected in the marriage between men and women. True love is loving the person for what they love, who they are, for what they stand for. If you go into a marriage loving what you love, not what they love, that is not real love.

Real love is not finding someone to hold your hand and find common ground with; the institution of marriage is to push you out of your comfort zone, lift you up and above what you need, so that you can provide what you are needed for.

WOW.

Just ponder that last bit: marriage… lifts you up above what you need, so that you can provide what you are needed for.

For those of you who are wary of marriage or fearful that your past history is a precursor of your future, I urge you to consider the true nature of marriage and a soulmate relationship, which I believe is that it brings us not only great joy, but also the deepest possible level of healing.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Do You TRUST the Universe?

Shit happens.

It just does.

We have good days, bad days, and mediocre days.

One day we feel great…top of the world.

The next day we feel like crap, get in a car accident, or worse.

Life is great. Life sucks.

This is just how it is……one step forward, two steps back.
Keep Calm and Trust the UniverseSo…here’s the BIG question: Why do so many of us live as if feeling bad is so WRONG?

I think there are two answers to this question:

#1 is that we were raised on the old Alka Seltzer jingle “plop, plop, fizz, fizz, oh what a relief it is.” We’re programmed to believe that there is a pill to pop to alleviate every pain or discomfort. (Even though we all know that physical pain is a necessary signal that something is calling for our attention.)

#2 we don’t believe that the Universe always has our back. Quite simply, we don’t trust God. We assume that whatever is happening…whether it’s the loss of a job, heartbreak, illness, betrayal, unexpected money issues, or roadblocks to our heart’s desires… we take it as a sign that we are doomed and more bad is on the way.

While just like everyone else I would rather avoid pain, in six decades on this planet, I’ve discovered that my greatest, most extraordinary “wins” in life have all come as a result of my most painful and difficult experiences. Over time I’ve learned to cultivate trust in the Universe.

As I began to witness in my own life that from the darkest times came the brightest results, I found the ability to trust both God and myself. I consciously sought out proof that the bad times were the soil in which my dreams came to fruition. (And yes, I admit, that I often wished for a genie in a bottle to make it all easier for me.)

If you are having a great day today, take a few moments to close your eyes, drop into your heart and really feel how grateful you are.  Deeply breathe in this gratitude and savor it.

And, if today is a bad day, close your eyes, drop into your heart, and take a few moments to feel what you are truly feeling….and then see if you can conjure up true gratitude for the possibility of the most wonderful thing that will soon come to you as a result of this difficulty.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

What Do You Want?

I don’t always get what I want.

 

UnknownAfter 30 years of studying and excelling at the Law of Attraction, and even though I am considered a “master manifestor,” sometimes there is a conflict between what I say or think I want and what I end up with.

 

Why is this?

 

Just having the desire for something isn’t enough to make it so, and…. sometimes I don’t put the kind of attention and action into manifesting that I know it takes to make something happen.

 

For instance, I often “want” to lose some weight.  I think about it, but the truth is, I have not seriously done anything about it.  I just keep hoping the excess pounds will “magically” disappear or I make up all kinds of excuses as why I can’t do it.

 

We all do this…..

 

My current thought about this is simply:  Either I make a commitment to that which I say I desire, then make a plan and get into action, or stop deluding myself into thinking I really “want” that thing, whatever it is.

 

I call this moving an item from “the bucket list” to “the F$%k It” list.

 

By taking an item off the list, I free myself up to focus on what my heart and soul is most calling for.

 

IF you are on the “fence” about whether or not you truly desire something, ask yourself this:

 

What feeling do I expect to experience when I get _____?

Then ask yourself, am I willing o do what it takes to have this feeling?

Or, is there something else that will get me to the desired feeling?

 

The answer should then become clear.

 

Once you know what your soul is truly calling for, remember that on the “unseen level” it’s already yours and then make an enthusiastic plan to “claim it in the 3-D world!”

 

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

MORE of You Are Enough, I Am Enough

Of all the newsletters I’ve ever written, the recent one about “being enough” has gotten the most response.  I was so surprised to learn that this is such a big issue for so many people (including me).

Did you know that this is an actual “phobia”?  It’s called Atelophobia – it’s the fear of imperfection and of not being good enough. There are now drugs to deal with the anxiety caused by this – oy vey!

This craving to be “enough” stems from the stories we make up about ourselves and the messages we get from society.  Early on we learn that if we act a particular way, get  good grades in school, win at sports, or give hugs to crazy Aunt Sophie, we receive praise from those around us.  We get “attention” and we begin to connect “love” with “actions.”

I Am Enough

Many of us have learned to believe that “I am enough when I do ___________.”

And, really, the truth is just our very beingness makes us more than enough.

Now, it’s up to us, as mature adults, to begin to make this a practice when the negative chatter in our head preaches that we need to do more, do better, etc. When I look at my cat, I never think, “If only Yoda would do ______ then I would love him more.” I love Yoda just because he is alive and with us (and it’s possible Yoda doesn’t share this point of view and he might love me more if I spoiled him as much as Brian does…ha ha!).

Writer/blogger Alexandra Hope Flood offers 11 steps to reminding us all that we are ENOUGH:

1. You are a miracle. Never forget this fact. Just the science alone is mind blowing.

2. You are unique. No one will ever be as good at being you as you are. Seriously.

3. You are enough. Always. Never doubt this. There is nothing to add, but feel free to expand.

4. There is always more to learn, but that is not failure, it is a gift. It can be fun too.

5. Every obstacle is an opportunity to fall further into the miracle that is you.

6. Commit to being the best version of you every day. Recalibrate the definition of “best” as needed.

7. Leave room for others when they fall off the wagon of their own miracle.

8. Forgive. Forgive. Forgive. Forgive every which way. Forgive him. Forgive her. Forgive you.

9. Compassion is the key to forgiveness. Compassion means you feel the humanity in others.

10. The more you forgive, the more you’ll enjoy being you, because the lighter your load will be.

11. In the end, as in the beginning: You. Are. Amazing.

One of my favorite lines is from the classic film, The Help (starring Viola Davis, Octavia Spencer & Jessica Chastain).  Everyday, the maid tells the little girl in her care:

“You is kind. You is smart. You is important.”

Remember this!

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

 Arielle

It’s TONIGHT!!!!

I never intended to become a love and relationship expert.

 

If you had told me ten years ago I would end up here, I would have said you were crazy!

 

And yet, the Universe had a plan for me and I am super-grateful on how my life has unfolded.

 

My mission is simply to provide all those who are seeking a soulmate, and also give to those who want to grow and sustain a relationship, all of the best available information on the planet. Besides writing books and teaching workshops, every year I have the awesome pleasure of creating a free, online event!

 

My 6th annual Art of Love Series starts today at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ETand I couldn’t be more excited. This year the Series is targeted for SINGLES and it’s a free event bringing together the world’s top love, dating & mating experts who share EVERYTHING about how and where to find all the great, conscious people out there who are also looking for you!

 

I promise you there is content here you have NEVER heard before, the knowing of which will skyrocket you into love. Claire Zammit and I will kick it off LIVE today (with Marianne Williamson!) at 5 pm PT / 8 pm ET. 

 

Sign up now!

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MEN – while the target audience is women, below are just some of the sessions that apply to BOTH men & women:

  • Deepak Chopra – Activating Synchrodestiny To Attract Soul Love
  • Attached! With Dr. Amir Levine who has groundbreaking work on attachment styles…learn how to “spot” the ones who can truly commit, quickly!
  • Orna and Matthew Walters on now to Become Magnetic to Your Soulmate
  • How To Release Your Love Blocks & Burn Your Baggage
  • Two workshops on online dating that supply the secrets to success and making it a fun & sacred process. (1 in 3 marriages now start online).
  • Marci Shimoff on “Unlocking the Magnetic Power of Self-Love and Happiness”
  • Accessing Mystical Love with your Angels and Numerology with Sunny Dawn Johnston and Glynis McCants….AND MORE!

 

Sign up for free right now at THE ART OF LOVE!

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

 

P.S. If you are ‘waiting” for the right time to start dating, please remember that who you are RIGHT NOW is enough!  AND, if you miss us LIVE, register anyway and we will send you the replay link.

Love As An Art Form

Love is an art and you are the artist.

How, when, and where you express your love is your medium.

Your words and deeds can light up someone’s day or toss them into the depths of despair.

Love is much more than just a feeling.

Original art by www.sharronkatz.com

Original art by www.sharronkatz.com

So many of us depend on our feelings to tell us if we are “loving” someone.

The truth about love is that it is an action.

Love is a choice.

Love is a connection.

Love is a decision.

Love is a practice.

Love is a behavior.

Love is the juiciest part of life.

Love opens our hearts, expands our world and brings a smile to our lips.

For love, we make commitments and agreements to share our life with another.

When we pledge our love to another we say to them:

I will love you on your good days and your bad days.

 I will be your safe place to land.

 I will share with you my attention, affection, and appreciation.

Love is as much about giving as it is about receiving.

It’s about being willing to forgive and love is also about truth-telling.

And it’s about loving yourself.

Love is God.

Love is WHO we are.

Love is why we are here.

And in the end, love is an art and you are the artist.

How, where, and when you express, share, and shower your love onto the world (and yourself) will be your legacy and your masterpiece.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

 Arielle