Be A Badass!

When I was growing up, we had the term “badass,” but it was usually the bully in school who was always in detention, or even worse, sent to military school because he couldn’t get along with the other kids.

Today, Badass has a whole new meaning, especially for women, and my friend Nikki Jade defines it this way:

1) Someone who doesn’t care what other people think of them because they are authentically, boldly and freely expressing their beautiful divine self.

2) They create their life moment by moment on the basis of what they would love.

3) They are so powerful they must watch every thought and choose wisely.

4) An empowered goddess.

love this definition and I think it provides a great template for living a life filled with love, prosperity, satisfaction and fun.

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So, what does it take to live authentically and boldly?  Courage!  Allow yourself to be fully YOU.  Allow others to see you, and while that can be scary, follow the lead of the late, great Susan Jeffers and “feel the fear and do it anyway.”

Creating your life moment by moment requires that you first get to dig deep and really know what makes you happy and what you love. One way to do this is to make a list of times and experiences in your past where you experienced true joy. Then do MORE of that!

Now, the hard part:  The Law of Attraction is ALWAYS working, which is why you must learn to manage your thoughts, feelings and emotions. You are a very powerful being and what you put your attention on grows.  If you are stuck in negative emotions or thought forms, you are not creating the life you desire.  This is not to say that you don’t honor and process negative emotions, you must; but learn how to do that so you don’t find yourself in negative feedback loops that keep you stuck.

Remember…. choose every thought wisely.

Now go out there and be the fabulous Badass that you are!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

 Arielle

P.S.  If you want to be a Badass in love and when it comes to manifesting your soulmate, join Claire Zammit and I for:

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How To Love Yourself More

Learning to love myself was a painful and slow process.

I grew up awkward, introverted, and with a very loud, self-critical voice in my head.

More than 25 years ago I had the good fortune to be introduced to Louise Hay who took me through her life-changing “mirror work” process.

I remember sitting with her as she held a mirror in front of my face and told me to look into my own eyes and make a series of positive statements to myself, including “I love you.”  It was hard, because I really felt like I was lying to myself.  Somehow I got through the process and then, as a daily practice, I did mirror work on my own, and learned to understand that not only did I really love myself, but that I was also loveable!

All of your self-talk, the dialogue in your head, is a stream of affirmations. These affirmations are messages to your subconscious that are establishing habitual ways of thinking and behaving. Positive affirmations plant healing thoughts and ideas that support you in developing self-confidence and self-esteem, and creating peace of mind and inner joy.

If you want to change your life, then it’s necessary to retrain your thinking and speaking into positive patterns, and mirror work, with its positive affirmations, opens the door. In essence, you are saying to your subconscious mind, “I am taking responsibility. I am aware that there is something I can do to change.” When you pay attention to your thoughts, you can begin to eliminate the ones creating experiences you do not want in your life.

Twice a day, stand in front of a mirror, look into your eyes, and repeat positive affirmations ten times. For instance, for self love you might say: “I want to like you. I want to really learn to love you. Let’s go for it and really have some fun.”

Take another deep breath and say: “I’m learning to really like you. I’m learning to really love you.

If doubts or fears or negative thoughts come up, just recognize them for what they are – old limiting beliefs that want to stay around. Say to them gently: “Out, I no longer need you.” And then repeat your positive affirmations again.

That which we constantly affirm becomes true for us.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

 Arielle

P.S. To learn how to do this from the master herself, LOUISE HAY, sign up for her Loving Yourself: 21 Days to Improved Self-Esteem Online Video Course to achieve the love, the prosperity, and the relationships you’ve been longing for.

Each day for 21 days, you’ll learn how to:

  • Recognize your heart’s desire
  • Gain confidence to listen to and follow your inner guidance
  • Cultivate your soul gifts – all of those talents you’ve come to share with the world
  • Realize that self-love makes it so much easier for others to love you
  • Have less drama and fewer conflicts
  • Heal your personal suffering and the suffering of others through self-love

Don’t miss this amazing opportunity to fall in love with yourself and your life!

Do you practice the Sunshine Law?

When I was growing up in Hollywood, Florida (30 minutes north of Miami Beach), my Dad was politically active…he was into civil rights, protecting the environment by fighting the land developers (to this day Hollywood Beach is still nearly free of the tall buildings that block beach access), and he was a strong advocate for getting the  “Sunshine Law” passed when I was around 12 years old.

 

sun-catsI remember him explaining to me that the “Sunshine Law” was important because it required that all that all meetings of any governmental body, where official acts take place, will be public meetings. He said that they couldn’t be secret – or take place in the dark – because we deserved to know what our officials were doing.

 

It’s interesting that my sister Debbie, incorporated this into her life’s work around dealing with “the dark side” and showing people how to love and embrace both their darkness and their light.

 

I also decided that this is how I wanted to be in the world… really open, no secrets, what we now call transparency.  For me, it just seems logical and easy to just be this way.  It is also a great way to stay deeply connected to your partner.

 

Living life with your own “sunshine law” requires a big commitment to vulnerability.  It’s not easy to always share your truth, your deepest feelings, and the “not so wonderful” parts of ourselves.

 

Elizabeth Gilbert is particularly genius at this.  Last week, on her Facebook blog, she shared that one of the reasons for her upcoming divorce is that her best friend, Rayya, is now her lover and partner.  In a deeply revealing and touching piece, Elizabeth shares the intimate details of Rayya’s diagnosis with pancreatic/liver cancer and how that revealed their truest feelings for each other.

 

The Sunshine Law is a great metaphor for allowing your love and life to shine brightly, and bless yourself and all those in your world.

 

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

 Arielle

TEXTING – The Junk Food of Dating

Lately, I have been hearing from a ton of people that thought they had potentially “found the one,” (they were getting lots of great texts, many times a day), only to discover that the texts suddenly slowed down or stopped all together.

 

They truly believed they were on the verge (or were in) a relationship.

 

Why does this happen?

 

Well, chances are, you weren’t the only one they were texting.

 

And, they may have found someone to start a relationship with, and then abandoned you.

 

Bottom line: By relying on texting, rather than meeting in person, calling, etc., they hadn’t made any real investment in getting to know you.

 

And you allowed that to happen.

 

Texting offers an easy and fun way to flirt without requiring very much effort.

 

Most of the time, texting also doesn’t really give you all the insight you need to determine if the other person has potential to be a date, let alone your future life partner.

 

As humans, we need verbal plus non-verbal cues to get to know someone.

 

In fact, UCLA did a study decades ago showing that as much as 92% of the information we take in from someone is non-verbal. This means we need to actually “see” them, not just get little words on a tiny screen from them.

 

TextingWe are sensory, sensual beings. 

 

Our senses of sight, hearing and touch, and the all important “sixth sense,” are necessary components to dating.

 

It’s likely you’ve had the experience where you spent a ton of time texting with someone, only to meet them in person and discover zero chemistry and/or great disappointment.

 

Texting is incredibly useful for conveying short bits of information such as “sorry, I am running 5 minutes late,” but to really get to know someone, you must take the time to get on the phone, meet for coffee, and arrange Skype or Facetime chats.

 

While so many people are now using texting as a dominant form of communication, you can quickly convey your preferences for connecting.

 

Let them know upfront that you don’t do a lot of texting, but you are looking forward to a call.  Once you do get on the phone with them, be sure to reinforce how wonderful it is to hear their voice – be generous in your praise with things like “you’ve got a really soothing voice” (or a sexy one!)  When you see them on Facetime or Skype, compliment something about their appearance.

 

One you are in a relationship, text all you want, but in the beginning stages, I really caution you against over-texting as a way to evaluate potential soulmates.

 

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

Have You Been Emotionally Tanked??

Have you ever walked into a room and before you heard any words you could feel the anger/tension in the air?   We all have the ability, like radios and cell phones, to receive unseen vibrations and signals from the world around us.  Those of us who are particularly sensitive not only absorb these energies but you may also have to consciously clear them.

 

What you may not know is that not every “feeling” you are experiencing is yours.

 

For instance, if your significant other is angry/sad/whatever (but is in denial or unaware of their feelings) and perhaps they are suppressing them, you might be the one who ends up getting triggered and expressing “their” feelings.

 

It’s something known as emotional tanking.

 

Sometimes when I am experiencing an emotion that I can’t figure out the source of, if I look to see whom I have been around, I realize that I have taken on their feelings.

 

UnknownThe fastest way for me to release them is to cut cords.

 

Cords are invisible energetic strands of energy that connect two people.

 

How to Cut Cords:

 

Simply imagine that this person is standing in front of you.

 

Place one hand, cupped palm down, near the top of where their head would be and place the other hand, cupped up, as low as you can, then scoop up the cords, grasp them in one hand and then using your other hand, make a karate chop three times to sever the cords.  Then clap your hands three times to disperse the energy.

 

If you’re still struggling getting an “ex” out of your life, be sure to do this process.  You might notice that after you cut cords with them, they call you or show up.  This doesn’t mean you are suppose to take them back, it just means they felt the energetic release and they want to continue to be an emotional vampire.  You can cut cords as often as necessary.

 

I have been using this technique for many years and find it very effective.

 

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

 Arielle

Releasing Negativity

We’ve all been there…..the days when we spiral down convinced that life just isn’t going our way… that we are undeserving of love, or the new job, or the thing we are most wishing for.

imagesOur mind goes into overdrive, some would call it a negative feedback loop, and we keep replaying the negativity over and over again, convinced our mind is telling us the truth.

BUT….just because you have a thought does not mean it’s true!

It’s up to us to begin to manage our thoughts and emotions and there are ways to do this but it requires a little time and attention.

When you find yourself having negative thoughts, try these techniques:

1)  Stop what you are doing and acknowledge to yourself what you are thinking…internally (or out loud) say “cancel-cancel.”

2)  Then take time to do a feelingization (go to www.soulmatesecret.com and scroll down to the Love Magnet video) to move from your monkey mind to your heart and begin to feel love, appreciation and gratitude.  Remember, you attract MORE of what you are grateful for!

3)  Now create a positive affirmation that FEELS GOOD IN YOUR BODY.  Statements such as: I am a kind and loving being or I am grateful for all the love in my life right now.  Whatever statement feels most natural to you.  Write these on post-it notes and place where you can look at them daily.

I want to suggest that those of you who truly, deeply desire a soulmate (or a new career or whatever) that you begin to let go of your doubts of what is possible for you…..remember that the word “impossible” is really “I’m possible.”

One of my favorite quotes in Wayne Dyer’s book, WISHES FULFILLED, is from the great teacher, Neville, who said “Make your future dream a present fact by assuming the feeling of the wish fulfilled.”

I strongly encourage you to write this down and look at it daily. You deserve love and the one you are seeking is ALSO seeking you.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Possible Love Turbulence Coming

I was talking to my dear friend Carol Allen, Vedic astrologer extraordinaire, the other day and she shared with me about upcoming planetary conditions that will be affecting a lot of love lives…. I invited her to write this guest blog to shed some light on what to expect:

carol_closeup_400Celestial Storms Ahead – What To Do…

Have you ever been excited to know what astrology can tell you, but scared at the same time?

Your chart might say that guy you like is all wrong for you…

Or that this isn’t your year to find love…

Or that trouble is headed your way…

Who wants to hear that? But it’s exactly for that very reason you SHOULD consult the stars.

It can be incredibly helpful to know!

You like knowing when it’s going to rain so you can bring an umbrella.

You get medical tests to find out as early as possible if something is wrong, so you can FIX it and avoid MUCH BIGGER problems later.

Astrology works like that.

Which is why I feel I should warn you about what’s going on this month, and into September…

TOUGH “CELESTIAL MOJO” IN AUGUST AND SEPTEMBER…

In the next month a stressful “celestial storm,” and all of our patience and goodwill, will be tested – both at the personal level, and on the world stage…

The most difficult indicators (the planets Mars and Saturn, and the “nodes of the Moon” called Rahu and Ketu – eclipse points that bring incredible impact) are all activating one another to their highest degree, in dramatic, intense signs, starting this week and lasting into mid-September, causing incredible stress and tension.

Not only that, but at the end of the month Mercury, the planet of communication, goes retrograde.

Then on September 1st, the Sun will be partially eclipsed in the sign of Leo… followed by a lunar eclipse a couple of weeks later, making us all extra sensitive.

As if that weren’t enough, the planet of love, grace, and diplomacy – Venus – goes into its weakest sign (Virgo) on the 24th of August where it stays until September 19th, making it hard for many of us to face the strain with our best behavior.

WITH EVERY STORM COMES A GIFT  

So, should we all draw the shades and hide under the covers for the next few weeks?

Of course not… but we FOR SURE need to be more loving and patient with ourselves and everyone else…

Each of us will personally be affected differently – some more than others.

These combinations – especially all happening at once – can be very rough on our relationships, and make it a difficult time to meet someone new.

This is when misunderstandings abound, patience runs thin, and tempers flare.

The good news? This is a powerful time to realize what needs to be changed or healed in our lives and hearts (as our “weak links” become more pronounced, giving us greater insight).

And this is a perfect time to REALLY see what you need to know about yourself and others, and get clarity about your love life. (This is when everyone’s mask comes off, so you get to see who they REALLY are.)

And astrology can help!

You see, we all come “preloaded at the factory” with weaknesses and strengths in our “capacity” to love – and knowing what you most need to feel your best, can help you navigate challenging times (and people!) with much less drama, and far more joy.

Amazingly, the ancient texts of Vedic astrology reveal simple techniques to uncover just this – strengths and weaknesses in LOVE CAPACITY…

If you’d like to know JUST what you need to do to feel your best at all times (even during a stressful “stellar stack up”), or just what you need to know about the “special someone” you’ve been seeing or thinking about, check out a report (The “Chart Your Heart” or “Chart HIS Heart” report) that can tell you what you need to know…

Is he too independent, angry, sensitive, workaholic, unconventional for a full relationship, or should you give it more time?

Are you accepting yourself and building yourself up to be your best, or do you keep thinking you should be someone else (someone stronger, more easy-going, and more fun than you)?

The intensity of the next few weeks could bring us all “make or break” moments… and this report can help you navigate them with as much awareness and ease as possible…

Of course, if you find you’re never your best self with someone (and neither are they) in spite of your strong feelings or attachment to them, the ancient techniques of Vedic astrology when it comes to relationship compatibility are astonishing… going WAY beyond whether or not you’ll “like” each other, but actually revealing if you can FEEL good together, and energetically bring forward each other’s best…

This is the perfect time to discover this as well!

 

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

 

P.S. LAST CHANCE this year to spend the weekend with me….If your heart’s desire is to manifest the love of your life, and you are willing to dedicate your time, attention and intention to making it happen, then I invite you to join me August 19-21 at the beautiful Omega Institute to discover how to quickly and easily make it happen! Special powerful rituals will be done.

Love, Longevity & Toxic Thoughts

me&Br caveIf you are reading this, it’s likely you are someone who is committed to a healthy, spiritual lifestyle of meditating, yoga, exercise, practicing loving kindness and eating organic, non-GMO foods. Chances are you are focused on supplying your life and your body with things that have the highest-level of nourishment. What you probably don’t know is that there is something that quickly wipes out the benefits of all of this…. Having toxic and judgmental thoughts about your spouse!

 

Research shows that these negative emotions and thoughts actually suppress your immune system.

 

The latest science now shows that the #1 thing that will extend your life and contribute to the quality of your life, for many years, is a happy marriage!

 

Known as “the marriage effect” it’s now proven that happily married couples are:

  • More likely to live longer.
  • More likely to be physically and mentally healthier and happier.
  • More likely to recover from illness quicker and with greater success.

 

And for men, this is really important to know:

A 2007 study found that the rate of death of single men over age 40 was twice as high than that of married men. Marriage for men is a lifesaver.

 

And for those of you of the generation that would prefer to shack up over getting legally married, you need to know that living together is not the same as being married to each other. It was found that happy couples who are living together in a committed, unmarried relationship don’t receive the benefit of The Marriage Effect.

 

When I asked Harville Hendrix  (love expert extraordinaire, whom Oprah calls The Marriage Whisperer) about it, he explained that it has to do with safety and security. On the unconscious level, those committed but unmarried couples do not experience the same level of safety that married couples do.  Safety is one of our most profound human needs.

 

What about those couples who lived together for years very successfully but then got married and soon divorced? Harville says the reason stems from the emergence of the real work of marriage only after we take those sacred vows. It seems that we have to work for our security, but the pay-off is longevity and a more stable lifestyle.

 

More good news:  Sex can save your life!  Just as you commit to eating right and exercising for your well being and health, it’s important to make sure you are having sex…. the more the better.  According to leading sex expert and researcher, Dr. Pepper Schwartz of the University of Washington, studies shows that for women, sex provides lower anxiety, more vitality, a higher quality of life all while building immunity.

 

For men, sex one time a month of more will reduce his risk of dying by 60%.  The men who had sex twice a week (or more) were least likely to die and sex provides protection for men against cancer and heart disease.

 

Bottom line:  A happy, sexy marriage is one key to a long, satisfying healthy life.  Add this to the top of your program and watch what happens!

 

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

 

P.S. If your heart’s desire is to manifest the love of your life, and you are willing to dedicate your time, attention and intention to making it happen, then I invite you to join me August 19-21 at the beautiful Omega Institute to discover how to quickly and easily make it happen! (This is the only time this year I am offering this weekend workshop.)

Do You Feel Worthy of Love?

Have you noticed that, when you are feeling good about yourself, you naturally attract great people? Not just potential partners, but wonderful, interesting people.

Until we feel truly worthy – deep inside – of the love we desire, we won’t feel worthy of love on the outside. And when we aren’t revealing the truth about ourselves, that we ARE worthy of love, we develop patterns that prevent us from having the loving relationship we want and need. And when we do find a good relationship, we find ways to sabotage ourselves. Why would anybody do that

The pain caused by repeating these patterns is almost unbearable. And each “repeat” experience makes us feel less and less worthy of not only the love we deserve, but the abundant life we deserve.

_J7U3611rI’m so excited that my friend Nancy Levin has written a new book that digs into the roots and weeds out the old patterns that cause us so much suffering… opening us to receive the love and life the universe has in store for us.

Here is a taste of Nancy’s wonderful new book, Worthy: Boost Your Self-Worth to Grow Your Net Worth

When I use the term “net worth,” I really mean the degree of richness, juiciness, and fulfillment you have in all areas of your life, not just your bank account. Do you feel rich in your relationships? Do you have a wealth of activities you enjoy?

When we fear that we aren’t enough, or that we aren’t good enough, we also fear that we’ll never have enough. That fear is a self-fulfilling prophecy, in which we unconsciously make sure we never, ever have all that we need. It’s a painful arithmetic going on in the shadows of our unconscious, which many of us never even recognize.

Until we feel worthy – deep inside – of the great life we desire, we develop sabotaging patterns that prevent us from having the love, money, time, energy, health, joy, freedom we want and need. These habits are tenacious because they’re created by limiting, shadow beliefs that took hold in childhood, like “I’m not good enough” or “I’m not lovable” or “There’s something wrong with me.” At the foundation of all these beliefs is “I’m not worthy.” The belief of unworthiness drives our behaviors in all sorts of ways. The mash-up of money, love, and self-worth issues starts early – and that’s why we have to start by uncovering those old worth issues from childhood. If we don’t unwind the tangle of emotions and beliefs and fears that got encoded back then, we’ll stay stuck right where we are.

Here’s an exercise you can do right now to begin untangling and to reinforce the rewiring around your inherent worthiness!  Spend a few minutes with each question before writing anything down.

  • Ask yourself: “What’s the loudest message I’m receiving now about love?” Just listen for the message. Allow yourself to remember when you first heard that message. Do you know whose voice gave you that message? Write down a few notes about what you heard and remembered.
  • Ask yourself: “What is my first memory about love?” Allow any pictures to come to you. Maybe it’s the first time you understood there was a thing called “love.” Write a few notes about this first memory.
  • Ask now to remember a scene in which your parents/family related to love in some way with you, with each other. Write down what you remember.
  • Now go through the notes you took and identify what beliefs you think you developed as a result of what you remember.  Write them down.
  • Pick one belief to work with here and let yourself see a time you experienced a counter-example to that one belief. Come up with a time in your life when that one belief was proven untrue. Make some notes.
  • Now allow yourself to create a new positive, empowering belief to replace the old one. Write it down. Write it on your mirror in lipstick or dry erase marker. Put it on a sticky note on your laptop. Have an alarm go off on your phone several times a day and read it.

Once we’ve healed our internal wounds around worth, and we finally know we deserve all we desire, we open up to receiving the limitless love the universe has in store for us.

_worthyNancy will take you on a deep-dive into knowing and owning your worth that will forever expand what you believe you’re capable of! With Nancy’s gentle but firm guidance, you’ll do the internal work needed to replace feelings of unworthiness with a solid sense of your own value.

And the benefits will feed your heart. When you claim your worth and take back your power – financial and otherwise – get ready to watch amazing things start to happen! Everything you desire is within reach!

Get Nancy’s new book, Worthy: Boost Your Self-Worth to Grow Your Net Worth, today and you’ll also receive 5 exclusive bonus gifts that she created just for you!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. If your heart’s desire is to manifest the love of your life, and you are willing to dedicate your time, attention and intention to making it happen, then I invite you to join me August 19-21 at the beautiful Omega Institute to discover how to quickly and easily make it happen! (This is the only time this year I am offering this weekend workshop.)

Love, Life and What Is Most Needed

One day, many years ago, Brian and I were in Tiffany’s, simply browsing all the pretty shiny and sparkling things.  As we looked through the glass cabinet at a diamond bracelet, a very elegant man in a suit, behind the counter, asked if I would like to try it on.  I immediately said to him: “Oh no thanks, I certainly don’t need anything like this.”

His instant reply floored me: “Madam, this is not about “need,” this is all about “want.”

He was right, and in that moment he gave me a distinction I had never thought about: the difference between “need” vs. “want.”

Our basic needs: air, food, water, shelter, security are obviously the most important ones and essential to life.

But, what about everything else?

Some examples:

cars2I want to eat cheesecake, red velvet cupcakes, macadamia nut chocolate chip cookies and gobs of pasta.  I am gluten and sugar sensitive, so I need to eat healthy foods. The choice is up to me.  My “wants” can hurt me.

I want to drive the big, expensive Tesla sedan.  And, I work from home and only need a very small car to get to the market in.

Now, does that mean I can’t ever have my “wants?”

No, of course not, but knowing the difference is very useful when making decisions (And, I indulge my sweet tooth nearly every day, but I limit myself to 3 small bites.)

For those of you seeking your soulmate, it’s often hard to discern between a want and a need.  One way to do it is to ask yourself this question: “Will this want/need contribute to my long-term happiness?”  If this answer is yes, then I would put it in the “need” category.

I have learned over the years that the more I let go of my “wants” and get comfortable and committed to handling my needs, knowing that I always have “enough” makes my life easier, more fun and certainly more peaceful.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

 

P.S. If your heart’s desire is to manifest the love of your life, and you are willing to dedicate your time, attention and intention to making it happen, then I invite you to join me August 19-21 at the beautiful Omega Institute to discover how to quickly and easily make it happen! (This is the only time this year I am offering this weekend workshop)