Powerful Affirmations for Manifesting

If you want to amp up and enhance your manifesting powers, I suggest having a daily practice of affirmations. Your thoughts and words are literally declarations of who you think you are and how you perceive the world to be.

Every time you think a negative thought or you make a self-deprecating comment, you’re actually affirming those negativities as your personal truth, because your subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between what you think or tell it or what has actually occurred.

Our subconscious minds accept our commands, what we’re thinking and saying. They accept it as reality.

The amazing Louise Hay really sums it up perfectly when she says, “No matter what the problem is, our experiences are just outer effects of inner thoughts.”

So, to put it another way:

Your beliefs are your blueprint for the world. If you’re having a negative thought such as, “I’m not good enough,” it’s not possible for you to experience happiness or pleasure because you are believing that you’re not good enough or that you’re not lovable enough or that you’re not beautiful, smart, strong enough. This is like giving yourself a life sentence. It gives you no room for any other possibility. Remember to NOT believe every thought that you have and to uplift and change your thoughts with positive affirmations.

I have affirmations on post it notes around my home and office and I look at them often.

Below is a sampling of some affirmations that you can customize for yourself:

  • I always enjoy being vibrant, healthy, energetic, and strong.
  • My life is abundant in every way.
  • I am enjoying living in my ocean view home in La Jolla or somewhere better.
  • I am so grateful and excited that $20,000 has landed in my lap; this or something better.
  • I am celebrating feeling sexy and gorgeous at my perfect body weight of 135.
  • I am attracting more _______ into my life with love, ease and gratitude.

And, each week my accountability partner, Peggy McColl, and I exchange our affirmations for the week.  I always begin my note to her with: “Dear Peggy, I’m so excited and grateful to share with you that this week I manifested…” and then I list these things as if they have already happened.

We’ve been doing this for years and it is an awesome process!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. For those of you with a deep desire to manifest a soulmate…I want to remind you that your soulmate is ALSO seeking you! Come spend the weekend with me for my workshop at the beautiful spiritual retreat center, Omega Institute, in Rhinebeck New York August 25-27.  All the details are here.

Easy Feng Shui for Fabulous Spring Manifesting

It’s Spring ….yay!

For all of us who love the longer, sunny days, Spring has finally arrived.

This weekend our friend, Shawne Mitchell, came for a visit.  She is an expert who teaches Soul Style – Aligning Your Lifestyle with Your Soul. Part of her amazing books and programs include the art and science of Feng Shui. We were talking about ways to enliven the power places in our homes for Spring in order to boost love, money and health.

Here are a few of the juicy tips she shared:

LOVE – Spring is a great time for new, sensual, luxurious bedding, and for new lingerie and toys.  Why? Because Spring activates our sex hormones! And, consider painting the bedroom a fresh new color.

MONEY – First, place a pot of red geraniums by your front door to really activate abundance! Then, stand in your front door looking into your home, locate the far left corner or the NW quadrant of your home – this is your money corner. Add things such as gold coins, a brass pot for a plant or flowers (fresh, never dried) or a sterling silver tray – these items anchor in the frequency of abundance and money. It’s also a good time to create a money vision board or put up a painting or photograph that represents wealth and place in this section of your home.

HEALTH – Green live plants add vitality to your home and your personal health. You can put them all over the home, but they are especially enlivening in the kitchen and dining room. Then, create a special, sacred space for stretching, yoga, and meditation (and be sure to buy a new yoga mat or meditation pillow) as this will allow you to focus your energy on wellness.  Additionally, be sure to scent this space with lavender to de-stress.  And, if you are currently ill, place photos of yourself from healthier times as a reminder of who you really are.

Spring, the time of rebirth, is an optimum opportunity to rethink, recreate and re-envision what we most desire. Utilizing Feng Shui will help create the frequency of manifestation for you.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Do This When He Needs Space

Today I am excited to share with you a very special guest blog from relationship expert, Carol Allen, who will explain, in great detail, how to deal with your guy when he needs “space.”   Her wisdom and guidance are sure to enlighten you!

When it comes to love between men and women, there’s a dynamic that is very painful for both genders…

When men get close, they tend to pull back after a point to “replenish” their male hormones. But being close actually increases women’s hormones, so we don’t need to ever do this.

The closer we are, the better we feel.

In fact, estrogen is the super connector hormone that makes women naturally want to connect with everyone.

While men can be awesome connectors, even the most heart-centered guy will need his “alone” or “guy” time.

So they’ll withdraw. (Which – if you ask any relationship coach or expert – is the #1 complaint women have about men!)

If there’s a conflict, this need to withdraw is even greater.

Why? Because men get more overwhelmed by their emotions when there’s drama, and have higher heart rate, higher blood pressure, and become unable to reason or communicate well (this isn’t my opinion – this has been proven in the most rigorous, long-term relationship study).

They essentially get “flooded” by their own neurology, and this reeeeeeeally makes a guy shut down and go cold.

And then – the dynamic I mentioned kicks in: women get upset.

When women get upset, we tend to respond in one of two ways – we become either needy or angry. (Turning into a Bambi or a Banshee.)

And guess what? These are the two biggest complaints that men have about women – that WE are too emotional!

And so they shut down even more…making us even more desperate or ticked off.

So what’s a girl to do?

How you navigate this “Gap” between you and a man (which will come up – even with the happiest of soulmates) determines if you’ll ever get to your “happily ever after” or not.

Here are my favorite key tips to not let a temporary disconnection lead to a permanent one!

1.  Don’t Freak Out…

Many studies have found women to be more verbally aggressive than men. If a man has already indicated he needs space, it’s imperative you not push your agenda or attack him now. But this will make even your soulmate will RUN for the nearest exits.

2.  Turn to Support…

The best remedy for disconnection is connection. But don’t look to your guy to provide it now. If they need space, it’s loving and healthy to let them have it. Call on friends and loved ones to fill the gap.

3.  Take Care of Your Body…

Eat right, get a good night’s sleep, and exercise. As simple as it sounds, making sure you get proper nutrition (avoid caffeine!), rest, and exercise can make a massive difference. There are holistic sleep aids (supplements and teas you can get at any health food store), and breathing techniques to calm your mind and restore your sanity.

4.  Be a Pleasure Pig… (I learned this term in Arielle’s recent book, Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate, and just love it!)

Do nice things for yourself that will have the added benefit of releasing “happy” hormones and neurotransmitters in your brain. Take a bath, get a massage, hug a cat. (Just don’t do all three at once…) Making yourself happy will act as a “love magnet” to your mate, taking the pressure off the situation, and allowing them the room to have their process. They’ll thank you for it later!

5.  Be Assertive, But Not Passive or Aggressive…

The hardest thing in times of disconnection is not knowing what’s happening, causing us to fear the worst. Thoughts like, “When will we be close again?” “Is he coming back?” can be just agonizing. It’s okay to let the other person know that you need some kind of reassurance or feedback, just be sure to do so in a respectful, loving way.

6.  Have Faith…

Feelings are contagious. Believe in your love, and your partner will, too. Do one of Arielle’s “Feelingizations” and visualize the positive reconnection you long for with the outcome you want, while conjuring the feeling of joy in your heart. This will make you believe it all the more, making it much more likely to happen.

If you follow these simple steps, soon your soulmate will no longer be distant, and your challenges will instead be a distant memory… Ahh.

If you could use some support and making sure you don’t let your emotions ruin your relationship, then check out Carol’s upcoming free call tomorrow night, Navigating the Gap – Be Happy Anyway & Lure Him Back. She’ll share more tips and tools for avoiding this painful, sometimes tragic dynamic… and a free ebook, “Return to YOURSELF” she wrote on how to climb out of the Gap if you’ve fallen down into one.

This is the number one challenge couples face – but you really do have the power to avoid this in the first place, or turn it all around and become close again. Carol can help.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

 

Learning to Love The Unlovable

Some people are easier to love than others.

It’s easy to love the people who love, support, and nurture you.

The ones that accept you for who you are.

The ones that will always be there for you.

And then there are the difficult ones.

The judgmental and sometimes downright mean ones.

The ones that drive you crazy and/or make you miserable or both!

I once heard Marianne Williamson describe it this way:

If you saw a small child fall down and skin their knee, you would quickly wrap your arms around them and give them comfort.  But when an adult is acting out and misbehaving or being cruel, we can’t see the wounds that are the source of their pain and actions.

Most of the time, whatever they are doing or saying, has little to do with you, they are acting out of old pain, disappointment, etc., and you have become the unfortunate victim of their history.

The challenge for me (and many of us) is that when these people are related to us, we need to find a way to stay open to loving and accepting them.

And most importantly, forgiving them.

Not an easy task.

One of my favorite processes in my spiritual tool kit, one that harnesses the power of forgiveness while being wonderfully healing, is called Ho’Oponopono.

It can be utilized not only for forgiveness, but all kinds of emotional healing and reconciliation.  I first learned about it from Joe Vitale and his book Zero Limits.

So, what is this miraculous thing, Ho’Oponopono?

It’s crazy easy and simple to do. You begin by taking full responsibility for what is going on.  Then, close your eyes and imagine that you and this difficult person are one and say to yourself:

I love you, please forgive me, I’m sorry, and thank you.

Ho’oponopono is based on the idea that anything that happens to you (or that you perceive) and the entire world where you live, is your own creation and thus, it is entirely your responsibility.

One hundred percent, no exceptions.

What has happened is your responsibility AND, it doesn’t mean it’s your fault – it just means that you are responsible for healing yourself in order to heal whatever or whoever it is that appears to you as a problem.

You simply repeat these four simple phases several times:

I love you, please forgive me, I’m sorry, and thank you.

I find that when I do this (sometimes I do it everyday), it really makes a difference.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

 

What’s Your MISERY set point?

Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about the inevitable “aging and decaying process.”

I witness my own body and mind as I struggle with various aches, pains and wrinkles, as well as that of my friends and family.

There are days when I just hate it.  I cringe, complain, whine and moan….

In spite of knowing that I often do the best I can to offset the reality of time and gravity, I began to ask myself “why do I have so much resistance to what is so?”

I realize there no use in being miserable over things that I don’t have a lot of control over.

The last time I was in this deep of a quandary, I was in my mid-twenties.

I was severely depressed and having suicidal thoughts, I was on medication, and seeing a shrink.

In one of our sessions she said the most dreadful and life-changing thing to me: “I don’t think you are depressed enough.”

WTF?????

I couldn’t imagine being even more depressed than I already was.

Getting out of bed to go to work took every bit of effort I had.

Her words haunted me and as I thought about them I realized that I had to be willing to dive into the deepest, lowest depth of my depression and be willing to see what happened.

So I did.

And I discovered that not only could I survive being at the lowest possible point, allowing myself to go there gave me the motivation to fight my way out of it with everything I could muster.

I committed to figuring out how to heal myself and I realized that I needed to focus on how to be happy instead of focusing on how not to be depressed.

It didn’t happen overnight.

It actually took a few years.

But, what did change, was that I let go of the fantasy of finding the “magic bullet” fix.

I decided to begin to study the happy people that I knew (this was long before the internet or Google) and it worked.

I discovered how to take baby steps.

I learned to appreciate the moments, or hours, and eventually days and months when the depression lifted.

And slowly I transformed.

Whatever level of misery you are experiencing, the way out is through.

Feel it. Heal it. And most importantly focus on how you MOST want to feel – even if it means faking it until you make it.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

CUPID is searching for you!

Is it your dream to find a soul mate?

A life-partner who will love, cherish and adore you?

This wonderful Universe of ours is set up to deliver the people and things we draw to us that are consistent with our personal belief system.  If you don’t believe you will ever find the ONE, then, guess what?  You get to be right …you probably won’t. If, however, you learn to believe that the ONE is not only out there, but is ALSO LOOKING FOR YOU, then true love can be yours.

When I was in my early forties, I decided to manifest my soulmate using everything I had ever learned about manifestation, psychology, spirituality, and the Law of Attraction.   And it worked. I met my husband, Brian, who has exceeded all of my desires and expectations. And now, 20 years later, he was and still is everything I ever wished for.

What if I told you that it’s not your job to know HOW your soul mate is going to appear? What if I told you it’s only your job to be ready, willing and open to love. Think about it this way: you really don’t know where air comes from, but you do believe that it’s always there for you, right?

The same is true for love.  It’s there for you.  It’s always been there for you.  You just need to remember the love that you are and once you do, the Universe will deliver to you the perfect soul mate.

The basic Law of Attraction states that you will attract to you those things that match your state of belief. Believing that your soul mate is out there is critical to the preparation of manifestation.

To manifest your soul mate, here are the ten top things to do and remember:

  • Be the loving person that you are. Find ways to express more love to everyone in your life.
  • Live in the knowingness that you are in a loving, committed relationship.
  • Live that truth every day as you savor the waiting for your beloved to arrive.
  • Create a “vision map” of your romantic vision and look at it daily.
  • Write a list of the most important qualities your soul mate will possess.
  • Heal your heart of any past hurts that will prevent you from magnetizing big love.
  • Clear out the clutter in your home and create space for your beloved (especially in your closets).
  • Create an altar in the relationship corner of your home.
  • Listen to your intuition to take action when opportunities present themselves.
  • Fall in love with yourself. Know that you are lovable.

Big love is possible for anyone of any age if you are willing to become a magnet for love.  Continue to live each day in the knowingness that you are in a loving, committed relationship as you savor the waiting for your beloved to arrive.

The “secret sauce” to manifesting everything and anything is to move from your head and into your heart and I have a bunch of new (and free) Feelingizations™ for you at www.soulmatesecret.com – just click on the “free stuff” tab!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

My Valentine’s Gift to YOU!

Happy Valentines Day – whether you are single, with the love of your life, or somewhere in between, I am waving my magic wand over you and sending blessings for a lifetime of deep, heart-opening, soul-stirring love for you (today and every day).

When I first married my soulmate, Brian, I was pretty clueless about what it takes to make a marriage totally awesome and amazing. What I didn’t know was shocking (!) and I often hoped someone would give me the comprehensive guide for growing and sustaining our soulful connection.

So, I became a student of love, scouring the world for wisdom from Love Masters, determined to create a one-stop resource for deepening communication, navigating common conflicts that come up, and keeping passion sizzling when the ho-hum of life sets in.

Now you can benefit from my findings, because next week I’ll be streaming 25 relationship seminars with the world’s top love experts – at no charge!

Join me February 18 – 20 for The Art of Love Relationship Series and take your relationship from ho-hum to hotter than ever!

It’s totally FREE! Sign Up Here.

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

Manifesting Magic in 26 mins. (NEW no-cost video from me)

Here is a simple fact:

The Law of Attraction is ALWAYS working, whether you are focusing on it or not. The vibration of your thoughts and beliefs and feelings are constantly co-creating your reality with the Universe…

As a student of the Law of Attraction for more than 30 years, I still need to stay aware of my thoughts & beliefs and “manage” them.  It is easy to let our monkey mind take over and fill us with negative thoughts.

For the launch of my new coloring book, Inkspirations: Love By Design Coloring the Divine Path to Manifest Your SoulmateI created a free 26-minute video (bookmark it when you get there) on how to use the Law of Attraction for the best results and I want you to have access to it here.

On this site, you will see pages from the coloring book and then scroll down to the box to fill in your name to get free access.

Remember, the Universe has your back, and the Law of Attraction works, but not always on the timetable we are hoping for, so never give up!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. Today is the official publication date of my book… If you buy the book NOW, it will help me reach my goal of being #1 on the Amazon Adult Coloring book list. ☺

Invite God To Help You Manifest

There are many different ways to pray and I believe one of the most powerful and effective ways are prayers of gratitude.

Here is a beautiful letter to God I received from a woman named Mona, from India, and I am excited to share it with you today:

Dear God,

I love you!

I offer deep gratitude for this precious life I am blessed with. Thank you for “me being me.”

At this moment, I rest in the knowing that I am a spitting image of you in spirit. You manifest through me. You ARE me!

To say that I am not good enough is to say that you are not good enough. And how can that ever, ever be possible?

I seek solace in that restful place of limitless unconditional love, divine peace and pure wisdom within me, that is my own personal temple of you. Here, I easily and effortlessly place each fear of my heart, each doubt of my mind, to be taken away from me. At this moment, I surrender myself exactly the way I am to you. 

While I rest in my most natural state of love in this temple, I let myself revitalize in body, mind, and spirit. I rediscover myself as a spark of your creativity, which makes me a unique and spectacular creation! I freely and easily love myself exactly as you love me…

And as I go about playfully exploring my inner universe only to find that I see your love everywhere, I also discover that you’ve set aside another spark of your creativity, another of your most enchanting creations, essentially and exclusively for me to gift myself to.

I rest in the deep knowing that you have already blessed me with a love that goes far beyond all my expectations and is unimaginably beautiful. I am reassured beyond doubt that you have created my unique and perfect match.

In not yet being reunited in flesh with my perfect match, it is not that I’m unworthy of your choice. I recognize humbly that it is your way of letting me discover my own uniqueness before I seek someone else’s. The challenges I see in my outer universe are but a reminder from you that I am indeed as expansive and empowered as you’ve made me.

I rest back in my comforting inner silence through which you speak to me every moment; even this very moment, to guide me to my perfect match in a way that will most uniquely help me discover that love inside me which I so deeply desire to gift.

Thank you for the gift of my unmatched life and unconditional love.

In this moment, I believe…

Love and gratitude,

Mona

I was deeply touched by Mona’s letter – her sincerity, trust, and gratitude are so evident and clear.  She is vibrating on a high level of love!  If it feels right for you, try writing your own letter to God for whatever desire you are working on to manifest.

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. Color your way to LOVE with my new coloring book, Inkspirations Love by Design: Coloring the Divine Path to Manifest Your Soulmate.

What’s Your Blind Spot?

Have you ever gone looking for something (keys, glasses, etc.) only to discover, after much searching, that the keys were just where you left them, or your glasses were on top of your head?

It happens to me all the time.

Sometimes we are right in front of something (like our potential soulmate, our new career move, the funding source we need) and we just don’t see it.

It’s because we have a belief. It could be that we don’t believe we have the answer or we believe the answer needs to look like something else.

There is an actual word for this condition – it’s called a “schotoma.”  Blind spots!

A Sample of Schotoma

imagesCount the number of the letter “F” in the statement below:

FINISHED FILES ARE THE RESULT

OF YEARS OF SCIENTIFIC STUDY

COMBINED WITH THE

EXPERIENCE OF MANY YEARS OF EXPERTS.

How many did you count 3?  5? There are actually 7!

The answer was right in front of you and yet you didn’t see it.

Don’t worry, most people do this. (I’ll tell you where they are in the P.S. if you don’t figure it out 🙂

In order to manifest your heart’s desire, you need to really believe in the possibility of it.  And, then be open that the answer might be right in front of you.

Or next door to you.

Or coming in a package you never expected!

As Deepak Chopra says, “your desire comes with the seeds of its own fulfillment!”

Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,

Arielle

P.S. Chances are, you missed the “F’s” in the word “of.”

P.P.S. Color your way to LOVE with my new coloring book, Inkspirations Love by Design: Coloring the Divine Path to Manifest Your Soulmate.

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